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are you affraid to move on?

  1. ___RaeRae profile image60
    ___RaeRaeposted 7 years ago

    are you affraid to move on after breaking up with your ex? are you too afraid that things will turn out the same way it did with your ex? are you afraid to love again?

    1. blondepoet profile image73
      blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Always but I do.

      1. ___RaeRae profile image60
        ___RaeRaeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        everyones affraid to move on but they aventually get on there feet again but next thing you know your back to start point:)

        1. blondepoet profile image73
          blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Exactly smile

    2. Hokey profile image60
      Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Um.......................... NO!

      1. blondepoet profile image73
        blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Lol Hokey I always say I won't do it again but I do, I am a sucker for love...

        1. Hokey profile image60
          Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Buddha will be back. I am a sucker for love also. I love to love and I love hard abd I love for life!

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            Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Not afraid to move on. Just pondering what I should say to Hokey in his thread so I can win the marriage contest lol

            Seriously though, I think everyone has this fear after they've had their heart broken.

            1. blondepoet profile image73
              blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              Tell him you are coming over to cook him this.........

              http://i689.photobucket.com/albums/vv253/Alyssazq/Food/Dinner%20150409/DSC01142.jpg

              They say a way to a man's heart is through some good tucker lol

              1. calpol25 profile image73
                calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                the best way to a mans heart is through his back with a pick axe lol lol

                1. blondepoet profile image73
                  blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                  Omg this is turning into a scary movie LMAO.
                  But why the back would not it be approached from the front??

                  1. calpol25 profile image73
                    calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    ROFL

                  2. profile image0
                    Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    Ooh, perhaps I'll give him an ultimatum. If he chooses me, I'll cook him that. If he does NOT choose me, I'll get out the pick axe... Who could say no to me then? lol

                2. Hokey profile image60
                  Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                  yikes

                  1. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
                    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    Hokey...you've lost weight? and gained hair?  big_smile

                3. TheGlassSpider profile image74
                  TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                  Actually, I'm going to have to disagree. You can use your bare hands and go right up under the sternum...Um...Never mind. wink

                  Tantrum's angel and devil smiley would come in handy right now.

  2. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    Well, coming from the old chicken on the block, after I got dumped numerous times during my single time from '93-'97, I was down-right PARANOID about finding somebody else. I was more than afraid to love - I was terrified. Seemed like every time I found a potential long-term love interest, after pushing at my boundaries forever, I'd finally give up and say, "Oh well, sure I'll love again".  Soon after, they casually blew me off. Happened twice.  So you can imagine what my poor hubby now had to contend with when he fell for me! I trusted nobody. But he continued his calm, relentless pursuit with quiet reassurances and, eventually, the love bug hit me again. But oh man, what a struggle! That's what a broken heart will do to ya: cause mistrust. I still have problems to this day with feeling stability, even though I've been married a number of years. Just a hang up...but to answer the question at hand; yes, I was afraid.

  3. TheGlassSpider profile image74
    TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago

    *sigh* Yes. I'm beginning to feel like I'm better off alone.

    1. blondepoet profile image73
      blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes GS I often wonder this. I am getting tired of having my heart broken time and time again.

      1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
        TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        {{{HUGS}}} I know what you mean.

  4. blondepoet profile image73
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    I have been told it may have something to do with my past but I have attracted abusive men one after another without realizing it at first. They say this often happens to women, with attracting the same type of man.
    Yes I would love to grow old with the right type of man, with a love to cherish and hold, but it is not easy wondering who you will catch this time lol.

  5. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    Hokey, being that you are looking to get married, maybe this was a good thread for you. Glad you are posting your real pic, but the cute little Budah guy was cool.

    1. blondepoet profile image73
      blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      We are getting a great slide-show from Hokey, did you see the one before this one, I could have sworn it was Kevin Costner smile

      1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
        TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Yeah...Kinda makes me sorry I suggested it was best not to marry me...but with my track record...Well. Oh well.

  6. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    Interesting this subject comes up. I just discussed this matter in group last night. Seems like we always replay the script over and over trying to solve the dilemna. We use different characters and situations, but it's usually the same basic script with the same type of actors cast. That's why the pattern continues.

    If one can relearn healthy traits to look for in a potential mate, it can lead to a solution. I took a course called "Finding the Love of Your Life" back when I was engaged. It was the best class for unmarried people I can recommend. It really teaches people to look for the 'healthy traits', not the 'familiar traits'. But sometimes we do it subliminally without even realize we are doing it! Refer to what I said in the first section here: the script with the actors we continue to replay.

  7. TheGlassSpider profile image74
    TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago

    I don't know...it's just really hard for me to open myself up that way and...really FEEL it you know? It's hard to explain, but I hear "I love you" and part of me thinks, "Yeah, buddy, I've heard THAT before...pull on the other one why don'tcha?"

    I don't WANT to feel that way. But I do. sad

    1. donotfear profile image91
      donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


      Spider, I understand. I was that way too. It took poor spousey a bit to convince me, but I married him after 6 months, which was too soon. If I would have waited, we probably wouldn't have married (that's another story). Sometimes I envy single folks. It's so difficult to be in a committed, life time relationship. Enjoy your single time and love yourself. You are worth it.

      1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
        TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks smile I appreciate that. I'm trying to get things sorted out. I think once I can manage to get my degree behind me I won't be so lacking in energy and more of my natural optimism will re-assert itself. I just feel like I've been in school for a million years, and I'm SO tired my emotional life suffers for it. In addition to not taking the time to process stuff I need to...if that all makes sense.

      2. blondepoet profile image73
        blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        You have some great advice Donotfear.
        Can you see Kevin??

        1. donotfear profile image91
          donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


          Can I see Kevin? You mean Hokey..is his name Kevin?

          1. blondepoet profile image73
            blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            No but in that pic he has up he sure does look like Kevin Costner lol.

            1. donotfear profile image91
              donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


              Now I LIKE Kevin Cosner. But I REALLY like Mel Gibson. Slap slap, wake up....I gotta come down from this high.

              1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
                TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                You know, it sounds like we have a lot in common. smile

                1. donotfear profile image91
                  donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


                  Yep, just come to Dr. donotfear (Annette) and I will listen. Absolutely.

                  1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
                    TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    yikes Holy crap, Annette! I just checked your profile. We really DO have a lot in common--I'm getting my MA in Mental Health Counseling; when I grow up (hehe) I want to be an LPC. And my third name is Nannette. Cool.

              2. drej2522 profile image86
                drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                I thought Mel and Kevin were soooooooo 90's?!

                1. blondepoet profile image73
                  blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                  Doesn't take away the fact they are hot as..smile smile

          2. Hokey profile image60
            Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Larry

            1. donotfear profile image91
              donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


              I know that now. I just went to my FB friends & found ya. My ex husband (one of em) was named Larry. Don't worry, I don't hold it against you.
              Tell these ladies what you are looking for in a woman.

              1. blondepoet profile image73
                blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                Yes do you like a woman who can cook?
                An axe expert?
                Fill us in Kevin I mean Larry..

                1. donotfear profile image91
                  donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                  Ha! lol lol

                2. Hokey profile image60
                  Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                  I am 36 years old traveled around the country many times and have seen alot. I have never been married and have no children(I do love kids though). Its not that I am scared of getting married its just that I only want to do it once. I love to love and I love hard. I give my heart for life. I can't help it. It's just the way I am. I love to pay attention to you and love the little things the most( a wink, a touch on the shoulder, a sly grin with a personal secret). I am protective but not overly so for I know you are an adlt and can take care of yourself but I will be there when you need me. I don't cheat, I don't lie and if you do then please don't contact me. I just like to keep things simple.

                  1. blondepoet profile image73
                    blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    Oooooooooooooooooooooooooo (cannot speak I am unconscious)

  8. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    Hokey you are cute!!! How old are you? These ladies surely want to know.

    1. Hokey profile image60
      Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks! I am 36 years old. Never been married and have no children.

      1. donotfear profile image91
        donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


        Wow, you are young! I remember when I was 36 I was divorced, single and living it up, yet I had 2 teens at home. I would have gone out with you, but would have kept my guard UP! As a matter of fact, at 36 I went out with a 26 year old guy but wouldn't trust him either. He was too much a ladies man. He was impressed because he considered me a "mature woman". Ha! AT 36!!!!  NOW I'm mature.

  9. profile image0
    Kenrick Chatmanposted 7 years ago

    Not at all. I'm always looking for upgrades.

  10. aefrancisco profile image66
    aefranciscoposted 7 years ago

    YES.

  11. blondepoet profile image73
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    Maybe we could have a womanly raffle on Hokey and give the proceeds to charity???

    1. calpol25 profile image73
      calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      can i be charity? i will change my name and everything lol lol

      1. blondepoet profile image73
        blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Oh Cal you are awful hahah

        1. calpol25 profile image73
          calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I know but its all done in the best possible taste lol lol

          1. blondepoet profile image73
            blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Oh boy I am flying from push up jocks in Hokey's marriage thread to french maids over here, I am out of breath.

            1. calpol25 profile image73
              calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

              snap i got sore hands with all the jumping about lol smile

              1. blondepoet profile image73
                blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                You need one of these to get around on

                http://i677.photobucket.com/albums/vv137/Kodieboy/boxing.gif

                1. calpol25 profile image73
                  calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                  no kidding lol that would helpful or one of these

                  http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:vElvpXc6FCqx_M:http://www.starstore.com/acatalog/Wicked_Witch-broomstick.jpg

                  1. drej2522 profile image86
                    drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    I think I would want the flying monkeys too!

  12. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    Personally I'm not afraid, I just haven't met anyone that I'm interested in. Being alone doesn't bother me, in fact I find it consoling, and therapuetic, because I like me. That is a good thing, because most people don't...

    1. drej2522 profile image86
      drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me."

      1. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        must be nice, I wouldn't know.

      2. donotfear profile image91
        donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


        STUART SMALLEY!!!!!!!

        1. drej2522 profile image86
          drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          hehe...yes, ma'am smile

  13. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    I saw another pic of him.....you know....Hokey, THE man gettin the attention tonight.

  14. blondepoet profile image73
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    God it is good to have fun.
    It is worth more than a million dollars smile

    1. drej2522 profile image86
      drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      laughter and fun...good combo! better than sex

      wait, yes, better

      1. blondepoet profile image73
        blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Yes combined with smooth delicious Belgian chocolate.

        1. drej2522 profile image86
          drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          yummmmmmmmm...umm-hmmm

    2. Hokey profile image60
      Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe I should book some gigs in Australia

      1. donotfear profile image91
        donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


        'Book some gigs'? What kinda gigs? I know you are in construction but are you a musician too.?

        1. Hokey profile image60
          Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I play guitar, drums, bass, banjo, trumpet, piano and harmonica

          1. blondepoet profile image73
            blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Wow Kevin I mean Hokey that is awesome. You sound extremely talented. I play piano I have a big white grand piano sitting behind me. My grandfather was a professional musician who had the opportunity of jamming with Louie Armstrong.

            1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
              TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              I sing. We need to start a band. The HubBand. smile

              1. blondepoet profile image73
                blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                Oh wow we have found a lead singer for the band woo hoo.
                Be interesting to see what the other guys here can do smile smile

                1. donotfear profile image91
                  donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


                  I sing tenor.....I can either sing with the men or the women sopranos. Don't put me with the Altos....it's way off. And I don't need a microphone.

                  Hmmm, I don't sing anymore. Don't use it, ya lose it.

                  1. blondepoet profile image73
                    blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    Oh wow we have two singers and Cal dancing the Scottish fling this is awesome.

                  2. drej2522 profile image86
                    drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    I love to sing and I'm terrible...not a good combo

                    oy

      2. blondepoet profile image73
        blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        What do you play aside from the fine instruments of seduction?

    3. calpol25 profile image73
      calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      it is the best medicine in the world lol big_smile

    4. Hokey profile image60
      Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Talking to me?  Not God. Just Hokey!!!  big_smile

      1. calpol25 profile image73
        calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        lol

  15. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    (this thread is getting way off topic)

    1. blondepoet profile image73
      blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      LMAO this happens to me every-time.. I have no idea why it is so...

      1. calpol25 profile image73
        calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        yeah I usually get the blame lol lol

    2. drej2522 profile image86
      drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      (scrolls back up to see the original topic) oh...right...I'm afraid to move on and crap too. wink

      1. blondepoet profile image73
        blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        At least we wandered into something that had my side splitting.
        I mean after all we could have wandered into a paddock of cows....

        1. calpol25 profile image73
          calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Well thats true lol smile You have a good point there lol lol

          1. drej2522 profile image86
            drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

            yes...I concur

            1. calpol25 profile image73
              calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

              we did before when we tried the poetry thing lol smile

              1. calpol25 profile image73
                calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                ROFLMAO

            2. blondepoet profile image73
              blondepoetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              And as Dre will tell you Cal we could have also walked into a band of Scottish Highlander dancers with kilts and no underwear......we took the right road I am sure smile

              1. calpol25 profile image73
                calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                Next time bring me mind you i can supply the scottish men and kilts my mothers family are all from scottland lol lol we speak gaelic and stuff weird.
                http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:d2Q_ywJuidjCGM:http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_0o2-S1p2MUo/SkPFKKmK9_I/AAAAAAAAAKI/phb2mQj0fvU/s400/SCOTT%2BMAN%2BKILT.jpg

  16. donotfear profile image91
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    I hate to leave good company tonight but I must get up at 5:30AM. We shall meet again!!

    1. calpol25 profile image73
      calpol25posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      good night lol big_smile

    2. drej2522 profile image86
      drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      later...donotfear!

    3. TheGlassSpider profile image74
      TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Have a great night, donotfear! Great to meet you. smile And get a good night's rest.

  17. TheGlassSpider profile image74
    TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago

    Well...Hmm...I suggest we begin with a rubric. We'll have to test your abilities in foreplay, rhythm, style...originality...What else?

    We'll need volunteer judges. I suggest you just jump in and show us what you've got. wink

  18. drej2522 profile image86
    drej2522posted 7 years ago

    hmmm...what style and rhythm? I have 2 moves hit the gas and stall..(shrugs)

    1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
      TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      What? No first gear? No fancy maneuvers?

      1. drej2522 profile image86
        drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        don't tell me you're not impressed...

        1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
          TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Impressed with your honesty. I thought all guys were loquacious about their "skills." I see you like to keep it simple. That's nice.

          1. drej2522 profile image86
            drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

            haha...I don't really 'rate' myself. The only way someone is going to know that one is to actually do it!

  19. blondepoet profile image73
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    oh damn sorry guys had visitors turn up before, still here, so goodbye my sweet petunias will return tomorrow. Love u all smile

    1. drej2522 profile image86
      drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      later gator

    2. TheGlassSpider profile image74
      TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      have a good night BP smile

 
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