Which one should you have married, the one you knew for years or the recent one

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  1. rexy profile image63
    rexyposted 2 years ago

    Which one should you have married, the one you knew for years or the recent one that you hardly know

    hint there are two sides to everyone but what is real love ..... really....

  2. profile image0
    LoliHeyposted 2 years ago

    I would never marry someone I hardly knew.  Who would do that?  That's asking for trouble.  I would want to know the person well.

  3. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 2 years ago

    the one i know for years, because we understand each other habits

  4. pattyfloren profile image77
    pattyflorenposted 2 years ago

    I would marry the one that fulfills my needs.  Just because I know someone well that doesn't necessarily mean that he's the one for me.  I could tolerate that person but not love that person.  People look for love in different ways and different places and sometimes fall in love for the first time.  It is then our responsibility to get to know that person before tying the knot or getting married.  Of course that love can result back into a pattern of sorts being tolerable and fallen out of love.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago


    With a divorce rate that hovers around 50% in the U.S. there are no guarantees that either scenario will lead to a "until death do us part"
    My guess is marrying someone you hardly know is equivalent to (on the job training). Not only are you adjusting to marriage but you're still learning about who you chose for a spouse. Unfortunately by the time you figure out they are not what you want in a spouse you have to jump through a series of expensive legal hoops to free yourself.
    Getting married during the "infatuation phase" of a new relationship may seem "romantic" but it's unrealistic to expect it to last.
    The first 3-6 months of (any new relationship) is filled with laughter, spontaneous cards/gifts/flowers, steamy sex, romantic dates, with both people bending over backwards to impress the object of their affection. The word "no" is seldom if ever used! Its only natural for an (inexperienced dater) to believe they have met their "soul-mate".
    Truth be told it's not until after both people have revealed their "authentic selves" and have had some major arguments which established their boundaries, expectations, and "deal breakers" that you are in a position to know whether or not you could spend the rest of your life with this person. Can you withstand your differences?
    Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
    Even with knowing a person there is still a chance somewhere down the line you may stop wanting the same things.
    We're either "growing together" or "growing apart".

    1. profile image0
      LoliHeyposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!---Good line!  Although like-minded people often give up, too.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      That's true but couples who want the same things and get along great tend to be happier and stay together longer than those who don't want the same things and argue all of the time. Who knew?! LOL!


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