Not invited to my maid-of-honor's wedding. Ouch!

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  1. Mighty Mom profile image88
    Mighty Momposted 8 years ago

    Some of you have read my hubs about what my sister-in-law did to her mother and her brother (my Hubby).
    That was in the summer of 2009.
    We have not spoken to her since. Her last words to her brother were: If you have anything to say to me, talk to my lawyer.

    Well now she has gotten her sugar daddy to marry her.
    They actually got married on a cruise a few weeks ago.
    Now she is putting the full-court press on my mother-in-law to attend their wedding "reception" right after Thanksgiving. (She may be 89 but she has not forgotten what her daughter did and wants nothing to do with her).

    We, needless to say, are NOT invited.
    In fact,she even accused Hubby of ripping up their mom's invitation (he did not do any such thing).

    In truth, this feels rather surreal and weird. I guess I am still wrapping my head/heart around having the family blown apart by her and Hubby and me finding ourselves on the outside while she lies about us to the rest of the family.

    Do you think crashing the wedding -- and perhaps exercising our Second Amendment rights -- would be appropriate?

    1. the pink umbrella profile image79
      the pink umbrellaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      send her a beautiful gift wrapped box of dog poop, and im sure you can think of something appropriate for the card.

  2. Cagsil profile image80
    Cagsilposted 8 years ago

    What goes around, comes around. I'd do nothing and let it be paid back 3-fold by their own actions. hmm

    1. Shadesbreath profile image82
      Shadesbreathposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yep, this is the exact right answer.

  3. Mighty Mom profile image88
    Mighty Momposted 8 years ago

    Aw, thanks, Cags.
    You're right AND a good friend!
    I know karma takes awhile to work.
    Patience is a virtue.

    1. Cagsil profile image80
      Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Sooner or later, it will bite them. So, that makes it a waiting game. lol

      You're welcome Mighty Mom. smile wink

  4. Catering101 profile image60
    Catering101posted 8 years ago

    Just don't mind her and go on with your lives. There will come a time when she'll think of asking forgiveness and going back to her family when big big problems arise. Hoping that your family feud ends. smile

  5. Megavitamin profile image78
    Megavitaminposted 7 years ago

    I agree that you should do nothing.  I have an aunt who lost her mind and tried tearing our family apart a few years ago.  She ended up being the one sad and alone. 

    If your sister-in-law is just marrying this guy for money, it's not likely to last anyway, so why waste your afternoon attending the reception of a doomed couple?

  6. Patty Inglish, MS profile image93
    Patty Inglish, MSposted 7 years ago

    Agreed - do nothing, because you will not have to do anything. I've seen 3 recent similar cases end with deserved consequences. if that helps.

  7. camlo profile image88
    camloposted 7 years ago

    I tend to agree with the 'do nothing' answers.

    "... Hubby and me finding ourselves on the outside while she lies about us to the rest of the family."

    Hmmm ... do you think the rest of the family will believe her lies? I think I might be a little concerned about this in your situation.

  8. psycheskinner profile image83
    psycheskinnerposted 7 years ago

    Besides, if you have such ill feelings why would you want to be there?  Just to try and ruin an important day for her?  Better off to leave it alone.

    1. camlo profile image88
      camloposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Actually, having read a few things MightyMom has written about her sister-in-law, I wouldn't have gone to the wedding even if she had invited me in Mighty Mom's position.

  9. psycheskinner profile image83
    psycheskinnerposted 7 years ago

    Indeed, but for that sane reason, why resent not being invited when neither would enjoy it?

    1. camlo profile image88
      camloposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes - when people mention your not being invited, you just tell them you wouldn't have gone anyway. When they ask why, you tell them, and that would nullify her lies.

  10. Disturbia profile image60
    Disturbiaposted 7 years ago

    I have to give you credit, I'd have popped your sister-in-law in the nose a long time ago.

  11. Mighty Mom profile image88
    Mighty Momposted 7 years ago

    It's true. We would not have wanted to go anyway.
    It's the the invite to the wedding so much as how flat-out strange it is to be estranged!
    I love the gift-wrapped dog poop idea. We don't have a dog, but have four cats, so finding just the "right" gift should be easy. In fact, I'm gonna go scoop one up right now!

    Thanks, all, for the sane/sage advice.
    Glad to hear of the cases that ended in deserved consequences.

    Re: her lies. What she's done is so beyond outrageous it would be difficult for a reasonable person to believe she (or anyone) could do it (but she did).
    Her public face is also very different from her real personality.
    But I trust that time will expose her for who she is.

  12. Mikeydoes profile image75
    Mikeydoesposted 7 years ago

    Family problems suck, I know first hand. sad 

    Good luck!

 
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