This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: "https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr"

Show Details
Necessary
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Features
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Marketing
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Statistics
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
jump to last post 1-6 of 6 discussions (22 posts)

What is your personal definition of marriage?

  1. elayne001 profile image83
    elayne001posted 2 years ago

    What is your personal definition of marriage?

    In some cultures, prearranged marriages are normal. My husband's sister and her husband only knew each other for one week. Now they have eight children and have done fine. Does love have to be part of marriage?

  2. Say Yes To Life profile image79
    Say Yes To Lifeposted 2 years ago

    Apparently not!  Love comes and goes, and being in love doesn't necessarily mean people will treat each other right.  John Denver was madly in love with Annie Martell; she was the love of his life, and it broke his heart when she finally left him, but look how he abused her.

    Congratulations for your sister-in-law and her husband!

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

    Marriage is two or more people legally joining together to build a life together. Laws vary from country to country or culture to culture.
    Does love have to be part of marriage? Clearly the answer is no. According to statistics there are lots of "emotionally divorced" and "sexless marriages".
    Some couples just decide to stay in unhappy marriages if they feel the benefits outweigh going through a divorce and starting over. They may even have an arrangement to discretely date other people or even become swingers.
    The most important thing is finding someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the marriage as you do, and naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things.
    Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!smile

    1. Austinstar profile image85
      Austinstarposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly the answer I would have given to this question. It's a legal agreement between people. It used to function as a genetic pool for breeding, but we don't need that anymore.

    2. Say Yes To Life profile image79
      Say Yes To Lifeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Austinstar - we don't need a genetic pool for breeding? How can we prevent two half-siblings having a child? (Half-siblings through cheating, polygamy, etc.)

    3. profile image0
      TheBizWhizposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Say yes. I thought the same thing but Austin does not respond 2 well 2 my comments. Also notice dashing defined marriage as 2 or more?

  4. profile image0
    TheBizWhizposted 2 years ago

    My definition of marriage is between a man and a woman who, I hope, love each other very much and want to start a life and a family together. But I would also think we should all have a million dollars in the bank, so what do I know.

    While your sister-in-law and her husband may be doing 'just fine' I hope they are also very happy.

    Great question by the way.

  5. connorj profile image81
    connorjposted 2 years ago

    https://usercontent1.hubstatic.com/12532084_f260.jpg

    Some will disagree; however, here it is. A matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, that is for the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring. Keep in mind, that This covenant has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Are you saying people of other faiths or those who practice no religion, their marriages aren't legitimate? Should people who can't have children or don't desire to have them not get married? What about seniors who want to marry?

    2. profile image0
      TheBizWhizposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      dashing, I didn't see where he said that a person had 2 believe n a certain faith. He just said the matrimonial covenant was raised by Christ as a sacrament. As 4 those that cannot have children, nothing in life is 100%, so I would consider the intnt

    3. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      BizWhiz, He said: "covenant has been raised by Christ the Lord". If someone has different faith that does not believe in Christ or doesn't believe Christ was the lord they would appear to be excluded from his marriage definition.

    4. profile image0
      TheBizWhizposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      He is saying Christ created it. That doesn't mean it is limited to Christians only

    5. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      However if someone doesn't believe in Christ let alone that he created it then for them marriage has nothing to do with religion. The use of the photo of a priest also indicates he feels marriage is tied to Christian religion.

    6. profile image0
      TheBizWhizposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      If he did create it then he does have something to do w/ it. It still doesn't mean it is limited 2 Christians.

    7. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      BizWhiz , My point is marriage existed before Christianity!
      According to the bible there was no Christianity until after Jesus/Chirist and his disciples came along. Marriage had be alive and well long before then. I think we've worn this one out

    8. profile image0
      TheBizWhizposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Gotcha. No need to get heated.

    9. connorj profile image81
      connorjposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Not at all! Did I text that? No... Confused Scorpio, the question is: " What is your personal definition of..."

  6. aguasilver profile image77
    aguasilverposted 2 years ago

    Marriage, in Gods eyes, is defined by the equation:

    promise + consummation = marriage

    By that standard anyone can be married to each other, however God does also state that there are restrictions, one being "in the sight of the congregation" - but the 'congregation' can equally be friends not just your spiritual brothers and sisters.

    He also adds "in the sight of God" and there are certain 'marriages' that God does not condone and will therefore not attend.

    In legal terms it's simply a way to handle taxation and inheritance laws, it's purely a legal definition that allows for accurate book keeping financially.

    So differentiate between marriage approved and blessed by God and marriage approved and blessed by man and you have a solution for most situations.

    A Christian marriage is where God has presented the perfect partner for someone, (though that is not say they are perfect yet)  and they have agreed to observe Gods covenant with humanity.

    The man accepts that now two people have become one body, he is responsible to God for everything that happens in that marriage, whether he likes it or not, even if he delegates authority  to his wife, he is still responsible.

    Likewise the wife accepts that the husband is responsible to God for the marriage, and as such (he will bear the penalties if he lets it go wrong) also has the ultimate authority in the marriage.

    A wise husband knows that he would be foolish to ignore his wifes wishes, UNLESS to do so would be against what God has stated.

    Both partners should love Yeshua more than each other, then as they get closer to Yeshua, they will also draw closer to each other, as they both are drawn towards the same point: Yeshua.

    Marriage is not a game, it's Gods way of preserving the thing He loves most, the family, and ensuring a solid scriptural foundation for children to be nurtured in and protected.

    As most will see, the worlds definition of marriage varies greatly from Gods, with predictably bad results.

    Love has three levels; agape (unconditional love) / philos (intellectual love) and eros (physical love or lust) and all three will function in unity in a complete marriage, where each partners seeks to please the other.

    Men need respect, it's hardwired into them.

    Women need love.

    If either party fails to provide the others needs, there will be problems.

    As Forrest says, "That's all I have to say on the matter" (for now at least)

    1. Say Yes To Life profile image79
      Say Yes To Lifeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds great - except there are no perfect people.  It also doesn't explain why nondenominational Christians have the highest divorce rates, while atheists have the lowest.

    2. aguasilver profile image77
      aguasilverposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Like I said... they are not perfect yet, cos they are still living, but when they are known by and know Yeshua, then they have become eternal, and in eternity they are perfect.

    3. Say Yes To Life profile image79
      Say Yes To Lifeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      If their marriages last that long!  Like the old country western song said, "Forever wasn't as long as we planned..."

    4. aguasilver profile image77
      aguasilverposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Yoleen, the point is that IF God is in the driving seat, and in today's world, that is a big IF, then the marriage will last, for if He appointed it, blesses it and guides it, no 'man' can pull it asunder
      .

 
working