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Love at first....? Reality or Myth?

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    varghese maryposted 19 months ago

    Love at first....? Reality or Myth?

    Is love at first sight a reality....? Or is it physical attraction or 'falling' for someone due to say an act of kindness?

  2. mike102771 profile image80
    mike102771posted 19 months ago

    Now this is all opinion. I would say you can’t truly love someone until you know that someone so love at first sight is not real love. Most people who say they loved a person at first sight are already on the other side of knowing that person and connecting their current feelings to their past as in if they love them now then they loved them from the beginning. I would also say that it would be the act of kindness the person was falling for and not the person doing the act unless you add the idea that in this act you get the opportunity to see a little of who that person really is.

    Attraction at first sight is definitely real. In that attraction people see what they want to see and not who that person really is. Two people meet, date and one day it was love at first sight.

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      varghese maryposted 19 months agoin reply to this

      Hi Michael, thanks for answering and sharing your perspective.

  3. nochance profile image92
    nochanceposted 19 months ago

    I hated my husband before I met him. We were part of the same group of friends in college and he was a huge jerk. He was the roommate of another friend of mine and he became nicer to me. By the end of the school year he asked me out and I decided to try it. I knew I was in love with him by the end of the week.

    Now six years later and we're very happily married.

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      varghese maryposted 19 months agoin reply to this

      Hi Chloe, thanks for answering and sharing your experience.what you have mentioned is so true....we form impressions about people even before we 'meet' them.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 19 months ago


    Myth! However there is "attraction" at first sight.
    You can't truly "love someone" without (knowing) them.
    Generally speaking there is a physical attraction, curiosity, infatuation, and some projection of how we think they might be.
    If later on it turns out we were "right" and a meaningful relationship develops we might say in hindsight: "It was love at first sight."
    However it could have easily gone just the opposite way.
    Sometimes you're initially intrigued or fascinated by someone and then you get to (know) them,  hear them talk, curse up a storm, or display a personality/ego traits you find completely unattractive.
    Suddenly they go from "hot" to "cold".
    It's only love at first sight when things go as we hoped! smile

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      varghese maryposted 19 months agoin reply to this

      Hi, you've presented good points to consider. Thank you so much for an insightful answer.

  5. blessyjai profile image60
    blessyjaiposted 19 months ago

    Love at first sight is like fairy tales, and we living in the adult, mature world are opposed to them, your question I believe is difficult to be answered with a simple yes or no, it's like each to his own. For some people they do find their one true soul mate and fall in love with just a look, for some it may take years of togetherness to realize their soul mate, they were looking all around was next to them, and  some may never ever find their better half. Maybe love at first sight is attraction at first sight followed by scrutinizing observations, beautiful coincidences, perfect imperfections and so on. But, why of all the people available were you attracted to him/her in a single look?
                                      I am a firm believer in the other half of souls, and i believe somewhere each one of us in incomplete till we meet our other half, now it could be my immature imagination, but love, as an element has magic in it and the trick to a flawless magic is only known to the master magician, so, take chances and believe that first sight or the other way around, one day you will cross him/her, and in that precise moment the heart will definitely skip a beat, and the arrow will hit the mark
           just a thought big_smile

  6. Deborah Minter profile image93
    Deborah Minterposted 6 months ago

    This is one of those questions no one will unanimously agree upon. I personally believe love at for sight is possible.