How soon after a divorce would you start dating?

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  1. DDE profile image46
    DDEposted 8 years ago

    How soon after a divorce would you start dating?

    After a divorce everything feels at a loss for some couples. Do you think one should wait for a few months or a year before dating again?
    It depends on the individual and how things ended but, letting go is not often the easiest.What do you think?

  2. firstcookbooklady profile image85
    firstcookbookladyposted 8 years ago

    well... common sense dictates... if you feel lonely and desperate and feel like you need someone to make you feel like a valuable person, stop and borrow someone's dog... if you have forgiven and forgotten and regained self and know love when you find it, fine... but, if you are still carrying a blue print of hurt and hate, don't date.

    1. DDE profile image46
      DDEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Char Milbrett  You have a point there and is true. Sometimes find  a partner can be exciting and letting go can be hard too. Thank you.

  3. profile image0
    ahorsebackposted 8 years ago

    DDE , One should always ,always wait at least ten minutes !..........Kidding ,  the heart will tell you when its okay .  The heart always knows !

    1. DDE profile image46
      DDEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      ahorseback Thank you. Certainly the heart  knows best.  I like your answer.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image80
    dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

    As you noted it depends on the individual and what happened.
    It's not uncommon for many couples to have been "emotionally divorced" long before becoming "legally divorced".
    They may have already been sleeping in separate rooms, barely talking to one another, and essentially living as roommates.
    One of them decides that life is passing her or him by and sees no need for them to continue as a married couple.
    In this instance one or both of them might embrace their newfound freedom, dating, and exploring new relationships.
    Their only regret is they waited so long in making their decision!
    On the other hand if you believed you had a "happy marriage" and one day your spouse walks in to tell you they want a divorce that's a shock to the system!
    Another possibility is you catch your spouse cheating and that is a "deal breaker" for you. In both of those instances one may not be in any hurry to date or get involved with someone soon after.
    Generally speaking if there is someone who wanted to stay married they're less likely to rush out and jump into the dating the world.
    When my first marriage ended in divorce we both started dating others almost immediately. The marriage had been in a deep coma for a while. We had separate bedrooms and phone lines in the house.
    We were married in name only prior to making it a legal dissolution.
    When it's all said and done a divorce is a public admission that someone (made a mistake in the mate selection area) of their life.
    Human beings make mistakes including dating and choosing  the wrong mate for themselves. Hopefully one learns from their mistake.
    Every ending is a new beginning!

    1. DDE profile image46
      DDEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio thank you and your answer is in detail and so much to think about here.

  5. tamarawilhite profile image85
    tamarawilhiteposted 8 years ago

    You should wait at least six months to get your life together, so you can find someone who is a better match instead of rushing in and ending up with someone else who isn't a match.
    If you have children, wait at least a year.

    1. DDE profile image46
      DDEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Tamara Wilhite time is needed to move on to a new beginning  interesting answer from you thanks.

  6. Michael-Milec profile image61
    Michael-Milecposted 8 years ago

    Never. As  long as we both live we are married. Divorce is a tragedy. Loving couples will always find reason to stay  together. Why planing painful living the rest of life? ( Weird thinking, isn't ?)

    1. DDE profile image46
      DDEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Michael-Milec thank you and sometimes never again is the answer but the right partner often comes along when you least expect it.


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