Would you consider it cheating on your spouse if you have naughty thoughts about

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   jpcmcposted 8 years ago

   Would you consider it cheating on your spouse if you have naughty thoughts about another person?
   
   

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   Aime Fposted 8 years ago

   No.  I have to wonder how many people only ever think of their spouse when, uhh, going solo?  I certainly don't and wouldn't expect my husband to either. 
   
   Everyone has different ideas of what counts as cheating, though.  I think the important thing is communicating with your spouse and figuring out what those ideas are.

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Great point especially regarding "going solo"!
      Most people probably use some form of imagination or fantasy which doesn't always include thoughts of their mate or spouse.

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   Azizi527posted 8 years ago

   Yes, although the majority of people would not think so, it actually is cheating. You are not fully giving yourself to your partner when you are thinking of someone else

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Are your really saying if a wife has naughty thoughts about Brad Pitt,  Ryan Gosling, or Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson she's cheated on her husband or committed adultery?
      Most fans of stars "romanticize them".
      If that's "cheating" it's sad.

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   FatFreddysCatposted 8 years ago

   If that were the case, then I've "cheated" on my wife with Jennifer Aniston, Pamela Anderson, Rose McGowan, Alyssa Milano, several Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders, and countless others.
   
   ...and I bet she's "cheated" on me with Tim McGraw, Shemar Moore and Matthew McConaughey!

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent point!
      Most people have "romantically fantasized" about an entertainer. Anyone who considers that to be "cheating" has unrealistic expectations of mankind.
      Then again maybe most men read Playboy for the articles!

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   No, I wouldn't consider a fantasy or thought to be "cheating" anymore than I would consider thought of committing a crime as "being a crime" or making that individual a "criminal".
   Everyone has private thoughts.

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   Martine Andersenposted 8 years ago

   No, this is completely normal. It might feel like emotional cheating, but it's not as long as you dont act on it. We cant control all of our thoughts.

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