Does my tutor flirt with me?

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  1. profile image61
    PRINCESSBARRYposted 2 years ago

    Does my tutor flirt with me?

    Im a mature student doing night course,  my tutor teases me sometimes, he looked at me  whispered and said id a mischievous look? Little things he says leaves me thinking,  I was walking down the corridor and turned to see who was behind me,  it was him and he said "do I make you nervous" I said yes actually!  Even other students got black folders and he said ive a yellow one for you so I said oh yeah single me out and laughed,  am I reading too much into things?  One night as I came in,  he looked up and said hi and then looked me from feet up,  I was wearing boots jeans and tight jacket!

  2. FatFreddysCat profile image96
    FatFreddysCatposted 2 years ago

    ...and for some reason you felt compelled to sign up to this site just to tell us about it... and you posted it under the "handguns" topic (?) no less. Great work.. (rolls eyes)

    1. profile image61
      PRINCESSBARRYposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah i realise now,   bad topic handguns sad

  3. fpherj48 profile image79
    fpherj48posted 2 years ago

    Princess....I think you know the answer to your question.  I think you're as dumb as a fox.  I think you are loving this attention.  And I think depending on the "age" & marital status of your tutor, you're "flirting" with potential trouble.......

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      PRINCESSBARRYposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I laugh things off because i dont find him attractive,  im 26 and he is in his 30's,  i love my course but im nervous when its only me and him in same room alone which is rare thankfully

  4. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 2 years ago

    Say this is inappropriate while you are paying him. After you have ended the tutor-student relationship, then you can pursue a romantic one.
    And if he is flirting with you to extend the billable hours with him, fire him.

    1. profile image61
      PRINCESSBARRYposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      He is a happy jokey man all around but the other students are more than 10/20 years mature than i am so it may be possible that im reading too much into it as i cant tell when someone is flirting,

  5. Little Elvis profile image75
    Little Elvisposted 2 years ago

    Those are aspects of flirting and  attraction. But at last, the decision is yours, if you feel like you are really bothered and uncomfortable with his actions, just give him signs that you're not interested, or break it down to him directly and ask him to stop. But if you have some hidden positive feelings toward the man and his actions, you may get into something serious both of you, you decide.

    1. profile image61
      PRINCESSBARRYposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you,  i dont want to seem like im flirting in anyway,  ive kept my distance and jyst do my work and im going and coming to course now with another student as not to be left alone

    2. Little Elvis profile image75
      Little Elvisposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      But nothing is solved. You should get the whole thing to a final term. I advise you to face him rather than trying to hide from him. It is a right to feel free while taking your lessons, isn't that right? So don't let anybody steal your freedom.

  6. chuckandus6 profile image76
    chuckandus6posted 2 years ago

    Tell him he reminds you of your Dad lol that works

  7. Stevennix2001 profile image89
    Stevennix2001posted 2 years ago

    Since you just said in one of the comments on here that you can't tel when someone is flirting, I can only guess that he is based on what it sounds like.  I think the biggest indicator was him looking up and down  your body when you were wearing jeans, boots and a tight jacket.  I think that's a big sign that he might be into you, or he might've just did that because he's not used to seeing you in such attire.  Do you dress like that often out of curiosity? 

    Not trying to imply anything.  Just asking, so I can get a better understanding of your situation.  To be honest, i think it's much ado about nothing.  If he hasn't tried asking you out, or done anything too inappropriate (i.e. touching you in private places, or making suggestive remarks), then it could be harmless flirting to get his rocks off.  I mean there's no harm in that per se, as a  lot of guys do that all the time.  I used to work with this one guy that was married, who loved his wife.  In fact, he even said that he would NEVER cheat on her.

    However, that didn't stop him from flirting with other girls at work.  He used to tell me it was harmless fun to get his rocks off, and that he would never act on his physical attraction towards other women because he was happily married.  I'm not saying it's the same case for your tutor because frankly I don't even know the guy, so i can't really say.  All I'm saying is that even if the guy does find you attractive, then it doesn't necessarily mean he'll ever act on his impulses towards you. 

    Hell, I find girls attractive all the time, but that doesn't mean you'll see me ask every one of them out.  Like the girl that serves me coffee at starbucks, I think she's attractive, but I never hit on her because I know she has a boyfriend, so I don't hit on her out of respect.  Granted, I don't even know who her phantom boyfriend is, but I usually try to treat others the way that I would want to be treated.  And since I personally wouldn't want some guy trying to steal my girl, I wouldn't in essence try to steal another man's woman; regardless of how she felt about me. 

    From what it sounds like, you seem to have the right idea, so I wouldn't stress over it too much.

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      PRINCESSBARRYposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you so much for that,  it makes sense,  and yes i dress in jeans and ankle boots most of the time,  ive different jackets depending on weather but im always covered up,  so no i wasnt wearing anything different,

    2. Stevennix2001 profile image89
      Stevennix2001posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Your quite welcome.  I'm glad I could help.  smile

 
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