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Why do people tend to put more effort into impressing a new lover?

  1. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    One would think people would want to shower a person with love and affection who has committed to them. Why is it more often than not a "new lover" gets our best efforts? hmmm

    1. Greek One profile image76
      Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      same reason you dress nicely for a job interview...

      but after 10 years of pushing paper, you don't even care if you take a shower that week

      1. Chaotic Chica profile image72
        Chaotic Chicaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I love how you can just cut to the quick of it in the most bare-boned way possible and still make a solid point! big_smile

        1. Greek One profile image76
          Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          i love the way you can use the term 'bare-boned' in a non-sexual manner wink

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        DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        ha ha ha!!!!!! showers are over rated.

    2. Stevennix2001 profile image92
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      because when you meet someone for the first time, you try to put on your best impression for them, as they could easily shoot you down if they don't like for any reason.

      however, once your in a relationship for a while, you both start to notice each other's flaws so to speak to where each lover just feels like they can be themselves without the need to impress often.  they no longer feel the need to impress you, as the two see each all the time now. of course, this is also when communication starts to break down too.  not that i would know from first hand experience.  i've never been in a serious relationship in my life, but this is what i observed and listen to what other people have told me in the past.  trust me, it's a lot.  lollol

  2. Chaotic Chica profile image72
    Chaotic Chicaposted 7 years ago

    This is a very interesting, and valid, question.  As it so happens I was pondering this just last night as I read an article proffesing tips to improve your married love life and one of them was to make love like you were dating.
    I found that ponderable and came to the conclusion that it's most likely because, consciously or sub-consiously, once we have established the commitment, there is no longer an iminent (sp) threat in regards to that person leaving.  That lends itself to a feeling of security (perhaps falsely) that suggests that their partner already likes what they are doing therefore there is no need to expand on that or reinforce it.
    Of course I could be way off base but that's my humble take on it. big_smile

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    sarahsherlockposted 7 years ago

    A chemical reaction in the brain that pushes us to mate with that person, hence trying to impress them. This wears off over time which is why some relationships font get very far.

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      sarahsherlockposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Apologies - I can't type on this iPhone!

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    DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years ago

    because no body can be thier best all the time. eventually you have to fart.

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      sarahsherlockposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Farting is a necessary part of living but do you HAVE to do it in front of somebody?

      1. Greek One profile image76
        Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        if there is no second person reaction, how can i know FOR SURE that I farted?

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          sarahsherlockposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I thought those who model for the national geographic have a good sense of smell? smile

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            DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            no, just good taste in lion cloths

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          DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          if there is no second person reaction, why does it even matter if you farted?

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            sarahsherlockposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            My point exactly!

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              DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              smile

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        DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        depends on if the other person ever leaves...

 
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