Do you still date the old fashioned way?

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   iggy7117posted 8 years ago

   Do you still date the old fashioned way?
   
   Where the man asks the lady out, picks the activities, and then pays for everything.

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   peter565posted 8 years ago

   A lot of people do online dating now, but what is the fun in that? I still like it better, approaching a girl maybe at a bus stop or on campus library and see what happen. More fun this way.

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      Michaela Osieckiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      As a girl, I just want to say that being approached by a stranger in public is really terrifying.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   
   
   I believe the old fashion way is actually very common.
   It's still usually the man who asks a woman out and makes the plan for the activity as well as pays. Nevertheless with each (new generation) there is a shift in gender roles and what is socially acceptable for (them).
   Better career opportunities and higher pay for women have had an impact on how they approach dating or want to be approached.
   Many people in younger generations may be using various phone apps where they agree to meet for drinks or even hookup. However they aren't looking for to establish a relationship. Therefore it's really not "dating". Oftentimes they ask about wanting to "hang out".
   Another aspect is there are a lot of younger women who prefer to pay their own way. They believe by doing so it sends a message to a man that they are independent and also eliminates any potential feelings they have of needing to reciprocate in any manner.
   There are also women who offer to pay their own way or pickup the tab but genuinely have no intention of doing so. It is a "test" to see how the man reacts. Long-term relationships are different.
   Both people are likely to treat each other over time.
   Lastly you have women who are truly comfortable with initiating dates with men by calling them up and making the suggestion.
   My personal belief is whomever {initiates or makes the date} should be "prepared" to pay for the whole date unless they state upfront it's going to have to be "Dutch treat" for whatever reason.
   The goal is to find someone who shares your same values.

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   Michaela Osieckiposted 8 years ago

   I have never dated the 'old fashioned' way. Why? Well mostly because I feel our dating rituals are rooted in sexist ideals. In the old dating narrative, women are treated as lesser beings, incapable of making decisions or taking care of themselves and frankly, that just doesn't jive with me.

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You're probably not alone. There are many women who view chivalry as being sexism. While others long for traditional courtship rituals. Ultimately the best bet is just be yourself. You're entitled to like what (you) like!

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