Is getting caught on a dating site by your partner enough for a break up?

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   Gustavo Agueroposted 7 years ago

   Is getting caught on a dating site by your partner enough for a break up?
   
   
   
   I got caught sending messages to women on Tinder but none of them replied. It didn't matter, because my girlfriend at the time still found it offensive and disrespectful enough to break up with me. I didn't do it to cheat. I guess I did it to cover my insecurities. I know it is not a good enough reason, but I felt like I was getting belittled because I didn't have a degree or a particular academic achievement. I don't believe it was a good enough reason for a separation.

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   lisavollrathposted 7 years ago

   Whether you believe it was a good enough reason or not, your girlfriend did. If you're not secure enough to commit to a relationship with a woman, don't waste her time.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   
   
   Each of us is entitled to have our own "deal breakers".
   Everyone has their own definition of "cheating".
   You don't get to define it for them!
   Would you have broken up with your girlfriend if things were in reverse? Suppose she was flirting & sexting without meeting?
   "I got caught sending messages to women on Tinder {but none of them replied}." Supposed they had replied; Can you be sure you wouldn't have met them? Most relationships start off with flirtation... Later it's "I never meant for this to happen."
   Imagine if you had a sister who discovered her boyfriend was hitting up women on a dating site.
   What advice would you give her?
   You also said the following:
   " I felt like I was getting belittled because I didn't have a degree or a particular academic achievement." If your girlfriend was putting you down then should have left her.
   On the other hand if it's your ego you always had the option on going back to school!
   I imagine you're not the first man who cheated or sought to cheat on their girlfriend or wife out being jealous or insecure of their income or achievements.
   Maybe a part of you didn't want to feel "LUCKY" to have her.
   Maybe you needed to prove to yourself that "other women" find you attractive.
   All of those thoughts are signs of immaturity and viewing the relationship as being "you and me" instead of "us and we". She dumped you because you were "cyber cheating".
   Any guy who is trying to pickup girls whether online or offline in a bar while supposedly being in an "exclusive relationship" is cheating in the eyes of most people.
   You don't go to a restaurant unless you plan to eat!
   “While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions” – Stephen R. Covey

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   Old-Empresarioposted 7 years ago

   Men and women operate differently. If the woman in the relationship gets caught on a dating site, then it's time to end the relationship. It's dead. If the man gets caught, it's a little more complicated. It depends on whether the woman wants to save the relationship or punish him for poor communication or potentially cheating. A woman can easily rekindle a man's attraction to her and get him to stop looking at dating sites. But once a man is no longer attractive to the woman, it's over.

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