Do fathers have a hard time talking about love with their daughters?

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   DexisViewposted 12 years ago

   Do fathers have a hard time talking about love with their daughters?
   
   I recently posted 2 questions about advice that moms would give sons about love and advice dads would give daughters about love.  There were 19 comments posted regarding mother/son relationships vs just 5 comments posted regarding father/daughter.  Do you think this difference is an indication that dads don't know what to say about love or that they just have a harder time communicating with their daughters?  Curious what everyone has to say about this.  Thanks!
   
   

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   JThomp42posted 12 years ago

   I think the main problem here is Father's do not want to let go of their little girls. We, as men know how boys are and it is a shivering thought of your baby girl growing up and entering that part of her life. Although inevitable, it is still something not pleasantly thought about.

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      DexisViewposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Tough for Dads to watch their little girls become women.  It is inevitable so best to enjoy it

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      And yet every man I know of  had his heart broken, was lied to, or cheated on by some woman in their life. Mothers warn their sons about girls and dads warn their daughters about boys. Most parents don't believe anyone is "good enough" for their kids

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   I'm not sure it is indicative of fathers having trouble communicating with their daughters. I would suppose it would have to be looked at on a case by case basis. We raised two daughters and my husband had no trouble discussing love with them, or showing love for them. He is very close to our daughters and a big teddy bear when it comes to them or anything about them - same with his granddaughters.
   
   He did have trouble with "girly" things, discussing periods or tampons. We used to tease him about it.

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      DexisViewposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Lucky girls and Dad!

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   ahorsebackposted 12 years ago

   Oh man , daughters , maybe its daughters that are able to teach a dad more about real love !  And more than him teaching her , he can only watch as she shows him a thing or two ! lol.....Woman , therefor daughters too are the most giving ,  nurturing , loving thing on earth .  A dad can only stand by and" be there" for them .  When she needs a rock that is !

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      DexisViewposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Many a Dad has become a better man by learning from his daughter

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      ahorsebackposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Dexis ....ME for one ! .....lol

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      DexisViewposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      LOL indeed, ahorseback!  I have seen the toughest of men...wrapped right around those little girl fingers

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   edhanposted 12 years ago

   It is a matter of opening up conversation together with your wife and daughter at a young age. Once the bonding is created then it will be easier when she starts to grow up. My daughter asks me about boyfriend and how she knows if the boy likes her.

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      DexisViewposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Congrats for having that relationship, edhan!  I agree that if the communication is established at a young age it may continue through the more challenging years.

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   Hariom Singhalposted 12 years ago

   Yes I think  so because gender difference.mother can talk more frequently with daughter.Father can talk with son.It is natural.

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      DexisViewposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing, Hariom.  My dad (76) has 1 son and 3 daughters.  He will tell you his daughters gave him no choice but to listen and learn about female ways.  Now he has granddaughters that he has stopping in and talking about their love lifes

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   Abby Campbellposted 12 years ago

   I think it all depends on personality whether it is a mother or a father. There are generations who didn't show affection much, and then there are generations that were truly affectionate. That may have something to do with personalities as well. I can only speak for my husband as we raised three beautiful daughters. He had absolutely no problem showing love, nor did he have problems talking to them about love. As our girls were younger, he probably showed them more than he talked. When they became teens and started dating, he talked more... teaching them what true love is between a man and a woman. Most of all, he's never had a difficult time telling his girls he loves them. He's very big in telling them every single day as we never know when our last breath will be. He wants them to know that their daddy loves them.

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      DexisViewposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I am sure your 3 girls appreciate how lucky they are to have a dad that openly shows his love for them.  Lucky you, too, Abby

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      Abby Campbellposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I am extremely blessed. Thank you, DexisView. My girls know that they are too as they have friends with no dads. They love their dad very much.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   No, I don't think it has anything to do with the difficulty of men explaining love to their daughters. When I started writing my relationship book I did some research and found that (women) buy 75% of all the relationship advice books sold.
   I suspect more women also read wedding related  and parenting topics as well. I'm sure if you posted a question asking; Which Superbowl team was the best of all time? you probably would not have a whole lot of women answering that question.
   People are drawn to questions which address topics they have an "interest" in or strong opinion about for the most part. If a question requires time to reflect before answering it most people won't take the time. Answering questions is an impulsive act.

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      DexisViewposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      ...possibly, dashingscorpio.  I still think most dads will admit to being puzzled by females in general.

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