Relationships... why do we get hurt? what is love? why suffer from it? why trust another?
because love is a myth. Believing in love is like believing in the devil or believing in santa clause
When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. More often than not we start pursuing relationships before we have figured out who (we) are let alone know what it is we want and need in a mate for life.
We allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate our relationship choices.
It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
Immaturity can also lead to getting a broken heart.
The reality is most people don't meet their "soul mate" or the person they end up marrying at age 16 or 17 and yet in the U.S. the average person has been reported to lose their virginity by age 17. The average first time bride is 27 and it's age 29 for grooms. Clearly this would suggest there is on average 10+ years of dating and sexual experiences accumulated over those years and it's usually not all with one person. Almost everyone experiences breakups and heartaches.
It's not uncommon these days for people to wait until age 30 and beyond to marry. Becoming emotionally invested in someone as a teenager or during your early 20s usually leads to heartbreak. You'd be better off just dating for (fun).
Rarely does someone hit a homerun their first, second, third, or fourth time up at bat. If this were not the case we would all be married to our high school sweethearts!
Ideally with each failed relationship we learn to date smarter, gain life experience, and wisdom as we determine what it is we really need in a mate. Granted what makes for an "ideal mate" at age 17 may not be what someone would want at age 27. We're always evolving.
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
Each of us has our mate selection process/"must haves list".
Each of us has our "boundaries" and "deal breakers".
If someone is experiencing one bad relationship after another it's probably time for them to reexamine their mate selection criteria. The only thing all of your relationships have in common is (you). Smart people learn from their mistakes.
by These eyes 20 months ago
Why do men hurt the person they love? If they love a woman why they do crazy things?I have a good relationship with this man and he just admit that he was having an affair that he wants to continue seing that person. I never see this coming since everything was so great with us. We never have a big...
by Breatheeasy3 4 years ago
Why Do Women Hurt The Person They Love??? (Reciprocate to 'Why Do Men Hurt The Person They Love?')Just as men may seem to treat the one they love like a piece of 'Blank', the opposite also holds true. Well, we've gathered some interesting perspective from 'These Eyes' regarding this question as it...
by Sia 3 years ago
Currently at the point where i have been in many failed relationships after putting my all into them and getting cheated on, betrayed, lied to etc.I'm at the point of giving up. Is it me, my luck or the guys I know?Can anyone offer any advice on what i seem to be doing wrong?Thank you in advance.
by Arvella Albay 5 days ago
Compared with women, depressed men are also more likely to suffer serious consequences from their depression. Why is that so?
by rida 4 years ago
Why always I hurt the most in relationships......:'(a person I like the most hurt me with a lie.. why always people lie
by sx1889 7 years ago
I've been hurt by men in the past, so how do I trust my new boyfriend after other men have hurt me?My boyfriend tells me "that either I trust him or I don't"!! Is it that easy after other men have hurt me in past relationships? How do I learn to trust a man again?
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