Well, I think they can seem more beautiful because they are a fantasy. We can image our crush however we want, controlling them in our minds like they were some kind of life-sized puppets. We're not seeing a real person, we're seeing the ideal we wish we could see.
But to me it's more like watching a television show about travel rather than getting up, getting your passport & hitting the road. It's nice, but it's not the real thing.
Sure, we eliminate a lot of the potential dangers by keeping the fantasy, but we also lose out on all the benefits.
As Mackenzie Sage Wright said, the can seem more beautiful. When we get into a relationship, we see things through our own perspectives and often assign expectations without sharing that expectation with our partner. The fantasy relationship is idealized and we don't like when that fantasy get's broken by the reality of a real relationship. The thing is, a crush doesn't have the depth of a real relationship. When we spend years with another person, we start to open up more and lower the barriers that keep other people out. After a decade or more, we know more about the other person than we ever imagined we would know about a crush. And when we truly love another person that feeling is amazing. The depth we gain is unimaginable when we're living in a fantasy. It's scary too, which is why so many people try to stay in fantasy land and don't take the plunge to a deeper relationship. There are few things as rewarding as a relationship so deep you can share anything with the other person and love them regardless of mistakes or weird quirks. This is true of friendships, lovers, parents and children. Each relationship has it's own dynamics, and each one is unique to the pair.
Because fantasy usually trumps reality!
Rarely will people continue to live up to (your) expectations.
In your imagination or fantasy your crush never disappoints you.
“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen
The reason why crushes are beautiful is because you only see the person positives and not their human flaws! Basically you see what you want to see. I'm not judging because a crush can wake you up inside and give you the excitement on the possibility of having seductive love and romance.
Everything looks prettier from a distance. I've learned to appreciate that beauty and then move on instead of dwelling on it.
I have a male friend that women just fawn over, but once they manage to date him they realize he's kind of a terrible person.
So focus on the beauty within instead of without when looking for someone to date.
Crush is an emotional rush or high that fades.
Real love lasts a lifetime if you make sure not to neglect the other person
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