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Is Sex Addiction Really A Disease?

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    Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago

    http://tvnz.co.nz/entertainment-news/he … on-3469797

    Apparently Hugh Heffner doesn't think so. He calls it an obsession! No sh it! Aren't we all obsessed with sex? It's just that all of us don't act on our obsession. Hef claims people cheat because they think they can get away with it. I ain't buying that! People cheat because they're obsessed and they act on it without thinking about the consequences.

    http://www.blogcdn.com/www.cinematical.com/media/2008/09/i-am-a-sex-addict-still.jpg

    1. angela_michelle profile image91
      angela_michelleposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I'm not sure if it is a true disease or not, but I just read an article about this woman who claims that after she hurt a nerve while falling on a wii fit board, she now is a sex addict.

    2. tessaph profile image56
      tessaphposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ewe

      1. Pandoras Box profile image67
        Pandoras Boxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        What's that? Oh you prefer sheep? Yeah that might be classified as a problem.

        But this is for you anyway.

        http://bedford.extension.psu.edu/Agriculture/Images/preg%20ewe.jpg

        1. Greek One profile image78
          Greek Oneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          i know her!

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            kimberlyslyricsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            lol lol lol lol

          2. Paradise7 profile image83
            Paradise7posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            You're way out... and I LOVE it!!!! big_smilebig_smilebig_smile

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          selrachposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I know her too Greek one. She was stolen from an Aberdeen leisure centre

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this



      oh boy

      you'd have to be a sex addict to wanna roll with that skanky lookin' ho.

      seriously though i agree with Brenda. no it is not an illness or an uncontrollable urge.

      is there no accountability these days? can people not stand up and admit that they are amoral pigs?

      rant over. and i have no desire to debate this with anyone so save your breath.

      1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
        TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I totally hear you, Cosette, and you're absolutely correct, many many people like to "create diagnoses" or "get diagnosed" so that they do not have to take responsibility for their behavior.

        At the same time, brain chemistry (as I have come to understand) is incredibly complex and very powerful as well. I cannot help but wonder if some people are truly unable to to manage these urges, control the impulse...something. I've met people with problems in these areas who GENUINELY want to change, and they have successes...and sometimes they miss the mark. And some never hit it.

        *sigh* It seems all so very complicated to me at times.

        I also wonder how much society creates an impetus for what we call "addiction."

        I also, cannot discount the thoughts of those who say that it's psychological. Some people just seem to feel a need to punish and degrade themselves. Others seem to feel that the only way they are valuable is if someone is having sex with them. I really can't imagine what it would be like to feel that way...to be subject to such thoughts and ideas...And I can't say I'd be able to "be moral" if I did feel that way.

        I certainly am not trying to argue or debate with you. I'm just seriously thinking about the issue and throwing thoughts out there.

        1. ceciliabeltran profile image80
          ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          You are totally correct in your suspicion. Even argumentative-ness and sadness are addictions to the nuero-chemicals that inspire them.

          The problem with depressed people is that they have been so sad for such a long time, the receptors have retracted (or wilted) and are unable to receive happy chemicals. So it is very important that a child learns how to be happy as a habit so as not to form a brain that is addicted to sadness.

          There is nothing  more important than providing a child sources of joy and love so that his ability to receive the nuero-chemicals are strengthened. It becomes a habit. Love drugs such as PEA and Oxytocin are inspired upon birth.

          Addicts usually look for alternative sources of happy drugs because they have not "learned" to seek it from healthy activities. As a matter of fact even if they engage in healthy activities, they might not get the same kick as a neuro-typical person would.

          (For those who require further reading, just contact me and i will email my sources)

          1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
            TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            So...let's say a child didn't "learn happy habits" so to speak...are they pre-destined to become an addict? If they *do* become an addict, what can then be done about it? Can the "broken" or wilted parts be helped?

            1. ceciliabeltran profile image80
              ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Nobody is actually "predestined" because the brain is plastic. It will be harder for those children to gravitate towards habits that bring them joy. This happens even as early as the fetal stage. It is called genomic imprinting.

              It just harder for a person given these cards to feel happy. But happy juice receptors can be courted back into growing. Becoming aware that the urges are addictions that are biological, you take away the guilt from failing and are able to find ways to tackle the biological problems.

              There is nothing more discouraging to psychological health than telling a person she has failed. It is better to make it a task with a checklist so that they can objectively avoid triggers of addiction.

              It takes about 21 days to form a new habit. Some alcoholics replace their substance addiction to religious preoccupation. Some sex addicts get into extreme sports. Replacing negative addictions with more positive one is usually what works.

              Many smokers become marathon addicts, which is for me a positive turn.

              A shrink would be able to get down and dirty with this. I am just a writer with too much research debris in my head.

              1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
                TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I like the debris...some of this I've heard and others I haven't. You've got mail smile

                1. ceciliabeltran profile image80
                  ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Ok will check. Thanks! smile

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              Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

              pre-destined? no way.  Plenty of people go through crap without repeating it. BUT some peopel are so hurt

              broken parts "fixed"? depends on the individual. I firmly believe a person CAN help themselves, but they have to do it. No one can do it for them.

      2. Paradise7 profile image83
        Paradise7posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Listen, we all like sex....we all like even the idea of sex...it makes us smile, that's a good thing...It isn't fun to be cheated on, to love someone and trust them and find them untrue to you...I just really don't know...

    4. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I have no desire to debate this with you either cosette.  I agree with you completely.  I think people need to practice more self-control and personal responsibility in their lives.  However, true obsession is a disorder and certain behaviors like viewing porn can become addictive.

    5. Ben Evans profile image74
      Ben Evansposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      When we label it as a disease, it gives us an excuse for our behavior.  "It is not my fault because it is disease." 

      I think a healthy sexual appetite is a good thing.  The problem is that sex is not truely sex.  In many males, it is from bragging.  It is an ego enhancement. 

      How many women have you had?  How often do you have sex?

      These are common questions that men ask each other.  I beleive that the quality as well as love two people express when making love is so much more important than frequency or anything else.  For many sex is just a 2 minute act.  If they are getting it then they are normal.

      I dont think it is an addicition for most people either (there are some though who would fall into this catagory).  I beleive it is sociological behavior which is learned.  I think both men and women now practice in this behavior. 

      People say the sexual hormones cause this behavior.  I completely disagree.  Well lets look at ole Heff.........His sexual peak left him 59 years ago.  So what is his motivation now?   It isnt love.  It really is not a need.  It is living up to the image he created for himself.  It is a testiment in his mind to his varility.  Thats it.

    6. RKHenry profile image78
      RKHenryposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It is a need to breed.  I need to breed.  I need to screw, and procreate with the opposite sex.  The thought of men only having one woman, goes against the very mentality of how we were built.  It is in the need.  I need to spread my sperm into as many women as possible.  I need to fight for them, and keep them in my herd.  Its primal.  Clear enough?

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    only if it is about having sex with inanimate objects like the Eiffel Tower or animals and such.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Do turkeys count?big_smile

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        ralwusposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I would not know, which kind? there are three.

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          sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I'm not that picky!big_smile

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    Brenda Durhamposted 7 years ago

    Sex addiction is an out-of-control habit, not a disease.

    1. writealready profile image60
      writealreadyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Agreed. It's just another lame excuse to say "it's not my fault".

      1. ceciliabeltran profile image80
        ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Addiction is a condition that needs outside help. Blame will not help. smile

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      really? how many people do you know who have an addiction to sex, or have been hurt by someone addicted to sex?

      1. Disturbia profile image60
        Disturbiaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        My husband has a sexual addiction...  it is real and it hurts the addict just as much as those around him.

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    lynnechandlerposted 7 years ago

    I just saw the movie Love Sick based on the book by Sue Silverman it gave an interesting perspective on this issue.

    http://www.amazon.com/Love-Sick-Journey … 0393019578

    1. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      My husband and I are in therapy for this very thing.  He's addicted to internet porn and the thrill he gets from the attention women give him in chat rooms, etc.  He's also a compulsive cheater and was very much in denial about  it all.  Much of his cheating had nothing to do with other women being sexier or more attractive or any of the reasons most people would think of as why men cheat.  He cheated because it was a compulsion, like people with OCD who wash their hands compulsively, or hoarders who can't bring themselves to throw anything out, even when they have accumulated so much junk they can no longer get through the front door of their own house.  His need for sex is a psychological disorder.  Sexual addictions are really much more complicated than most people think.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    Well when we first got married, at 19, I was like a kid in a candy store. I could see how you could get carried away, I did. I also believe thats between you and your wife. Fortunately my wife was the voice of reason otherwise we wouldn't have gotten anything done!

    If you go outside of your marraige and infect your relationship you should naturally be prepared to lose that relationship. I doubt sex is an addiction, I do believe some people are self-serving twits!smile

  6. Stevennix2001 profile image83
    Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago

    with all do respect, ALL YOUNG HEALTHY MEN are sex addicts.  hell, ill admit i'm a bonafide sex addict.  lol.  the only reason i don't act on it because most women always blow me off.  lol.

    1. alternate poet profile image64
      alternate poetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Just be satisfied with that then !  big_smile big_smile big_smile

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        did i forget to mention when i say, "women usually blow me off", I mean it as in they tell me to get lost or they ignore me, and not the sexual reference.  which i forgot that expression could've been misconstrued as.  lol.

      2. tessaph profile image56
        tessaphposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        hahaha.. that is crazy..

    2. Daniel Carter profile image89
      Daniel Carterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, at least that much must be satisfying for you.
      wink

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        did i forget to mention when i say, "women usually blow me off", I mean it as in they tell me to get lost or they ignore me, and not the sexual reference.  which i forgot that expression could've been misconstrued as.  lol.  therefore, i doubt seriously that makes any difference.  lol.  however, thanks though.

  7. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    sex is an addiction (not a disease per se) when you can't control your urges and seek out sex and it causes problems in your life- marriage, job, relationships etc.  I believe that some people are obsessive (a very real psychological ailment) and sex may just be one of their addictions.  There are ways to treat this addiction, just like quitting cigarrettes - it can be done, but you need help to do it.

    1. Pandoras Box profile image67
      Pandoras Boxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yeah I think that's the official definition, well, in order to be classified as a psychological problem or illness. Sex addiction is only an illness if it is causing the addict or others around the addict problems.

      If you can handle it and control yourself then it isn't an illness as recognized by the psychiatric association.

  8. ceciliabeltran profile image80
    ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago

    It's a psychological illness. When you want to have sex with everything that only means you desire to find yourself and you're looking and searching for it in other people.

    Sex Addiction means you have lost your concept of self, and so you need to stop all sexual activity and focus on what it is about you that you are not looking at and doing something about. What pain do you not want see?

  9. TheGlassSpider profile image74
    TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago

    As I understand it, "sex addiction" is not yet an "acceptable diagnosis" amongst medical and mental health professionals, although it is on the horizon.

    It would NOT be considered a disease (using the medical model's definition of a disease), instead it would be considered a disorder.

    The DSM defines a disorder as symptoms + impairment. So if someone has the symptoms and those symptoms are causing impairment, they have a disorder. This doesn't mean it's NOT a habit, this doesn't mean someone's will can't affect it...it merely means that it's causing problems with someone's life and it's not caused by a bacteria, virus, etc.

    ETA: Some of the confusion may stem from the idea of alcoholism being a "disease." I urge everyone to consider that there are multiple models of addiction, and the disease model is only one of them.

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    selrachposted 7 years ago

    Lets throw this in the mix.
    With almost all addictions recovery involves abstinance.Ie alcohol,drugs cigarettes.
    So does the poor sex addict have to abstain and if so is self relief ok?

    1. ceciliabeltran profile image80
      ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      in the case of alcoholism, the problem is the more you drink alcohol the more your body craves it. The blood loos for its habitual consistency. If you have it in your bloodstream, anytime it goes low you will crave it, until it gets used to having other substances in your bloodstream. So that needs medical attention.

      Sex addiction however is more like a tic. An impulse that you can't control. Again, when your body does something repetitively to achieve relief for pain. Everytime that pain resurfaces, the initial relief agent that you used is what you'll crave for. SO to cure the sex addiction, you must get to the psychological root. What pain is it trying to alleviate.

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        selrachposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        It looks like my attempt at humour failed.
        I am an alcoholic so fully understand my addiction which has many pyschological problems associated with it

      2. TheGlassSpider profile image74
        TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        This is a good point. However, there *are* certain chemicals, hormones, and things (you probably know more about this than I do, honestly) that come with sex...is it possible that the sex addict is really sort of addicted to those things?? Until, as you said, other substances get into the bloodstream? Food for thought, maybe.

        1. ceciliabeltran profile image80
          ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Well, if we're going to be technical about it, yes there are neurochemicals involved in sex addiction. Naturally they are craving some endorphins that they get by having sex with stranger after stranger.

          But getting endorphins from one activity is a malaise, particularly if the person is destroying his relationships to get to those endorphins.

          While I am all for accountability, in truth all diseases (and I'm sure I'm going to get pummeled by saying this) are born out of diseases of the mind (and I can hear it coming, what about genetics and so and so forth...I assure you there are answers to that on the neurological/hormonal even spiritual level).

          So when somebody who ate too much sugar and protein gets diabetes, do you blame that person? The answer is no. You help them. You understand that they cannot help themselves. The condition is past choice, hence the need for external intervention.

          Eating too much sugar is an addiction as well, but medicines are there to help people cope with the sugar cravings.

    2. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It's different from being physically addicted to a substance.  It's psychological.

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    Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago

    Hello. My name is Poppa and I'm an addict...

  12. Greek One profile image78
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    Yes it is...

    and my ex is the cure

  13. donotfear profile image92
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    I don't believe sex addiction is a disease. I think it's an addiction.l

  14. Obscure Divine profile image54
    Obscure Divineposted 7 years ago

    Some people have higher levels of sexual hormones than others, simple as that.  You can't have sex all the time or have the desire to do such, without high libido.  It is just that some people are more blatant about it than other "closet-freaks"... Geez!

  15. Rafini profile image90
    Rafiniposted 7 years ago

    lollollollollollollol


    Okay, Here is a headline from the future!!  lol 

    Beautiful wife with 'horny' husband takes him to the doctor and begs for a prescription for the latest Sex Addiction deterrant pill!

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      sex deterrant pill..they call it playboy...

      1. Rafini profile image90
        Rafiniposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        aww, sorry to hear that...sad

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          Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          its all good! Im just saying, people don't always know what they are talking about if they haven't lived it...

          disease or not, sex addiction is real.

    2. I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s profile image61
      I*n*v*i*c*t*u*sposted 7 years ago

      hmm. just into posting and not reading other opinions tonight! I feel us "Americans" came up with the word addictition and created an aweful craze.. NOW people are addicted to everything..

      Tell me, is a peson addictrd to sex if they masterbate 15 times by themselves a day... or do they need a partner..


      lol  lol
      Bloody hell, we have internet addicts, sex adicts , drug addicts..

      Tell me something, when you are constantly thinking about addictive behavour... How do you feel?? and do you in tern feel more compelled to what you are thinking of??

      It is ALL in our minds.. People need to taked accountability for themselves!

      And we are blaming the governments for our life when we have all these threads  whining about our loss of control!!!
      get bloody real!

      We need to be accountable whether I would like to masterbate 100 times or have sex that many times a day OR not!
      big_smile

    3. mega1 profile image80
      mega1posted 7 years ago

      this thread is the perfect anti-dote for oversexed yearning- ick! I don't even want to get near my genitals!

    4. moondive profile image51
      moondiveposted 7 years ago

      Hm, No!!

    5. RecoverToday profile image86
      RecoverTodayposted 7 years ago

      Obviously sex cannot be a disease, as it's a trait we are born with to reproduce. I think the question answered itself. It's an addiction.

    6. just...Dee profile image56
      just...Deeposted 7 years ago

      I feel it is a combo act.. to much of anything that is good or that gives and individual a "High" feeling is/or can be addicting to the mind, the body and soul.. To me these are three different entities in which are aroused  and/or please when engaging in a sexual act..when all three are satisfied the individual will start craving this feeling more. If it is with the person partner the is move the level of intimacy to a satisfying level for both, if one or the other is having issues in other departments they will start seeking this "High" a stay..

    7. brandyBachmann profile image61
      brandyBachmannposted 7 years ago

      I don't think that sex addiction is a disease however I believe that it is a sign of an underlying condition, a problem that has been avoided instead of being solved, kinda like alcoholism or smoking.

    8. NorwinGalle profile image59
      NorwinGalleposted 7 years ago

      Any thing in excessive amount surely will cause damage to your health.Control is must over such habits.Learn new things and focus on your hobbies.

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      majorshadowposted 6 years ago

      Song Title: What did I do
      Subject: R& B song about infidelity.  The lyrics also address the new tinsel town bogus "sex addict" cop-out.  Video is the lyric sheet synchronized to the audio recording.
      Video URL: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZp8u_vGgYo

    10. Richieb799 profile image60
      Richieb799posted 6 years ago

      I don't want to sound preachy, I know sexual desire is natural and young people would find out and experiment themselves without seeing it elsewhere, but I believe the way it is broadcast in the media and we constantly see models and superstars dressed half naked to extremes encourages the wrong outlook on life.

     
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