What is Harder? Telling someone you love them? Or, that you don't love them back

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    threekeysposted 3 years ago

    What is Harder? Telling someone you love them? Or, that you don't love them back?


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    ezba29posted 3 years ago

    Harder part is by telling someone that we don't love them because easily we can express how much we love them by action or words but I feel hard to tell that I don't love them since they love us. I can't easily say and I don't want to hurt them. I felt bad for the person by telling that I won't love them back.

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      threekeysposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      For me it's much harder to let the other know that you don't feel the same way as they feel for you.

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    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago


    Rejecting someone who is emotionally invested in you is more difficult because you know how much courage it took for them to tell you.
    Ideally when someone loves another they (hope) feelings are mutual. Naturally once they "risk it all" by telling a person how they feel it can be awkward if he or she doesn't say: "I love you too".
    (Some people say you shouldn't "count it" if it happens during sex.)
    Even with that said you have to wonder was it a "reflex response" or when they said it back was it in line with (your definition) of love?
    One person may say "I love you" meaning you're special to me and I care about your well being. Another one says it meaning "You're the one I want to spend the rest of my life with."
    Too often in our society we fool ourselves into believing there are "universal definitions" for love, commitment, cheating, beauty, ..etc
    Oftentimes when we learn their definition/meaning doesn't agree with our own we call them liars or manipulators. Thus the old adage:
    "I love you but I'm not (in love) with you."
    Essentially means I care a lot about you but you are not "the one"!
    Having said that I read an article that stated in the majority of new relationships it was the (man) who said "I love you" first.
    Apparently a lot of (women) want/expect men to lead the way with making relationships exclusive, initially confessing love, and marriage proposals.
    Some women said when a man "risks it all" it's {romantic} and when a woman does so then it sounds: weak, needy, desperate or pathetic.
    Another adage I came upon was:
    "Whomever is the least invested in the relationship controls it."
    Maybe that's why those women believe they should hold back in addition to wanting to be (pursued).
    We're a long ways from equality in approaching dating/courtship.

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      threekeysposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Dashingscorpio if you"do" as you "speak" of and about relationships you would be relating consciously and therefore to me that would mean healthily...and that? I admire you for. Although I don't know how many relationships you burned to get there:)

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      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I would use the word (learned) over (burned) when it comes to failed relationships and understanding ones own needs.
      The price of wisdom is experience.
      Life in general is a (personal journey) of ongoing learning.


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