In what circumstances would you admit to your spouse that you cheated on him/her?
I know some people who would admit and some who would deny their infidelity. What would make you admit to your infidelity to your spouse?
I believe never. I know how that sounds but if you truly still love the one your with and never would do it again then what is the gain? Only pain and distrust will follow.
If you plan to continue cheating then you should get out of that and any other relationship where the other is exclusive and still telling them would only bring pain. Take that luggage with you. The stain that cheating will leave on your lover's heart will only make future relationships even tougher for them. Do them a favor and just say you fell out of love so they aren't left feeling like they weren't and will never be enough or be able to trust again.
Some things just have no positive gain. They only bring about more pain and the one who screwed up should be the only one who carries the burden.
Hello there Daniel, that is quite an insightful answer. I've seen many couples struggle because of infidelity. Some opt to come out clean others keep it hidden. I suppose the maturity of the persons involved and the relationship affects how it is
I can't imagine cheating on my spouse and staying with her.
A lot of people cheat to "complement" their marriage by getting what they feel is missing. However whatever that is doesn't rise to the level of them wanting to run down to the courthouse to file for divorce, lowering their living standards, moving into a one bedroom condo, paying child support, and becoming a weekend parent, splitting up assets along with family & friends....etc
Like you I have heard of people who confessed to infidelity and from my observation it's usually an unbearable amount of guilt that motivates them or if their spouse is on to them and keeps pressing it they'll crack.
Other circumstances might involve trying to do some "damage control" if the person they cheated with is threatening to approach their mate or there is a pregnancy.
Last but not least sometimes cheaters actually fall "in love" and want out. It's almost a cliché to hear two cheaters say to the betrayed person: "We never meant for this to happen"
It's the forbidden and obstacles that intensified their love. Many of them convince themselves that life has played a cruel joke on them. "I met the (right man/woman) at (the wrong time)."
A decision to "runaway together" is almost a romantic cliché! Nevertheless this can be a reason for one to admit to infidelity.
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