Dating someone that is married.

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   efeguyposted 15 years ago

   bad news,nt advice able no matter what

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   Alotaposted 15 years ago

   Glenn, sorry, I thought you were being personal ha ha, I might report you ha ha, any way as I was saying a ride is a ride...who cares if he is married...he will probably have more experience and be able to fulfil my needs..and if not I have my rampant rabbit..

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   Jykeith Comalposted 15 years ago

   I find that all of that have responded have very good points. I am not looking for a loophole. To be honest I just wanted to talk about what I went through. I fell inlove with someone I wasnt supposed to. Of course it was wrong, but as being human beings, we dont choose who we fall in love with. Sometimes it just happens....and if you have lived long enough you know what I am saying is true. Was I raised better then this? Of course, but when it comes to the heart...shit happens...thats plain and simple. Now do I feel like a fool? Yes...I do. Do I live well because of this woman...yes. So it was hard. She dont sleep in my bed, and she is, where she is. Did it hurt of course it did. But yall are the only real fam I have had for about 2yrs now. So thank you for all and I mean all of your feedback. Check me out on fb. Love Jykeith Comal Thornton.
   Blessings to you all.

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      graceth0masposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Sometimes, you have to risk something to know what the lesson is. The point is, you learned something from that situation. It is wrong, I know that too. But knowing when to stop counts when you feel you're going deeper in the relationship.

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   graceth0masposted 15 years ago

   I dated a married guy. However, I was clear of not going into something deeper than just a friendly date. I liked him for the longest time (say about 11 years or so) but never got the chance since I got married first (and got separated first). It was like taking a chance at that feeling I had a long time ago. We're still good friends now. He's, however, separated but not because of me. But because his wife got pregnant with another guy.

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   TheWriterIVYposted 15 years ago

   This is a very tricky topic and will bring about many feelings. I agree that dating someone who is married is inherently wrong whatever the situation is and not just because of how it affects the "marriage" but how you see yourself.
   Ghost said it best as far as open marriages are concerned.
   They really do exist and for various reasons people stay using kids as the major contributing factor. Open marriage aside, unless both parties in the marriage are in agreement to their situation and it is not just some man or woman claiming they have one - it really is a personal judgement call. 
   The thing is that it is not you that holds the cards. You are essentially dating on someone elces time clock and that person can pull the plug, so to speak, whenever they choose.
   My feelings on dating someone who is married when the other party has no clue, are far different.
   Nothing good can ever come from intentionally or unintentionally hurting someone else even if the relationship is supposedly over.  I have always said that marriage is TWO people no more. When a woman accuses another woman of breaking up her marriage - that is a crock - it is her husband that owes her that respect and the same is true for a women.
   The best thing but certainly not always the easiest especially if feelings are involved, is to walk away. It is that old saying - set them free, if they come back to you, it is meant to be.

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   donotfearposted 15 years ago

   Well.....

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   moonphlowerposted 15 years ago

   I find this topic quite interesting.  I come at this from both views.  Sometimes marriages fall apart mutually, others often just one spouse falls out of love with the other.  I am legally married to my husband but our marriage fell apart long ago, and I have NEVER cheated on him.  We've been seperated now for a year, him living in one state while I live in another.  I could have filed sooner, but that's another story dragging out legal laws, blah, blah, blah.  I haven't seen anyone for a year not even a second thought at it.  I had spoken to an attorney friend of and asked her to take the case...we officially filed today...just waiting for him to sign and return.  I did eventually meet someone (that's another long story).  But I in no way led him on to believe I wasn't married, I told him from the start.  I explained the siruation to him and als made clear that I gave my "husband" the courtsey to tell him I was "moving on"!  We had barely spoken in the time he was gone.  His response???  Ok, should I file or should you??  LOL  Don't sweat yourself sweet cheeks, I've hired one.  He too has moved on...much sooner than I did.  But we both new our marriage was over...a LONG time ago.

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   Midwest Writerposted 15 years ago

   Do you love him?

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