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What are the advantages to getting married to your partner? or are there any?

  1. Victoria Lynn profile image91
    Victoria Lynnposted 6 years ago

    What are the advantages to getting married to your partner? or are there any?

  2. premsingh profile image59
    premsinghposted 6 years ago

    You can't share everything with everyone. Few things of confidential or private nature may be shared with your husband or partner,

    Burdens may be lessen by sharing with someone and this 'someone' may not be anyone better than your 'partner',

    Happiness may be shared with anyone but most of the people would be just jealous of your happiness. So real enjoyment of sharing happiness is with your partner or husband.

    There are various advantages like few shown above.

  3. Victoria Lynn profile image91
    Victoria Lynnposted 6 years ago

    Yeah, but that doesn't answer the question of "Why get married?" Or why even live together? We can be close to our "partners" without being married to them, can't we?

  4. lockgirl profile image59
    lockgirlposted 6 years ago

    I was married 3 times ( 2 times to the same man) I will never ever get married again. I have been living with my boyfriend for awhile now and neither of us want to ever get married again. In some ways marriage ruins the relationship. What my boyfriend and I have is a lot better. We are committed to each other without that piece of paper telling us we are together.

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    Arlene V. Pomaposted 6 years ago

    I was married for 14 years.  You pretty much make up your mind whether you're going to go through life living with someone or being single.  I was never one to see myself alone because I do like to share things like travel and other experiences.  I lived with my current husband for 7 years before I married him.  I was afraid of getting married again, and I was the one who didn't want to get married.  It's not that living together is about being able to leave at any time.  Personally, I had found a good man, a gentleman, and the best friend who never lets anyone down.  Unlike the men in past relationships, I could count on this man.  I married him because I could not see my life without him.  But this was my call to marry again, and it was a big decision for me because for years, I was scared.  The advantage?  I've lived with him for 7 years and have been married to him for 4.  The advantages are the same when it comes to married or living together.  Relationships are not work if you've made the right choice in a mate.  We are still together.  Marriage cements our relationship, but at the same time, we could have lived together instead.  It all depends on how you look at marriage.  Or not.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    The main advantages depending on where you live in the world are legal benefits. Some places won't allow you in the hospital room unless you are "family". Other things that would "automatically" be passed down to a spouse in the event your partner dies can be disputed by their family if nothing was never drawn up prior to their death.
    Case in point Stieg Larson author of the book "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo" which has recently been turned into movie died of a sudden heart attack. He lived with his partner Eva Gabrielsson for 32 years! They had been together since they were 18. Stieg has now sold 50 Million books and it appears a movie trilogy will be made from the "Tatto" books. Eva is entitled to NOTHING! After he died his family tried to force her out of the house they shared....etc See article for more details.
    http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/the-gi … 6091352850

    Aside from the legal advantages to getting married a commitment whether "on paper"  or "in the heart" is only good for as long as (both people want to be together). Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russell have been together for 28 years and never married.

  7. parentsreview profile image80
    parentsreviewposted 6 years ago

    This is a tough one, but I have a few answers:
    1. It's what people have done for so so so so long, SO...you have to!
    2. It's a legal contract, to share everything 50-50, or somewhere around there.
    3. I don't like grocery shopping or cleaning the bathroom.  She doesn't like mowing the lawn or taking out the trash.  It's mutually beneficial.
    4. If I can secretly kill her, I will get a boat-load of loot--just hope she doesn't kill me first.
    5. I guess, for love and children, and making sure they are all provided for, should anything happen, is also a possible reason.
    6. Finally, how else would I force her to stay, once she sees me for who I am(flatulence and all)?

  8. stariswhoiam profile image60
    stariswhoiamposted 6 years ago

    Well me being the hopeless romantic I am I'll answer... LOVE.
    Love is the greatest advantage to getting married because it's the highest step of commitment. You choose THAT person to marry out of everyone. If the person is the person that you're meant to be with and they're good to you, it is fulfilling just with the experience. At that moment that you marry, you choose THEM to be the person that you spend the rest of your life with. You get the pleasure of having a lot of company with that person, and new experiences influenced from being married.

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    canadianladyposted 6 years ago

    Hello Victoria Lynn,
    I lived with my now husband for 15 yrs, we only got married 2yrs ago. We decided to get married because we love each other and at our age who else would have us ? lol  Seriously though, it was a second relationship for the two of us when we met and we didn't want to make the same mistakes, We took our time, and through taking our time we found happiness and we got selfish and wanted to keep it so we got married Some say getting married will ruin happiness .Not so it gave us security,and strength. Yes there are other reasons pensions, property and health.
    The advantages we have are understanding each other, knowing that whatever life throws at us we can handle together. I hope this helps.

  10. smzclark profile image59
    smzclarkposted 6 years ago

    i think more than anything else, it gives you both stability and security and that little bit more confidence in your future together. and if you have kids then it definately makes them feel more stable. and for some reason, i don't know why it is, but i've found that since being married i've become more tolerant of all the small annoyances; because he's family now.

    i said to my husband not so long ago during a rough patch, ' if we weren't married, i'd dump you here and now'. and it was true. being married gives you the determination to work that little bit harder on your relationship. if my husband and i weren't married, i'd've gotten rid of him during that rocky time, but i'm so glad that i didn't...because i am sooo happy with him now and love him more than ever!

  11. cgwswh profile image54
    cgwswhposted 6 years ago

    It's a personal and moral decision for each individual. I personally love being married and going to bed each night then waking up each morning with my husband, knowing he is my committed, best friend, lover, spiritual partner. That's a personal advantage for me. Spiritual advantage for me is down deep in my own heart I am doing whats right for me. Although it may not be everyone else's cup of tea it is most definitely mine. From the stand point of financial advantage is that many companies do not allow "partners" to extend their insurance advantages to each other and sometimes that is can save a great deal of money in a household.  It really boils down to where you stand on various issues.
    Above all these you must have love to make it work, love truly does help with any situation.
    Good luck to you.

  12. lynnrich5 profile image53
    lynnrich5posted 6 years ago

    There is no answer to that question and if you have to ask yourself the question then you are not ready to get married.
    I use to believe in true love with my first husband. He passed away and when I got married to my second husband I was miserable except for the child we had between us. He cheated time and time again and Iied to me more times than I can count.
    My father was the same way to my mother so my outlook on true love and does it last forever, who knows but you always have be to Happy with yourself and who surrounds you. Never settle and always be True to yourself and others.

  13. rLcasaLme profile image73
    rLcasaLmeposted 6 years ago

    I'm a christian, so I'll answer this in a christian's perspective. if you really are sure about your partner, not getting married would be a selfish thing to make. Not getting married shows that a person cannot commit ever. Getting married will solidify the partnership, thus two flesh becomes one.
    If both are just thinking of their individual selves, then they both will not possibly able to commit in a partnership. It's like an accident waiting to happen. Each individual just anticipates and waits for someone to commit a mistake and then that's it, it's over.
    They will say, what's the use? the spark isn't there anymore. Love isn't something like food that when you're fed up eating it, you stop eating.
    The spark is only necessary for an engine to start running. While running, don't expect the spark to be there, you just keep on driving.
    When you're fed up eating a hotdog, you don't throw it away, you could put a ketchup on it, and a mayonnaise too.
    The advantage of it is it strengthens your partnership, make a more unified family, you'll have commitment to each other and to your kids. Together, you can do things better.