seeing as how i opened another forum on this, and how i won't have to put up with the ackward moments you parents will have talking to your child about this. however, what would you say to explain to your daughters about the birds and the bees?
I would get Brenda in to explain it all to them.
I would start by asking what they know, what they might have heard, rumors, etc. about sex, and if they have questions they'd like to ask you.
From birth, answer their questions honestly and matter-of-factly without going into great detail.
As they gain age and sophistication, continue to do the same with as much detail as they require and no more. Never make a big deal out if it...it's as simple as that.
I have always been very open and honest with my daughter and made it a habit to periodically bring up the topic of sex.
I found that the school system here has done a great job of teaching the basics and she had very few things she had questions about.
I have always felt it was better to give her a window of opportunity in case she ever got to a point where she wanted to bring it up, but might be afraid to do it. It's worked well with us. Just recently, we had a fantastic girl to girl talk and her honesty and frankness made me proud. We had this moment, simply because I brought it up. She'll be 18 in November.
on the serious side of this I agree honesty is the best policy and sooner rather than later as some of the thing they learn on their own can be really damaging.
That's right, we have to educate them as sooner. So that someday they may not feel curious or ignorant about that thing.
The time to educate is exactly when they get curious I would have thought - before that time kids just don't want or need to know so much. my kids got curious when they were around 5 or 6, then more curious around 8 or 9 then really really curious around 13 or so.
I agree that telling them too much too soon can be overwhelming for a kid. One thing I've noticed with some people is they tend to be too judgmental when a kid tries to talk to them. If you ever start doing that, kids will shut down and not talk to you. They have to feel they can ask you anything and that no question is too stupid or too trivial. If you lay that foundation, when those curiousity questions arise, they'll come to you instead of relying on friends, TV or the internet.
I tell my daughters the truth about everything, am very open to their questions and beliefs. And probably because of this, I know who is doing what and when. It's just not a hushed topic in this house.
I have always tried to be open and honest about sex. I know it is one of the strongest drives in the human psyche, and as such it is also very normal and natural.
Before I thought my daughter was ready to actually have sex, but was old enough to understand. I made sure that she knew, with no questions asked, that if she wanted birth control I would get it for her.
Any question she had, I would answer, and any time she wanted to talk I would. She is now 19 and sexually active, she has let me know this, in her way...without having to be embarrassed by actually verbalizing it. I am happy for her, and glad that she has entered into the grown up world of sex with her eyes open, and with out fear that she would be treated badly by me for being sexual.
It's important to be open and honest when discussing sex with your children. However, you don't want to give so much information as to confuse them either. It's up to the individual family how they approach the issue. I know for my own children, I simply answered their questions with plain English. We used the actual names of the sex organs: penis and vagina. Horrified? They were never afraid to approach us about matters of a sexual nature. And we were never afraid to give them answers, as we knew it was truth, not dodging the actual act.
You tell them if they fool around they'll grow mustaches and they'll spend the rest of their lives trying to hide it. Then they'll be relagated to marrying a fat sweaty guy with an extremely hairy back.
I started talking about it to my daughter when she was very young. When she became older she already knew what she needed to know.
You would know when your daughter is ready for a "mature" talk. I started talking about dating (http://hubpages.com/hub/A-Mothers-Guide … Age-Dating) and then, probably take some time emphasizing on relationships first. In that way, she'd understand that she can't sleep around with just anybody. Teach your daughter to respect herself too. That's gonna make her value her body and virginity.
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