Is it possible for Men and women to be just friends?

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   whispers of faithposted 10 years ago

   Is it possible for Men and women to be just friends?
   
   Can two members of the opposite sex just hang out and watch a movie together without the pressure of sex?

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   Aime Fposted 10 years ago

   For sure. I've always gotten along better with men. I have hobbies and interests that are typically 'male' and I think my general attitude and sense of humour is just sort of... masculine. Most of my close friends are men and there's no weird sexual tension, I'd think of them more like brothers than romantic interests.
   
   I'm married so I suppose it's easier to weed out those guys in my life who had alterior motives (and some of the guys I thought were friends did just disappear once I got pregnant - I guess that signalled the end of any hope). Luckily my good guy friends are very respectful of the fact that I have a family and am not a single girl that can possibly be wooed. Though I also believe that we've established a solid enough friendship that they wouldn't want to woo me even if I were single!

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   Kiss andTalesposted 10 years ago

   Yes you can if you are around the same frame of mind in a guy.
   But be true to yourself,  we are living in a sex crazed world, TV, movies,  music,  overwhelms the subject , and may work in odds against you, where you may have a nice thought of being friends , the other person could start out your same frame of  thought , but end up on another. Best to just double date , group up with others as chaperones , have a nice time without the pressure of the subject. And learn about the person before you engage yourself,  sex is serious even though people treat it like a snack to taste. Then they move on to the next.
   It was not created for that purpose ,that is why there is so much bad results and endings in relationships . To soon for the subject.

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      whispers of faithposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thats how i feel... and i worry because sometime i tend to make jokes or comments concerning sex. sometimes i bite my tongue in fear that i will send the wrong message and mess everything all up.

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      Kiss andTalesposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Wisper. It good that you know it's wise to say and do the proper thing
      Jworg has some good advise for young people , who ask the same questions and experiences , check icons young people ask.
      Should be at bottom of page, videos will be most helpful.

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   tsmogposted 10 years ago

   Most Certainly. Age and maturity may enter the relationship as well as experience. Openness for defining the relationship with meaning is paramount IMHO. Change is inevitable, however placing trust in the agreed relationship with faith offers growth the relationship being based upon friendship while remembering and considering Mother Nature is Nature and also natural.

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      Kiss andTalesposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      True nature is natural , but wisdom of use is better, we can do it God's way as well  Generations have done things their way and suffer bad results , I have young Adults and half are not sorry for the cost they do not have to pay  .the bible works.

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   MarieLBposted 10 years ago

   I have a number of male friends, some of them I have known for 30 years or so, and there has never, ever been any sexual tension, not even if they are sleeping at my house.  Maybe it is because early on I made myself very clear about my position.  Would love to be friends - platonic friends - not any other type of friend.
   
   If they did show any inclination to introduce romantic notions, I would pleasantly tell them that it is definitely a no-goer, and never wavered.
   
   I enjoy having male friends in that kind of context - free of the tensions of sexual interest. Each sex brings something special to a friendship; and half the world's population is of a different sex than the other, so why should we be segregated?

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      whispers of faithposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks I have told several guy friends that I am strictly only looking for platonic friendship but I still get the vibe that maybe they are wanting more. and at that point im not sure if its just me or if they really are giving that vibe

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   Yes, Of Course. Like Aime, my hobbies are typically male. I enjoy fishing, hiking, camping, backpacking, and other male dominated outdoor things. It is hard to find other females who would truly enjoy a day of quiet fishing and drinking beer. My entire life most of my friends have been male. My best friend from toddler years through high school was male. Not one thing sexual ever happened. Of course there will be some situations where someone becomes your friend with hopes of something else, but as life events happen they usually weed themselves out.

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      whispers of faithposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Same here and most women are never available to do anything. they're usually taking care of kids or husbands. I recently got out of a 4 year relationship and seriously had no friends that were related to him. As I am branching out I am meeting guys

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      Kiss andTalesposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting in  that is the title of subject featured on one of our article , called " when courtship end" there is a young man's picture featuring the subject , Jworg is for the whole family, let me know was it helpful Wisper.

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      MarieLBposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      That's it @whispers of faith.  As peeples says, the ones who won't listen to your warning will soon ' weed themselves out' IF you are consistent, and pleasant about it. It may take time, but you will find some real nice guys who will be friends.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   If neither person finds the other physically attractive it's very easy to hang out! Even in situations where there is a "friend zone" thing going on rarely is there pressure to have sex because the person who wants more isn't willing to risk blowing the friendship.
   They'd rather suffer in silence and hope the other person initiates.
   On the other hand if the couple has had a sexual history in the past then it's much more likely one of them may be in the mood to "go there" again while spending time alone together.

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   M. T. Dremerposted 10 years ago

   I don't believe so. Chances are very likely that one person in that friendship is harboring feelings for the other. They might not be overwhelming/epic love feelings, but if the other person initiated something, the other would respond. There was a youtube video about it a while back where someone asked this question of college students and they all admitted that their 'friend' would go out with them if asked (I'll post the link below).
   
   The only exceptions I've found is age and polite couple interactions with other couples. In other words, I could have a conversation with one of my wife's friends. However, we both agreed it would be awkward if I hung out with those women, just the two of us.
   
   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

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      Kiss andTalesposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I like how you bring out truth MT, especially the thought about wife and friends , I have a little chuckle for that because we realistically know that would be outer of place.
      also hidden agenda as you say. Because one may not say what one thinks.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      "but if the other person initiated something." - Very true! Especially if an attractive female friend flirts with a guy. Not many men are going to push her away for fear of ruining their friendship! Most women know their male friends won't reject

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