Women have to play it really cautious when it comes to dating these days. How did we get here?
Men are the most dangerous thing on the planet for women. Guy shows up a blind date and most concerned if she looks good. Women shows up and hopes to keep her head by the end of the night.
The dating game is constantly changing. I feel the older you are, the more potential landmines you may have to circumvent. Online dating when you're older is full of possible dangers. There are narcissists and bottom-feeders who prey on the vulnerable. There are people who want to swindle you out of cash. They think if you're beyond a certain age, you'll be an easy mark due to desperation. It doesn't mean love can't be found, but one needs to exercise a good amount of caution if dating. It's easy to get hurt or find yourself swinded out of hard-earned cash.
A lady I blind dated, told me she was swindle out of 30,000 dallors of her life saving, entirely online. From a assume romantic Nigerian.
My 10 years of on line dating sucks too, but not this bad.
Whisp,
You made some valid points. However hopefully one would hope the older we become the more life experience and wisdom we would have.
Online dating sites are just a (tool) for meeting new people.
Just as a fork is tool for eating. One can have a garden salad or a slice of double fudge chocolate cake. However no obese person would ever blame their (fork) for their weight gain!
And yet people with bad dating experiences with those THEY (chose) to engage with online will blame the whole online dating industry!
It's still up to the individual to have their own mate selection and "must haves" criteria. You're responsible for who you choose to engage with.
It's not that online dating sucks, too many people suck at online dating!
Another mistake many people make is they don't bother to do any research on the various dating sites before choosing one!
One can learn what the average educational level, income level, age, male to female ratio, and many other facts about a dating site before deciding which one they want to use. In addition there are niche sites.
These sites target specific "must haves" a person might have such as race, religion, age, pets, children, sexual orientation, and hobbies/interests.
Castlepaloma,
As for people sending thousands of dollars to people they've never met in person it just goes to show you commonsense isn't so common anymore.
My online dating has been unlucky.
I have better chances creating social events like different art workshops, comedy standup, urban farming workshops. I hope it is not Illegal or unethical to date your teacher, besides being a fantasy?
Castlepaloma,
There are countless ways to meet new people.
Whatever works for (you) is great.
There is no "one size fits all" method of meeting and dating.
Teachers dating students in workshops and seminars is generally acceptable if there are no (grades) or recommendations being given.
People want to avoid the perception of having had an advantage.
Hmmm... there is an idea, give out grades for favors.
Just kidding,! I don't give out grades or golden stars.
On the other hand sex and laughing are the 2 greatest pleasure on earth. By the end of ones life, it's the one with the most joys (not toys) that WINS. It's worth the risk.
The ironies of life! Worth it? Oh yes!
Good girl, go for it.
There really isn't that many murderers out there. Your more likely to commit suicide for the lack of not, living it up.
Ha ha. You are hilarious, Castlepaloma.
Good morning miss Karen Whitefield. I like your question about dating. There are many single people that have many expectations. Single people has to compromise their missing expectations and decided together for their needs if they like and love each other. Some changes are possible to make to please the other person in dating to find a husband or a lifetime boyfriend. It is fun dating. You have to be brave to start dating to commit to someone; you do not know. It is like looking for any job. Once you find it; you do not let it go. You need to keep it up. It is important not to pretend. There are a lot of nice people looking for someone.
Erorantes, you had me at "It's like looking for a job." Isn't it? It always feels like the stakes are too high and any loss would mean the end of life. What if we were okay letting people go if they didn't like us? I think making peace with rejection is one of the biggest challenges of dating.
One difference, if dating seems like a job interview is. You might get naked at the end of it.
That's just the world we live in. Its a jungle out there and you've gotta know how to protect yourself from predators.
Isivwe Muobo, absolutely agree. Especially hard for women, don't you think?
In Canada It is said, women are treated best in the world. I see men are more hard done by in long term marriages.
I prefer not to be married, the financial unbalance is damaging for both parties.
I standby the honor system and integrity.
I allow them finger print, blood, credit and family background check before we share our lives together.
Yes. Trust is a very tricky thing and often one of the prime reasons for broken marriages or long term marriages.
Yes, if you can't trust, you can't love.
I'm single and find 10 years of online dating sucks. Senior speed dating doesn't exist, and they are too picky and slow anyways.
I've pioneered a few things in my life. Now!!! A new and improved on stage comedy dating is here. Women want to know 3 main things. Is he homurious, hamsome, and rich. If you live in Toronto rich is king, the other two, more acceptable in smaller towns.
Online dating you don't get to hear my voice, nor how I move nor how I look in 3D. You will see my dark side, right off the bat.
Maybe after the show, if lucky, a sample of touch, taste and smell.
If we are really both lucky. You get to see my serious romantic side. That's not all!!! my love for multi-dimensional living to the fullest and the whole package. I'll throw in sweet nothings in your ears.
Yea, definitely. When I was still actively dating, one simple rule that kept me "safe" was to never expect too much from any relationship.
I dated the guy, gave my all as best I could and just enjoyed each day as it came.
I was also careful though not to give something I would regret if things didn't work out. I NEVER gave money and trust me, one or two tried with talks of wanting to invest in a viable business.
I also didn't get too physical too fast. Sex might be commonplace in the world today, but it is a big deal for me. A few guys took a walk, but that was no great loss as it just exposed their real intentions in the first place.
I agree! Online dating has only made the game more difficult for men and women. More mind games, more cheating and way too much time to get "exclusive".
This comedy on stage dating probably won't work in bars, because I have no long term success with ladies from bars. I can handle caffeine addicts from on stage cafe shops.
Caffeine addicts are definitely more desirable than those of other variety! Ha ha ha
Good morning miss Karen. Of course, they are awake most of the time. They are ready to go do fun activities specially during the holidays. Happy Holidays to you.
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