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HOW COULD A TEN GO FOR A FIVE?

  1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
    Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago

    Since Peter Travers, praises the new movie, "she's out of my league", i would like ask you all a question.  lets say you hooked up with a guy/girl that was WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYY  out of your league, and was perfect allegedly in every fathomable way.  lets also pretend they had an ex that was also perfect, that she/he still had partial feelings for but still cared about you as well.  what would you do?  take in mind, this has NOTHING to do with me, as i just know that this is part of the plot to the movie, but i wanted to know what would YOU do if it happened to you?

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I just got in an arguement with hubby about this.
      what does "out of your league" even mean?!! and why does no one ever say HE is out of your league?

      perfect? are you kidding me? then why did they break up?

      I dont care if the ex is a dog,(dont ask, where I live, people have in fact tried to marry thier dog) if he has feelings for her, then he isnt mine all the way.

      "league" aside, if someone has feelings for someone else, they shouldnt be trying to start a new relationship.

    2. Marisa Wright profile image93
      Marisa Wrightposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If she and her ex were both truly perfect, then they would still be together because they would be perfectly matched, so the question becomes irrelevant.

      However if you're talking about a 10 as in Bo Derek 10, i.e. it's all about the looks, then it's a silly question because looks are such a small part of what makes a relationship work.

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this



      to me, someone is "out of your league" if they are a complete arrogant jerk, i don't care how pretty he is.

      as to the other part of the question, if i liked someone who still had feelings for someone else, i would tell them to go sort them out first before coming anywhere near me. who wants to deal with that?

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        yeah, i completely agree with that.  nobody should have to go through that sort of trouble if the other person isn't sure how they feel about you.

  2. Rafini profile image88
    Rafiniposted 7 years ago

    if he still had partial feelings for her, he had better get them sorted out before pursuing anything with me!!  cuz I wouldn't want my heart broken over his uncertainty.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i agree.

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    Madame Xposted 7 years ago

    Define "out of your league"

    Is it people who are "prettier" than me? Thinner? More fashionable? Are part of the "In-crowd"? Richer?

    Anyone who thinks they're out of my league for those reasons is so shallow I wouldn't want to be with them.

    Just sayin . . . smile

    1. Rafini profile image88
      Rafiniposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i agree with you 100%.  but I thought of the question as "for arguments sake".    such as:  Prince Charles is "out of my league".  for more reasons than one!!  smile

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        why? why is he  out of your league? what IS a league? I know its about the title of the movie and its for arguments sake, but I really dont get that phrase ...and you cant have an argument by your self? normaly anyways..  lol

        1. Rafini profile image88
          Rafiniposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          why is he out of my league?  Many Reasons!  lol

          he's in England, I'm in USA.  He's royalty, I'm not.  He's 60+ (?), I'm 40 something.  His family history is well known, I would rather keep mine private.  He has social circles, I keep to myself.

          I consider him out of my league cuz I doubt he would ever be interested in me for the reasons I stated.  Now if it were someone like Johnny Depp...the only issue I would have would be the social circles.  lol  I don't care if someone thinks he's out of my league - I would fight for him!!  lol

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            Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            thats not league
            thats just you dont have anything in common. your good enough, hes just not the right one.

            to me, saying..out of your league..implies the other person is too good for you. I think thats ridicolous. And honestly, its usally based on a woman's apperance.

            1. Rafini profile image88
              Rafiniposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              having something in common puts you in the same league.

              the perception out there is, that being out of someone's league means the other person is too good for you.  It's meant to derail you, to demean you, degrade you.  But honestly, that is not how I look at it.  I decided a long time ago that Nobody has the right to determine who is or is not in my league.  Except me.

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                Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I agree. its why the whole "league" thing bugs me.
                people are different, its not about better or worse.
                I supppose Im just being picky about vocabulary?

                1. Rafini profile image88
                  Rafiniposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  maybe smile  or maybe you just need to turn the term around like I did.  smile

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                    Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    smile
                    Ill try

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    Lecieposted 7 years ago

    her looks make her a 5. but her personality probably adds atleast another 5 making the whole package in his eyes. looks are only part of the number. a woman can be a 10 in looks but have 0 personality to the point that no man can stand to be around her anyway.

  5. Cagsil profile image61
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    A perfect example: The Revenge of the Nerds. There are a number of reason a "10" would be with a "5".

    However, as for personal experience, I've dated several "10" women and my scale of ten has more to do with other factors, besides their looks. I almost married one, but then learned that she is not a "10" after all, but was nothing more than a "5" dressed to play the role of a "10".

    So, with that said- if there are any sort of feelings between ex's and partners, then those should be sorted out, before anything else can begin.

    Just my thoughts. smile

 
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