Would you have the ability to love again after a divorce?

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   DDEposted 7 years ago

   Would you have the ability to love again after a divorce?
   
   Relationships fall apart when love is no longer there. Do you think after a ruined relationship you could have the ability to love again?

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   Ericdierkerposted 7 years ago

   Devika I have been there. It is such and interesting question of the notion that whatever does not kill us makes us stronger. Major trauma like a divorce when you still love the person divorcing you is brutal.
   But the very good news is that it is a problem that you personally can resolve. Not forgetting but forgiving is essential.
   Just like before you were married you have to learn (again) how to do things like flirting. Making conversation with a new folk. You have to re-examine the difference between love and lust.
   But the whole idea takes time just to be emotionally available. Risks. Once you are ready for love to find you, you have a great chance.
   For me, second marriage going on a decade and half. Child and very happy, joyful and in love.

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      DDEposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Eric I am so happy for you. Being happy and in love are so important for a marriage. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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   Kate Mc Brideposted 7 years ago

   Love can be lost through no fault of either side-just being incompatible. You know when it is gone because indifference sets in. While there is anger and resentment, there is hope but when there is indifference on either side or both, the relationship is over-simple. The best thing to do is move on instead of recycling the same mistakes. You ask a good question-loving again after divorce needs an open mind and a good dose of courage to take the chance again

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      DDEposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I like your answer. It is a chance  and to be given one or allow yourself to do fall in love again is a challenge. Thank you.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   Of course!
   It's not unusual for people to get married a second or third time.
   in a world with over 7 Billion people odds are there are more than a few who would make suitable mates for us which we will love and be loved in return. There's life/love after divorce.
   
   There are three basic reasons why couples split.
   1. They chose the wrong mate. (Too incompatible)
   2. A "deal breaker" was committed in the eyes of another.
   3. They fell out of love/stopped wanting the same things.
   Human beings make mistakes and when it's all said and done a divorce or breakup is a public admission that a mistake was made in the mate selection process. We learn from mistakes!
   Being with no one is better than being with the wrong one.

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      DDEposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      ''Being with no one is better than being with the wrong one.'' That tops the ability to move on without  a doubt. Thank you.

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