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Do men get angry when denied sex?

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    LoliHeyposted 2 years ago

    Do men get angry when denied sex?

    Suppose a male and female are attracted to each other and want to do it.  But after a little making out, the girl decides she is not ready.  So she leaves, after explaining that she is religious, not ready, etc.  She makes it known to the guy that she did indeed want him and likes him. However, the guy then leaves her alone and  blows her off.  Is he mad that he didn't get any, even if the girl had a plausible reason to not do it?  These people are not teenagers, they are in their thirties.

  2. herbacoachtommy profile image41
    herbacoachtommyposted 2 years ago

    Some men maybe would get angry,but I think men must try to understand and see this from her point of view.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

    People in their thirties as you described generally have sex because they want to or don't have it because they don't want to.
    There are very few 30+ year old virgins in the U.S. therefore it's likely the woman has had sexual experience and may have recently converted to her religious stance.
    In this scenario if the man is really heated up he may go home and "take care of himself" or he may look up another woman who is more than willing to participate in having sex with him.
    Very few 30 year olds expect "exclusivity" without sex.
    It's probably best for all concerned that he does not pursue her if he wants sex and she insists upon honoring her religion by not having sex out of wedlock. She's not the one for him and vice versa.
    The goal is to find someone who shares your same values!
    There is no "right" or "wrong" here. There is only "agree" or "disagree". People oftentimes spend too much energy trying to persuade someone to change to their way of thinking.
    Life is simpler when you find someone who (already) wants what you do and believes as you do.
    Attempting to "control" a relationship via sexual frequency seldom works. People eventually gravitate towards those who are like them.
    Even if it means cheating or committing adultery.

  4. MarieLB profile image81
    MarieLBposted 2 years ago

    This is such a complex issue Lolita Monroe.  Surely one cannot give a yes/no response.

    [1] I think no man has the right to force a woman to have sex with him, regardless of the situation.  A Man [with a capital M] has enough control over his urges to be able to do this, and argue the point later, maybe.

    [2] Whether he should get angry depends on the nuances of what went on before and leading up to that point.  A woman should be mindful that sex urges are powerful and it would be wrong to lead a man up to a pitch and then turn cold.

    [3] Having said that, I will go back to [1]. That does not preclude that the man will feel manipulated and get angry.  That is also his right, so long as his anger will not present itself in violence of any sort.  That is when a man truly deserves the title of Gentleman.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      No mention of force in this question. She said the guy gets angry and "blows her off" meaning never calls her again.
      “While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions”
      – Stephen R. Covey