Do you normally put more effort into pleasing/impressing a "new lover" than you

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  1. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

    Do you normally put more effort into pleasing/impressing a "new lover" than you do with someone

    who has committed to you long term?
    It appears to be very common for people to go the extra mile to "win someone over initially."
    One would think we'd be more incline to shower more sexual affection on someone who has emotionally invested in a relationship with us for the long term. Maybe it's human nature to pamper "new things" (cars, clothes, furniture...) and so on while taking older things for granted. (including people). What do you think that is?

  2. KewlWriter profile image66
    KewlWriterposted 8 years ago

    Because unfortunately we take people already in our life for granted because you automatically think they are always going to be there because you have won them over long back. What we don't realize is that it is a constant process. Where as when we meet someone new they are not exactly in our side of "going to be always there" so we try to do make them feel amazing so that they stay with us.

  3. LIFE IS ABOUT profile image61
    LIFE IS ABOUTposted 8 years ago

    No I've found that people that truely love one another only get closer and put more effort into keeping what they have. A man who truely loves his wife only sees her perfection not her flaws and a woman that truely loves her husband always puts him at the top of her to-do list.

  4. LittleSueII profile image61
    LittleSueIIposted 8 years ago

    I used to, when I was in my 20`s and 30`s and seemed to have to impress everyone from new lovers to new employers. Glad I am in my 50;s. Not so much of a need to have to impress. smile

  5. Druid Dude profile image60
    Druid Dudeposted 7 years ago

    Fellow Scorpio. I give it my best effort, regardless. Probably why I've been married since the dinosaurs roamed. Hmm. A scorpio in a very long term relationship. Is that an oxymoron? Oh, well. Being a contradiction in terms is kinda "my bag". Hope my view helps. Peace


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