getting married. I wish I was single until now. I wish to turn back the clock if I could
Peachy - I remember you said somewhere that your Japanese grandmother was in an arranged marriage, and her husband ripped her off. Japan has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world, but apparently that doesn't mean they have better marriages???
People in Japan tell me this: the secret to a lasting marriage is don't get divorced. Their marriages are miserable, and they cope by heavy drinking plus adultery. It's all a matter of priorities.
GW - interesting! Even here in the US, Asians have the lowest divorce rates. They also have the lowest rates of domestic violence and substance abuse. I've always thought it was because of their devotion to specific roles, and maintaining honor.
Marrying my first wife!
However I learned a great deal about myself and what motivates people to do things for the wrong reasons.
Know yourself, love yourself, trust yourself!
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
Life is too important to make major decisions without complete awareness! Blaming others makes one powerless.
Accepting responsibility for one's choices is self-empowering.
The beautiful thing about life is we can learn from our mistakes and make better choices for ourselves in the future!
On the other hand if it's always the other person's fault it's the same as saying we have no control over our lives. We're likely to keep choosing the same types of mates over and over again.
"If it's on my plate I must have ordered it!" ;-)
You don't have to eat that meal if it tastes like crap.
Thankfully no one is "stuck" with anyone!
I wish I would have educated myself further after high school instead of getting married so young and starting a family because it takes two paychecks to make ends meet. I always had to work a dead end job.
I've made lots of choices I regret, but one that stands out is leaving Silicon Valley. I left because of the economic downturn in the early 1990s, and because I decided to make a career change. As a result, I racked up debts, and my attempts failed anyway. It also led me to join that cult.
Many positives came out of it, though. The Big Island of Hawaii has been very good to me, and I've achieved far greater success here than anywhere else. Still, I wonder what would have happened if I'd stayed in Silicon Valley, saved my pennies, and toughed things out.
I regret being and open and honest with people who couldn't handle the truth.
I also regret keeping my mouth shut when something needed to be said.
Nowadays I try to figure out whom to tell the truth to. My strategy is: find someone who can handle the truth and conspire with him to get something done about a situation. Those who can't handle the truth, just leave them out of the loop.
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