How do you know if its just a "break" from relationship or if it leading up to a

  1. Vincenza Colavolp profile image61
    Vincenza Colavolpposted 18 months ago

    How do you know if its just a "break" from relationship or if it leading up to a breakup

    My boyfriend, I had a crush on him in 8th grade. He never knew it and he moved away. We lost contact for 6 years and then ran into each other about 4 months ago. We had a date a week later and became exclusive. Things were great. He then got mandatory overtime at work and we were not able to hang out or see each other.  He said he don't think he is the man for me and I need someone who can give me more time. I asked if that  what he wants and he said no but it hard for him to juggle school and work n everything elseWe agreed on a break but do I wait  or cut my losses . we both love each other

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 18 months ago

    " He said he don't think he is the man for me and I need someone who can give me more time."
    Translation: "You are not the woman for me!"
    Men have mastered the art of "It's not you it's me." Essentially he wanted to break it off without hurting your feelings or being seen as the "bad guy". This way it's "the obstacle" not him.
    It sounds to me like (you) are not a top priority for him.
    A "break" is usually a "practice breakup" where one person is out "exploring" and the other one is (holding on) waiting to see if they're going to get back together or if he found someone else.
    It's impossible to solve relationship problems by being apart.
    It's unrealistic to go on a "break" every time an issue arises.
    'If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse.' - Jim Rohn
    I don't have the time usually means I'm not going to make the time. You said "We agreed on a break.
    However he's the one that (really) wanted one.
    Cut your losses!


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