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My boyfriend is engaged to me he is taking his work topic to lightly how Cn I co

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    Amirsana786posted 2 years ago

    My boyfriend is engaged to me he is taking his work topic to lightly how Cn I convince him to work

    Becox I belong to an Indian community and we won't get married unles he starts earning how can I talk to him about this issue I have tried talking peacfully and calmly but he just says I wl do it its 2 years we r engaged he dint do nythng yet he is not earning at all his father has a business but he doesn't even go there despite his father telling him to manage the business

  2. Saerrah Adamseent profile image61
    Saerrah Adamseentposted 2 years ago
  3. Millionaire Tips profile image93
    Millionaire Tipsposted 2 years ago

    Find someone else. If he is this lazy now, he will always will be lazy. You deserve better.

  4. JLauren Angel profile image76
    JLauren Angelposted 2 years ago

    Your boyfriend is a jerk. Move on. Give back the ring and find someone who really cares about you. If he cared he would have made sure to earn money to please both you and your father. Lazy butts get nothing. Don't let him drag you down with his selfishness. There is more to life than lazy people and lazy people will always be this way. You can't change them!

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Just because someone is lazy or not career motivated doesn't necessarily mean they are a "jerk". However I agree with you that he doesn't sound like the "right guy" for (her). She should break off the engagement.

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    peter565posted 2 years ago

    A real man, is suppose to be like superman, a man of steel (at least on a psychology level), if you are not like that, you are less as a man.  As somebody whom also come from a wealthy family, I always laugh at the rich kids, that become spoil rich kids.  Why?  Come on, you are an adult and you are still relying on your parents financially?  That is just f***ed sad.  Especially if you are a man, if you are an adult male, still relying on your parents financially, you are less as a man.  You are half a man.  Even if you come from a rich family and don't need to work, still doesn't change the fact you are a pathetic piece of joke, that is an adult male relying on your parents financially, you are not a real man, you are a pussy. 

    Men like these doesn't deserve a real woman.  I myself, never dated, despite I am not a spoil rich kid, my mum is the type of parent you expect a spoil rich kids have. These parents are usually over protective parents and since the family is rich, they would indulge their children with money, because they can afford it, they are usually very much against their children from getting a job, because the family can afford for their kids not to work.  Whether the kids would become a spoil rich kid as a result, depends on people.

    I was planning to work and support myself through college and have no intention of taking money from home, since I turned 19. because that is the right thing to do, especially consider the fact, I am now an adult male.  As a result, my mum use to stand in front of the front door, with a kitchen knife, stopping me from going to job interviews, that is how much she was against it. It was WW3 at home 24/7 due to it. Despite, like any spoil rich kids parents, my mum give me a lot of money to do what I want, including dating girls, I never used it, for other then simple food, why? Because, adult male are not suppose to be still taking money from home and the fact my circumstances, was unusual, it doesn't change that, I didn't start spending money a bit more freely until a few years later, because I figure it wasn't my fault, I am in this position, but even then, I was still very conservative with spending and I never dated. 

    Now 10 years later, despite I am now spending my own money, have my own job, I still don't date. Because, despite it was my mum's fault, it doesn't change the fact, I couldn't become what a real man is suppose to be like, until I was 25.

    Your BF is not a real man, he is a pussy, dump him.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago


    This  proves the Beatles song: "All you need is love"; is crap!
    Not every person is going to be career motivated or money driven. Frustration usually occurs when someone attempts to "change" another person. Their mate also becomes resentful.
    You're better off finding someone who (already is) the kind of person you want to be with.
    Very few people are walking around with one hand raised in the air screaming: "I'm looking for someone to change me!"
    Most people want to be loved and appreciated for who (they) are. If either person has to make (major changes) to make a relationship "work" it means they've chosen the "wrong mate" for themselves.
    There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them as (is) or move on.
    The choice is up to us!
    Best wishes!

  7. Glenis Rix profile image98
    Glenis Rixposted 2 years ago

    Find a new boyfriend or resign yourself to poverty