How to stay in a marriage with your best friend but no passion?

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   dawnMposted 14 years ago

   Help answers?

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   KCC Big Countryposted 14 years ago

   Why bother? Get a divorce and remain friends.

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      dawnMposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      what if kids are involve?

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   KCC Big Countryposted 14 years ago

   Kids do complicate things.  But, kids sense when things aren't right even if you try to hide it from them.  They will benefit more if two parents love each other rather than pretending to.  Kids should have access to both parents as much as possible.  If you remain friends there is no reason things can't work out amicably for all involved.

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      my parents hated each other, but started out as very good friends, and told me often, they stayed together "for the kids" so ....I always felt it was my fault my mother was never happy.   Im not saying this always happens, or that I even think its my fault now, but its just how I felt then, from a kids perspective.
      
      
      on another note, Im not suer what youu mean by passion? its is something that ebbs and flows....comfort is under-rated.

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   Precious Williamsposted 14 years ago

   I've had a celibate marriage for years due to his illness.  It doesn't stop you being able to have a happy marriage.  It rather depends on how you rate the need for passion and that is such a personal thing.

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   aprile mintoposted 14 years ago

   so true!

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   jennshealthstoreposted 14 years ago

   Since this is your best friend and you guys love each other it seems like there is good reason to make it work. When you are in a relationship it always takes work to make things right. What I suggest is that you guys honestly talk to each other. Since you are best friends, you should be able to communicate. You can easily put the passion back into the realtioship. Start setting times for your selves to go on dates, being silly or what ever it was that made you fall in love in the first place. Do fun things! Act like your not married and pretend like you are meeting for the first time. Or make up your own idea. If you have a good relationship it is worth holding on to. Most relationships lose the spark after a while. It's putting in the effort to keep the spark going which will either make or break the relationship.

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