Do you prefer getting married or been partner that live together?

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   peter565posted 7 years ago

   Do you prefer getting married or been partner that live together?
   
   In today's culture, marriage is no longer necessary, but most people still prefer to get married. Personally I prefer just having a partner I live with, rather then wasting a whole bunch of money on some wedding (even if I do get married, I would choose one of those cheap wedding where you get married in a court house or even better, in Asia, you don't even need a court house, you go down to the marriage register office and the girl working at the front desk give you a forum, you fill it out and two weeks later they mail you a wedding license and that is it)

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   BigBlue54posted 7 years ago

   When they use the words "you old romantic you" I think I should point out that there may be sarcasm involved, peter565.
   
   As American law and British law is similar then your partner may, to use an old phrase, be your common-law-wife. From this I pointed out to my partner's mother that she is my common-law-mother-in-law. That fair trips off the tongue.
   
   Living together as man and wife without getting married is not a new idea. Up until the 13th century all a man and woman had to do was declare that they were living together as man and wife and that was it. It was the Christian church who stepped in and changed all that because they were not happy about it. Of course the money they could earn forcing everyone to get married in church had nothing to do with it.
   
   Unlike in the past the reason to get married is no longer because everyone else does it. If you choose to marry then it is a real choice. And pick something you both like. Failing that pick something she likes.
   
   If you decide to get married then surprise her with something special. And not just a six foot sandwich from Subways.

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   peachpurpleposted 7 years ago

   I woyld rathet have a partner for life than to be married. I got 2 kids, both arr troublesome, homework not done, not eating healthy food, sleeping late, tons of housework. I wish i was single

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   Jeannieinabottleposted 7 years ago

   I am fine with people living together for a while, but it does seem like it is a good idea to get married at some point.  Legally, someone that is married to you has more rights if something drastic should happen. 
   
   For instance, when my uncle was hospitalized, the doctors were not that interested in having anyone but family members meeting with them and discussing his health issues.  Eventually they were OK with his girlfriend of many years being a part of it after we insisted.  You simply have more rights as a married couple if an emergency occurs.

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      BigBlue54posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I am assuming you are not in the UK because here it makes no difference.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   Having lived with women and being married to them from my observation there is very little difference.
   The same issues arise regardless of marital status!
   The only true advantage of marriage is entitlements/benefits in the event things go bad or wrong. In the event of a death money is easily transferred to the spouse. In the event of a divorce one person may end up paying money to the other as well as splitting up any assets accumulated over the years.
   Where as a cohabitating relationship that breaks up usually ends with both people walking away with boxes packed with whatever they came with or what is legally in (their) name.
   In the U.S. it is not uncommon to hear women in particular exclaim the following after a lengthy relationship end in a breakup:
   "After investing all those years (I have "nothing" to show) for it."
   For those types of women "commitment" means access to finances if things fall apart! It's not just about love, monogamy, and living together happily. Essentially marriage is a sort of government sanctioned prenuptial agreement that entitles the person with the least amount of means to get "something" if the marriage fails.

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