Why should a man always ask a girl out?
Why is it a tradition that men should ask a girl out first? Is it due to pride or honor?
No, I'm afraid not. Life has a way of wearing us down, especially where our hearts are concerned.
Unrequited love. Bad relationships. Bad endings to otherwise good relationships. Infidelity. Rejection.
All these things can take a toll on us and any one of them, especially when coupled with some degree of shyness can make someone more than a little angry about approaching someone new. Possibilities and opportunities of meeting someone new, no matter how attractive we might find them, slip through our fingers and pass us by.
The more it happens, the easier it becomes. It's trendy - and not in a good way.
It is just how thing work, maybe it is male pride. I would definitly say no if a girl ask me out, but mostly just because, it make me feel like she is wearing the pants in the relationship if she ask me out
A woman wants to know that the man is interested, and she wants to be won over. If the guy gets asked out, and he says yes, the girl will never know if he is just being nice, or if he would have ever asked her.
This same situation is applied vice-versa also.
Unfortunately for most men they assume if she said "yes" the attraction was mutual. However the reality is she may not have had any other plans or the activity he suggested sounded fun. She said "yes" to the date but not to him! He's a prop!
Guess it's just a social norm that has been developed over the years, although there are more girls nowadays asking guys out..
Can't help but imagine though how guys react when a girl they like ask them out..(do they giggle like we girls do? =P)
Now days I don't think men always have to ask a woman out.
It sometimes depends on the circumstances and how frequently they interact with one another. For example if they're in the same classes or work together and one is aware that the other has a favorite singer or whatever in common. Either one of them might mention the event and ask if they're interested in going...etc
In fact these days a lot of men go out of their way to make it seem as if they're just suggesting "hanging out" as oppose to having a "date".
They'll casually mention something "off the cuff" thereby if they get rejected in their mind it was the activity she said no to and not (them).
Whether you're a man or a woman it takes courage to ask someone out on date. Traditionally women who asked men out were thought to be either "easy" or "emasculating". However a lot of guys welcome having the pressure taken off of them.
With regard to (why) someone says "yes" to date you'll never really know. Generally speaking men only approach women for dates whom they find (physically/sexually) attractive. There's a "romantic" interest.
They often make the mistake of "assuming" the woman said (yes) to date because the feeling is mutual. His reason for asking and her reason for going may be different!
However she may have said "yes" because he seemed nice, the play or concert sounded like something fun, she didn't have any other plans, it's a "free meal" why not? and a host of other motives.
She may have no intentions of ever getting romantically involved with him and she does not find him physically attractive. He's just nice.
Making assumptions and lack of clarity of intentions causes mishaps!
A man should always ask a girl out, because he the one chasing the girl. I know time has changed, but some women like a gentlemen. A men who pursue her and pulls chairs out for her. I like when a men takes the lead.
It is because men are supposed to be dominant. It could also be to show chivalry.
by rmcali01 7 years ago
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by Joana e Bruno 4 years ago
Why is it men don't pick up on subtle hints from women?They do, but they ignore them? They don't really listen? They don't care? Or women really have to be straight forward at the risk of injuring some of men's feelings, which usually women are trying to avoid by giving the subtle hints?
by Kevinguy1 8 years ago
I asked this girl out that I really like. I ask on facebook cause I was really nervous to in person.I deleted the message but it didn't delete it for her. But now I got advice from my friends and now I can't cause she read the message on facebook and she responded to it. "I don't know"....
by These eyes 22 months ago
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by Mr VanderHook 6 years ago
How should I ask a girl out?
by Inspiration101 5 years ago
I know this is a problem that comes up every now and then with women. It's always justified as "men are visual creatures, they're always looking," and the female partner shouldn't be so insecure. But I tend to think there's a little more to it than that. To women: Regardless of how you or...
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