Why are people so baffled that some like being alone and not dating, or being in

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  1. Charlu profile image76
    Charluposted 12 years ago

    Why are people so baffled that some like being alone and not dating, or being in a relationship?

    Why are so many concerned with the fact that some people choose to stay single and not date or be in a relationship?  Maybe they haven't found the right one, are working on themselves, or maybe they just don't want to be in a relationship.
    It seems the longer people go with out dating the more accusations are brought up as to them being gay, or must have "issues".  Why can't people just accept the fact that's the way some people are?

  2. profile image0
    Hubert Williamsposted 12 years ago

    Most people are not that comfortable in their own skin, and can't believe that it's possible.

    1. Charlu profile image76
      Charluposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I guess that's true about a lot of people. I just think everybody is entitled to their own choice, without the ridicule. Thanks

  3. Rickrideshorses profile image76
    Rickrideshorsesposted 12 years ago

    It's natural to be with somebody.  It can enrich people's lives

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    christinekvposted 12 years ago

    Simply put, I think it has to do with design and dependency. Most of us grow up with people in our lives (famiily and friends) who not only provided for our physical needs but also helped to shape us, whether it be through experiences including examples of character,.attitudes and activities (how people invest their time). People have a need to be affirmed on various levels also and we were all designed with a need for love. I can personally testify that I felt I needed another person to "complete me," before I grew in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. If God forbid, something were to happen to my husband, the LAST thing I'd do is try to find another man in the future. Now I don't seek man to learn whether or not I'm valued or special. Sometimes the affirmation comes through other people but I know since none of us are perfect, people will hurt, fail and disappoint me. Relationships can be messy and complicated and I don't enjoy drama. Today I could be single and satisfied. Life can be much simpler when a person is single. Simplicity in my opinion, is a good thing, regardless of whether or not we are talking about relationships.

  5. kathyjones1952@at profile image59
    kathyjones1952@atposted 12 years ago

    I'm 60 years old and I never have married.  I love being single, myself.  I can be my own boss and I can go and come as I please.  I want to date but I'm just not interested in marriage, although I'm aware that could change.  I guess the reason why I feel this way is because there has been so much divorce in my family and I feel like staying single is the best way to avoid it.  Like Linda Ronstadt once said (she never has married, btw), I value my own outlook on life.  The only time I don't like it is when I get so sick to the point that I feel like I need to go to the emergency room and I'm just not able to drive myself.  That happened to me in 2005 and that was pretty scary!  I finally decided to just call the ambulance.  Getting back to your question, I don't know why it baffles some people, myself.  I think it's a matter of choice.

    1. Charlu profile image76
      Charluposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Ditto on the love being single and even though I was married ions ago I've been by myself for over 20 years. There's a few times I would like help with the animals but Naaaah

    2. kathyjones1952@at profile image59
      kathyjones1952@atposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      For some reason, some people seem to think that getting married is mandatory.  They need to realize that it's an option.

  6. Etherealenigma profile image68
    Etherealenigmaposted 12 years ago

    Because they are programmed. Society programs everyone into thinking that we have to have a significant other. Girls are taught to seek prince  charming. Like I  said its all in the programming.

    1. Charlu profile image76
      Charluposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Very good point

  7. edhan profile image37
    edhanposted 12 years ago

    It always takes two hands to clap. Being in a relationship requires two persons to work on it and it may not happen if there is no chemistry between them.

    I have known a group of people who still remain as single in their 60s and being happy is the most important factor in life.

    It is a matter of personal choice as long as you live the life you wanted whether single or married.

  8. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 12 years ago

    Older generations are very long-winded when some people are still single in their 40'S. My in-laws are those "BUSY BODY" people whom they called themselves " CONCERN PEOPLE". Single people have their own thoughts, their own "WORLD" that we couldn't understand. So, we should back out and leave them alone. They are old enough to decide what to do with their own lives.

    1. kathyjones1952@at profile image59
      kathyjones1952@atposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you, peachpurple!  Single people are old enough to decide what to do with their lives and other people should mind their own business!

    2. Charlu profile image76
      Charluposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks peachpurple great answer and I like the "busy body" and "Concern People" lol

  9. kcsummers profile image60
    kcsummersposted 12 years ago

    I met my husband when I was 14, eloped on my 18th birthday, have been married the past 23 years and have 3 kids, so you may think I'm not qualified to answer this question. BUT, when I hear single people talk about being bored and lonely, I just want to roll my eyes. I LOVE being by myself. I know it's probably because it doesn't happen often, but I enjoy my own company, and to quote my mother, "intelligent people are never bored, a smart person can always find something to do." I love and appreciate my family, but I know I could be a happy single person and completely understand that others can be too.

  10. springfox profile image61
    springfoxposted 12 years ago

    Maybe they have such a great relationship that they want to spread the happiness, so they think everyone else should have a special someone.  Or, maybe they do not have the capacity to know that it is important that people enter into a relationship for the right reasons.  I myself, like the idea of working through things first, it helps me minimize the baggage that I carry to the next relationship.

  11. connorj profile image66
    connorjposted 12 years ago

    Although this answer will not be cherished or liked. I feel compelled to state it. Most men and women (not all) were meant to compliment each other and in (Christian) marriage become one. I apologize in advance if I have offended anyone; that was not my intent.

  12. freecampingaussie profile image61
    freecampingaussieposted 11 years ago

    We were brought up that you only had sex within a marriage so to plan a life with no sex and having no children seemed like a horrific way to live .I was married for 23 years & have 3 beautiful daughters + grandchildren .
    I loved having children and can't imgine a life without them .
    It can be lonlier being married to someone that you don't love than being on your own .
    Now I am married to someone who I love very much. If anything happens to him I wouldnt feel the need to find any one else .


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