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At what age should I talk about sex with my daughter?

  1. jpcmc profile image89
    jpcmcposted 6 years ago

    At what age should I talk about sex with my daughter?

    I'm a new dad and I'm dreading that day when my wife and I have to talk about sex.  What's the best time to do this?

  2. aDayInMyLife1 profile image91
    aDayInMyLife1posted 6 years ago

    Kids start asking questions at a young age. Just start from the beginning. Maintain a non-threatening, comfortable, open line of communication with your child. Honestly answer her questions as they come. When they are toddlers and ask "where do babies come from?" a simple -from a mommy and daddy who love eachother- will do. When she is a little older and more curious she will ask again and add whatever details satisfy her at that age. But be aware about what is going on at school and what children are doing. You definitely want to beat school children to the punch and have your daughter learn about sex from you and not them. Don't worry. You have a ways to go.

  3. Cre8tor profile image96
    Cre8torposted 6 years ago

    I agree with ADay...start now. Very light and basic at first like ADay said about Mommies and Daddies. Slowly increasing towards the facts, like health class as they get older. Once they're mature enough, and you'll know when that is, start getting into the finer details of all that sex implies.
    My oldest son is 15. We have a good relationship and I've been quite involved in our community...don't make the mistake that sex doesn't come up before they are teens. Without detail, my first realization of this was when he was 11. Though it didn't involve him, I was shocked and began more detailed discussion.
    Today's society sells sex to a very young group. Many catch on through older siblings who are say...less than guided by their parents, and feel it "cool" to be like them. It's everywhere.
    I feel the best thing is to be open with the child and let them know that no matter what the topic...you are there for them. Don't wait for her to ask you!

  4. jacqui2011 profile image83
    jacqui2011posted 6 years ago

    My daughter is 10 years old and recently had a sex education talk at school. She had a few questions when she came home, it was more about the reproductive side of things. With regard to talking to her on a more personal level about sex, I will talk to her in more detail when she is 13 or 14.

  5. profile image51
    Lorena Mustainposted 6 years ago

    Well from personal experience because I was the daughter who got "the talk" from my father it's crucial how you go about it. I was not as lucky to have a mother around to tell me and therefore my dad was the one to talk to me and it was AWKWARD beyond belief. If your daughter is to ever ask a question please be honest and don't start off anything with about the birds and the bees. Honesty is always the best policy. My father told me when I was going on my first date and I think that would be appropriate but if questions would arise before let nature take its course.

  6. xethonxq profile image65
    xethonxqposted 6 years ago

    Definitely by the 6th grade. Kids know so much by that age and are already under peer pressure...plus their bodies are starting to change.

  7. Becky Katz profile image85
    Becky Katzposted 6 years ago

    Start from when she starts talking. Comment on how a pregnant woman has a baby in her tummy. Keep the lines of communication open on the subject so that she knows you will talk to her about it. It will probably be more comfortable for her mother, grandmother  or aunt to talk to her, since she is a girl. You want to have the literature for her by the time she is 10 to discuss how her body works. At this time would also be a good time to put comments about how you feel about sex for someone her age. Be honest because she will know if you are prevaricating..

  8. Faceless39 profile image93
    Faceless39posted 6 years ago

    Make sure you let her know that if she ever has questions of any kind for you, that you'll be willing to answer them for her.  If she doesn't come to you before age 10, it's time to maybe buy her an informative book and out with it.

  9. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    The right time will be when your daughter starts asking.

    This is what happen to us.

    Then you can explain the knowledge of sex to her and allowing her to have a clear understanding of what is involved when come to sex.

    I think that will be the right way to open up the topic about sex.

  10. Author Cheryl profile image88
    Author Cherylposted 6 years ago

    Since I worked in a clinic I will tell you we had children as young as nine pregnant.  I wouldnt wait until she starts asking I would start educating her as soon as she can really understand.  These kids are having sex at 8 years old.  Since sex education is not taught in schools any longer then it is up to the parents and I say the earlier the better.  There are great childrens books out there with illustrations that can help you.  Parents do injustice to their kids when they don't want to talk about sex with them.

  11. Nasia IAm UniQue profile image58
    Nasia IAm UniQueposted 6 years ago

    NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!! she will talk to you when she is ready or curious..... Trust me i know i am 13!!