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Is it right to have a single child or people must opt to have more kids?

  1. sukhneet profile image30
    sukhneetposted 21 months ago

    Is it right to have a single child or people must opt to have more kids?

    What are the behavioral differences among the only kids and the kids who have siblings?

  2. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 21 months ago


    It is BEST to have a single child.Single children are the most adjusted, confident, & successful.They also have myriad opportunities that children w/siblings don't have.Studies confirm that single children are the happiest because they don't have to be involved in sibling gamesmanship & one-upmanship.Single children also never dethroned by succedent siblings nor encounter issues of sibling rivalry nor parental favoritism which is rife in multichild households. 

    Single children are exposed to more cultural & intellectual activities because parents have the monies to expose them to foreign travel, restaurants, plays, dancing/music lessons, & other pursuits.They are also more likely to have tertiary education & above because there are monies for such. Also parents have more span of control & individualized time w/single children than they would w/multiple children who oftentimes are bereft of parental time & attention. It is common for children in multichild household to raise themselves & each other.

    Single children also have more advanced & adult-like vocabularies & mannerisms because they grow up in a primarily adult environment where the main role models are adults instead of other children.  According to Dr. Zajonc, a social psychologist, the more children in a household,the more intellectually immature & backward a child is.  Children w/siblings are not as advanced intellectually as single children because their primary role models are other children who are not as advanced as adults are. 

    Because single children are around adults, they are better behaved.  They are also more cultured & intellectual because they are exposed to cultural & intellectual activities.They also have more discussions w/ their parents than children w/siblings who converse only w/each other.  Single children are also more creative & independent because they are used to playing alone.They are comfortable w/being alone & can effectively entertain themselves.Children w/slbilings are needy, are uncomfortable w/being alone & must constantly be w/others for company.

    Single children are truer people.They respect & value friendships & relationships.They interface well w/others.Children w/siblings are more manipulative because they grew up in environments where competition for parental attention is rife.They will do anything including usurp siblings to gain that attention.Children w/siblings are more likely to fight & bully others because that is part of the sibling relationship.

    1. sukhneet profile image30
      sukhneetposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your input Grace. Your guidance is of great help.

    2. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      You are quite welcome Nothing wrong w/single children except from a prejudicial sibling culture & society.There is MORE WRONG w/ having multiple children-infighting, favoritism,vying for parental favors/attention.  Wouldn't put any child thru tha

    3. sukhneet profile image30
      sukhneetposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I have one son and don't have plans for another because extra kids means extra expenditures plus u should also look for extra source of income and if u give one thing to one kid, u can't overlook another. Still, I feel having siblings is fun at times

  3. arksys profile image91
    arksysposted 21 months ago

    I talked to a friend recently who is an only child ... She lives in a different country than her mother but if the mother falls ill etc she has to leave her family and spent time with her mum.
    For her life is a little tough and she wishes that she had siblings who could also contribute to looking after her aging parents. From her point of view it wasn't so good to be the only child.
    It is also quite difficult for an only child to adjust with people. They are too used to having everything for themselves and are therefore not so willing to share or you can say they have a much lower level of tolerance.
    Being the only child means your parents eyes are on you 24*7... This does not give the child the freedom to explore things on their own.
    Another friend of mine in college could not hang out with us for as long as we did because his parents were waiting for him to come home with calls from his mum every 15-20mins or so.
    Looking from the parents perspective an only child will be raised well and cared for in the best possible way. Looking from the child's perspective, even though he/she would love his/her parents, the child is deprived of many little joys in life...

    1. sukhneet profile image30
      sukhneetposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Yeah, every thing has it's own set of pros and cons. Even my husband is an only son and I know it becomes really difficult to manage at times.

    2. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      This is such bulloockey. If you think siblings will help w/aging parents, THINK AGAIN.W/aging parents, there will be ALWAYS be one sibling who will have the responsibility while the rest DON'T.Only children are well-adjusted.Answer is pure B------!

    3. sukhneet profile image30
      sukhneetposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Well Grace, I cannot comment because my husband is the only child and have to take care of his mom completely.  I myself have one son. People often ask me to consider having another child. I am confused and don't know if I should have more kids.

    4. arksys profile image91
      arksysposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      You are almost right Grace... there is always one sibling at one time who takes responsibility for a certain period of time. In my case it was about 8 years... now my older brother is taking care of her for a while. we have that option.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 21 months ago

    A couple should only have children because they want them and can afford to take care of them properly.
    The old adage if you have one you got to have another one is ridiculous! More often than not the older child resents the newborn taking attention. More children usually means more stress in a household. Lots of couples wish they would have stopped at one!
    In the right environment single children tend to mature faster, communicate better, and become independent sooner. Parents tend to emphasize education and development more with an only child.
    Where as parents with multiple children oftentimes are in no hurry to see for example their (youngest child) become independent.
    An only child is more likely to cultivate friendships than to rely on their siblings for conversation if they had them at social gatherings. Last but not least it's easier to afford to give an only child the best quality life possible. Lots of only children grow up to be natural born leaders!

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Excellent statement indeed.  Only children are GREAT.  They are also better & smarter than children w/siblings.  They are also happier & better adjusted.  The old adage that children w/siblings are happier is pure myth. They are maladjusted.

  5. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 21 months ago

    If you can only afford one child or only have one due to health concerns, a single one is fine. If you can afford the child both financially and with adequate attention, go ahead and have two children.

    1. sukhneet profile image30
      sukhneetposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Thank you Tamara for your advice. I agree to it smile My only concern is that taking a decision to have second child is something that is not in the hands of a single partner. Both of the partners should go ahead with it mutually.