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Is it possible to find true love if you are divorced with kids?

  1. Nicole Harmse profile image60
    Nicole Harmseposted 20 months ago

    Is it possible to find true love if you are divorced with kids?

    Men don't like the children of other men and every time I meet someone I like, my kids get in the way.  I won't choose any relationship over my kids so does that mean I will always be single

  2. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 20 months ago


    It may occur once in a while. However, the likelihood of finding true love if one is divorced w/kids is....highly unlikely, even...IMPROBABLE.  Most men DON'T want women w/children as they believe the children to be problematic & competitors for his receiving/getting attention & affection.  Also, the more children a woman has, the more men will avoid her like the plague.  Many men view such children as extra baggage in the relationship  If they want children, they want what is uniquely theirs, not children who are leftovers from a previous relationship.

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    Cissy1946posted 20 months ago

    If your kids are young you may want to put "looking for love" on hold for a few years. The children are also victims of the divorce and are probably acting out so any male you brought into the picture would, in their eyes, be fair game to torture. Give them time to adjust and realize that you are not going to abandon them. Eventually they will reach a point where they want you to get out of their hair and encourage you to "find someone". You may be in your mid 30's or 40's when you find someone but there's still a lot of life left in a 35 to 45 year old. Plus your judgment of men will have matured by then.

    Good luck...

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 20 months ago


    What you say isn't necessarily true.
    There are lots of second or third marriages with blended families.
    Naturally it is more attractive from a courtship process to not have to deal with children but after one reaches a certain age it becomes extremely difficult for instance to find someone in their mid 30s or 40s who doesn't have children. It's almost expected.
    Another thing that might be hampering you is if the man himself has gone through a nasty divorce or has an ex who would pounce on him for more child support if she knew he had a "two income household".
    A mother who is in control of her household and has children who obey her, are likeable, respectful, and involved in positive school activities usually does not have a problem with men being open to the idea of having a life together. Harmony is an attractive for men.
    You said: "My kids get in the way."
    Does this mean they are nightmare to be around for most men?
    If children aren't well behaved or they cause a lot of stress in the mother's life it's like the guy is getting a "sneak preview" of what life would be like living together or being married in that situation. 
    Several years ago I was dating a woman who had three children and I witnessed them yell at her and on occasion curse at her. Now I'm thinking if she allows them to treat her that way it's no telling what she would expect me to put up with!
    In another instance I dated a different woman who was constantly fighting with her ex-husband (face to face) over child support or not picking them up and giving her a break while I sat in the living room.
    Most men have no desire to "rescue women" from their own children or witness her drama dealing with her ex.
    Loud rude obnoxious disrespectful spoiled children are a turn off.