One would think people would want to shower a person with love and affection who has committed to them. Why is it more often than not a "new lover" gets our best efforts? hmmm
same reason you dress nicely for a job interview...
but after 10 years of pushing paper, you don't even care if you take a shower that week
I love how you can just cut to the quick of it in the most bare-boned way possible and still make a solid point!
because when you meet someone for the first time, you try to put on your best impression for them, as they could easily shoot you down if they don't like for any reason.
however, once your in a relationship for a while, you both start to notice each other's flaws so to speak to where each lover just feels like they can be themselves without the need to impress often. they no longer feel the need to impress you, as the two see each all the time now. of course, this is also when communication starts to break down too. not that i would know from first hand experience. i've never been in a serious relationship in my life, but this is what i observed and listen to what other people have told me in the past. trust me, it's a lot.
This is a very interesting, and valid, question. As it so happens I was pondering this just last night as I read an article proffesing tips to improve your married love life and one of them was to make love like you were dating.
I found that ponderable and came to the conclusion that it's most likely because, consciously or sub-consiously, once we have established the commitment, there is no longer an iminent (sp) threat in regards to that person leaving. That lends itself to a feeling of security (perhaps falsely) that suggests that their partner already likes what they are doing therefore there is no need to expand on that or reinforce it.
Of course I could be way off base but that's my humble take on it.
A chemical reaction in the brain that pushes us to mate with that person, hence trying to impress them. This wears off over time which is why some relationships font get very far.
because no body can be thier best all the time. eventually you have to fart.
Farting is a necessary part of living but do you HAVE to do it in front of somebody?
if there is no second person reaction, how can i know FOR SURE that I farted?
I thought those who model for the national geographic have a good sense of smell?
if there is no second person reaction, why does it even matter if you farted?
depends on if the other person ever leaves...
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