What is Love?
I am sitting with my son who is struggling with a relationship and possibly going through a divorce, and he asks me a simple question…what is love? I mean we hear the songs playing “All you need is Love” or “Love me simply, Love me true,” along with millions of other love songs. It seems to be something we are all seeking; all desiring, something we hope to find. What is it though? Is it a feeling, is it an act? How can we know that we have most certainly found it if we do not know what it is?
Love can be defined in many ways. In my opinion it means commitment and mutual respect and understanding.
Expectations sometimes have to take a back seat.
Both the partners must accept each other with their positives as well as negatives.
Sometimes one has to ignore mistakes , at other times forget and forgive.
Love demands lot of sacrifices from both partners to make the relationship deeper.
Love means more giving than taking.
If that is the definition? What if that has been violated - one did not accept the others positives as well as the negatives. What if one always gives and the other does not...or mistakes were made. What is love then?
I can completely relate to what you mean.Yes the commitment should be reciprocal. And one should know where to draw the line. Self respect should not be sacrificed. Even after trying hard, if one is not able to save it, then it's wise to part ways.
I reckon, though I have not counted, that I written over 100 hubs that in some way deal with love. I wonder if 30,000 views or so would suggest I kind of understand a smidgen, then again maybe not.
People love to talk about different loves. Different types. One 100 words in Latin, Greek and English and ad in the romantic languages, Italian and Castillon Spanish being my faves but Vietnamese, Japanese and French are right up there. Then add in the easy differences with Muslim, Christian, Shinto and Buddhist.
Love is a choice. No I do not mean we choose to love. I mean that we choose to let us love or not. Or maybe better said, we choose the love we have over eclipsing it with human garbage. (had to use eclipse today ;-)
The woman loves a man, after a few years it is deeper than amore and more an agape or a partnership love. We determine to let love allow us to be part and parcel with the other. Empathy, sympathy and selfishness. Really a "one".
Something happens that does not need be any blame or sin. And one party rejects love. Oh I guarantee they have to give up love of other things also. Like a switch that turns off the flow of love from others and God. And the flow out is just horribly transfered into resentment of all kinds true and some just made up to justify a cold heart.
In your son's wife case it becomes obvious that she has lost sight of what is important and is letting worldly tangible things cover her with a cold kind of darkness.
I tell you the love is still there. But not really because she has put a black out on that news. Can your son reignite the life, the candle in her heart. Probably not.
Can another? Probably not.
I was counting up because my elder son asked me and I have been in at least 25 countries. I have stayed at 5 stars and I have visited a place where 200,000 live in a dump and a place where it is not weird to see bodies floating by. But I have never seen a place without love. It is clearly her decision to block that out.
But here is the fantastic news. Your son's innate and valued decision to be a loving person is not dictated by her. He must open his heart and love without return.
For fun I think he ought a figure all the others he can love -- like you, you great mom!
Maybe he might like down in "Luckenbock Texas." It reminds us that we have a ton of other people to love, starting with ourselves.
Personally I like the God angle but that is not for everyone.
Interesting response. It provokes a lot of thought. I often wonder if that is two people that lose site of love and get caught up in-who knows what-but then realize-kinda of you don't know what you have until it is gone idea...maybe that can rekindle
The word love is commonly used but it has a very deep meaning. In love you don't see faults, there is no conflict. The true definition of love https://goo.gl/PtzbmE
Is there no faults noticed and no conflicts or in true love do we just learn to resolve these and continue on?
When you completely attains flawless vision, the pure love will arise
As a nurse, I see couples that have been married 50+ years. Do they not have true love? They see faults, but to me, love is in their eyes. Is it faultless or accepting of the flaws? Maybe a desire to look beyond them?
by Harvey Stelman 7 years ago
Will this make you happy?
by nasake 6 years ago
we are always so focused on the negatives, lets take time to share our positives! (feel free to answer this differently each day. )
by kimberlyslyrics 7 years ago
With no fuss of affairs, security in knowing you love each other, it comes down to sex. With or without your partner joining with other people.Just asking, do you think this could first enrich your sex life, and second, possibly lengthen the duration of your relationship?Clearly it is more...
by Sarah 7 years ago
What are the positives and negatives of starting your own freelance writing business?
by Raj Rishi 8 years ago
Most relationships in love and marriage break up due primarily to boredom, which results in cooling of passions. It is difficult to 'enjoy' the same fare daily howsoever delicious it may be. This is, of course, not to deny other reasons for break-up.Desire for change is very human and...
by texasrose01 5 years ago
What are the positives & negatives that globalization bring to the u.s.a. & to other countries?
Copyright © 2018 HubPages Inc. and respective owners. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc. HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.
|HubPages Device ID||This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel||This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.|
|Remarketing Pixels||We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels||We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.|