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How do I break it off with a toxic friend?

  1. lisasuniquevoice profile image76
    lisasuniquevoiceposted 2 years ago

    How do I break it off with a toxic friend?

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  2. profile image56
    Monalisa Gwenaposted 2 years ago

    Friends are very important to us but sometimes when all they do is bring us down, it is best to let them go. sometimes it is best to talk about your issues with the person so that the relationship could be saved. A good way to do that is to find common grounds with the person so that it reminds you of why you became friends in the first place. if that doesn't work i would lose all contact with the person and write them a letter of why you can not be friends with them any longer. another good way is to just have an argument with them so you can finally get you feelings to them, it might leave things on a bad not but at least you would have said and done what is needed. I hope this helps a lot.

    1. lisasuniquevoice profile image76
      lisasuniquevoiceposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Monalisa,
      Thanks so much. This certain friend is bringing me down every time I see her or talk to her. I don't know why I became friends with her in the first place.  You make me feel like there is something I can do.
      Lisa

  3. Safari Chic profile image75
    Safari Chicposted 2 years ago

    Hello, I've had to break it off with a few toxic people in my life. This is the way that I have handled the situation. I would first limit my conversations with them to no more than a few minutes. You could say something along these lines. It was great catching up with you today; however, I must get back to work. The key is to set strong boundaries. Don't be afraid of standing your ground and saying No to their demands and requests. If this is someone that you work with and have to see everyday then keep the conversations strictly on a professional level. Don't share anything about your personal life with them. You already have weekend plans everytime they want to meet up for coffee or they want to catch a movie and if they insist on meeting up during the week, then you are too tired from work or you have to take your kids to baseball practice etc etc. Always have an exit line. They will eventually start getting the hint.

    1. lisasuniquevoice profile image76
      lisasuniquevoiceposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Marlene,
      I have just started the not being available thing. I'm not answering her calls most of the time, and I'm certainly not answering the door when she comes over unannounced.
      Thanks.

    2. realtalk247 profile image71
      realtalk247posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Great advice! People do get the hint.
      Sometimes I play with them though. How do you make a jerk out of toxic people? Feed their ugliness by telling them sad stories.  It's fun to watch people feel good at your "demise"That toxic friend confirmation.

  4. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

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    This is a very simple procedure: Simply disassociate and cut off all ties with them.  Actually, such people aren't really friends.  If they were friends, they would be toxic.  Friends are people who support, encourage, respect, and nurture each other.  Friends do not soul destroy, abuse, nor soul devour you.  Friends aren't haters but lovers.  If a person demonstrates negative or other psychologically, even psychically destroying characteristics, h/she ISN'T your friend!

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Error: 3rd sentence should have read,"If they were friends they would not be toxic.  Computer keys jammed yet again!

    2. lisasuniquevoice profile image76
      lisasuniquevoiceposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Grace,
      You're right this toxic person is not my friend. All I feel now is stressed-out from all of her demands. I can't sleep at night. I have to do something.
      Thanks,
      Lisa

    3. realtalk247 profile image71
      realtalk247posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Great advice.  Become a ghost.

 
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