So, I've met more then a few men who are in the same situation: "gee met a chick, she was hot, we dated, she ASSURED me she was [on the pill, couldn't get pregnant, insert excuse here]. "I continued to have relations with her KNOWING what a btch she was but a good lay......suddenly, gee, I'm gonna be a dad. Okay....I'LL STAY WITH HER BECAUSE OF THE BABY." First of all.... are you fkn KIDDING ME? YOu can be a father without giving your soul to the devil....aside from that, THEN YOU HAVE MORE CHILDREN WITH THIS PERSON KNOWING WHAT A PIECE OF LOW LEVEL GARBAGE THEY ARE?
Good God, help me to understand the thinking. No matter how good the sex is that you provide, if you are a prick to me, you ARE NOT ALLOWED IN THE BOX. Why do you all not think the same....you can get a good lay any day any time from some slut in the bar who probably will insist on a double condom and is on the pill.....yet, you choose this person who has belittled, battered and abused you over and over and over again.....and STILL procreate with her....W T F ???? So, is your thinking that cuz she can do the splits in bed or give a good bj that she's automatically a good parent. Good lord. Hey start asking questions that step outside the boundaries of WELFARE and SOCIAL SERVICES and see what she says.
Guys, please please please TELL ME WHAT THE F? Why would you purposely bring yet one more child into a sucky situation....why? Because she is such a good lay??? Is that what you are going to share with your kid "well, son, she sucks as a person but hey that bj that night was phenominal and hey one thing led to another and here you are." Is THAT what you are going to share???? What? I hear this time and time again......I'm just not buying the excuses any longer.
BTW: Chicks if you ARE reading this and you are all like "oh ya, I fooled a guy like this and now I'm all financially secure and I have a child I can use from now until the day he/she dies. Let me assure you......YOU SUCK AND YOU SUCK IN A BIG WAY....YOU ARE A PARASITE AND TRASH....NOT MATTER WHAT COLOR YOU ARE.
I am not a man, but you can only protect yourself from getting someone pregnant.
If you trust her to do it..wow!
For The Guys:
Don't you know that many women try to trap a guy this way.
You need to always be responsible and protect yourself
I see no one cares to comment....must have hit a nerve. Hmmmmm... more of you out there than I originally thought. Well, if it's you....write your name on a piece of paper and the word LIFE under it....then write FAIL underneath that. Maybe that'll sum it up for ya.
What about the man who says he wants children gets into the relationship then marries, then says I want no children. That has happened to me. So While I agree, women do this and it is dispicable, I went into this relationship letting him know I wanted children, and he said so does he, now after marriage he has changed his mind.
Actually I think he never wants children and only said he did, to keep me in the relationship.
And that's B.S. as well. There is alot of "false advertising" out there as well. I'm sorry to hear about that. I wish you the best, hon.
Thanks Stimp, I was kinda agreeing with you about the men not protecting themselves then wining about staying with the women who do this.
But then I realized that I am sort of like those men only in reverse. Too stupid to have seen the signs I guess.
You know what....you DIDN'T bring not one but more than one child into a shitty situation, that I know of. YOu were lead to believe that this person wanted children. What were you to think? In my scenerio.....the women say they are all "good" then 2 weeks later "ooooppss...giggle giggle, I guess I'm pregnant"....WAAAAAYYYY different situation than yours. I do happen to know some women that are in the same situation as yourself and its not to be compared to this. I, too, had a husband that promised the world. I just didn't know what the rules were to get "that world". Once I figured the rules, I wasn't playin the game....thus, we are no longer together and HE is now back with the same woman who said she couldn't get knocked up AND the same woman he chose to procreate with and the same woman he told me he didn't even like let alone love.....now they are living happily ever after....that some crazy stuff right there.
Don't blame yourself. It was false advertising and HE should be ashamed of himself for putting you in that situation.
Thanks, I know you are right. No I do not have any children, just to clarify.
Sorry that happened to you. Don't you just wish you had a built in lie detector, I know I wish I did.
Men! Can't live with em, Can't shoot em!
thank god, as that would really hurt if you ladies did shoot us.
Since I am a man, I'm going to butt in with my whole two cents.
The "built-in" lie detector already exists. The question is do you know how to use it? It will require you to be honest with yourself and pay close attention to him. To pay close attention, close enough, so you can detect lies. Listen to everything said and look at every body movement.
That is the best protection you can give yourself.
That goes both ways.
Yes, Cags, and wouldn't it be wonderful if dudes could use this "Lie Detector" they apparently have automatically installed and for which you claim is always on. I think the number of troubled kids out there would diminish substancially, Why? BECAUSE THEY WOULDN'T BE HERE AND BEING RAISED BY TRASH.....
So, now you all know what is stuck in Stimp's craw today....LOL.
nah, your not naive or stupid diane. your husband should've been more honest with you about what he wanted. seriously, i know some guys will often lie to a girl to get her, but that still doesn't make it right. I'm sorry to hear that happened to you though.
Thanks Steve, I agree but whats done is done, now all I can do is deal with it.
But thanks for the understanding, it's nice to hear that people agree with the way I feel about it. Sometimes I get different reactions from people around me. They do no sympathize in the least.
Well im sure your husband is a very lucky man then to have a wife like you that's willing to understand and still love him, even though he did deceive you about his intentions. however, it's like i always say when it comes to love, you have to not only love a person for all their good qualities, but you have to love them for all their flaws too, as that's what true love is.
Yes that is what true love is, I totally agree. And I do, I just have to make peace with the fact that I will never have children, and I know to some people they don't think that is a big deal.
But it is something I am struggling with.
But I will be fine.
I kinda feel bad I think I got this thread off track, Sorry Stimp.
Your husband better thank his lucky gawddam stars you aren't like the tramps who I described in my first post....or he would have kids cuz "ooooopppps, honey, I guess I did forget to take my pill for a couple months.....giggle giggle."
well for one thing... MOST men are stupid and insist that it's okay to go 'commando' because a condom, apparently, takes away the "best" sensation. i.e. selfish and lazy and/or cheap (condoms cost $$$).
specific women... like the risk of 'knowing' they're 'getting away' with something.
How hard is it to get neutered/spayed?
It's a HELL of a lot cheaper to spend a quick couple hundred bucks NOW, then hundreds of thousands of dollars raising an unwanted/neglected/unloved human being.
Most of 'these people' treat their pets better than they treat their kids.
Bunch a lazy, self centered, cheap, thieving, irresponsible, F*CKS.
I worked my *SS off for my kids and I haven't used 'the system' in many many MANY years and I'm quite sure I've paid what little I used back, hundreds of times over.
sickens me to even THINK there are people still around with less evolutionary genes and believe it's okay to "pass it on" to the unwanted/neglected/unloved people they're bringing into the world.
grade F jerks. The whole lot of them.
it's pure stupidity.
I know some women who use babies for money and to cling to a man, which is wrong and for men to procreate and then just leave them, even if they give money, being there for them is the most important thing.
Some men take importance to procreation thing - manhood etc, it is beyond that.
I don't know why some women do these things, taking care of a baby entails a great responsibility, the motive is not good at the very start.
And for men to do these stuff while they are in a relationship is crazy..
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