Relationships and insecurities

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    Elevensticksposted 7 years ago

    Why are human beings uncomfortable around one another? Why do some people settle for comfort rather than unconditional live? This is something that people struggle with every day. When people become close to one particular person because they have been intimately involved for a long period of time, it is easy to remain in a relationship that is convenient.

    Loving a person unconditionally and being completely comfortable with someone is a very thin line that is often swept under the rug. As relationships escalate and as time passes by people build relationships that are sometimes steered because of sexual encounters. So, when you realize that the relationship you are in is based off of comfort because the interest in other people becomes apparent, what happens next? It is hard to deviate from the current relationship because habits have been formed and the love is there, unfortunately not in the same way. This situation could possibly be one of the toughest obstacles a relationship could face.

    The curiosity that other people convey becomes intriguing and refreshing and quite frankly, flattering. Reacting to situations like this becomes difficult because you are comfortable at home but the new people that are entering your life are making you feel like you are missing out on something.

    For example, Andrea is a bisexual female who has been dating another female for years. They met in college and have basically been living together since. A
    Angela's girlfriend is not affectionate and rarely shows emotion or sense of stability. Andrea is a beautiful woman, she had a stable job, the perfect look, and both men and woman approach her daily. Andrea meets a guy named Bryan at his workplace. Coincidentally they become friends. They begin a friendship and eventually start to have feelings for one another. Andrea's girlfriend has cheated on her before and Bryan begins to question her relationship.

    Is is possible that the feelings Andrea has towards her girlfriend have faded and it is no longer love? Has Andrea become comfortable with her relationship and now that she has met someone else her current relationship views have been altered? These questions ate very complicated and this happened so often all around us. How do people handle these situations?

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      unfilteredposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      In my experience and speaking from personal turmoil, that people do take each other for granted. This leads to an open heart. In my case I was married to someone who I felt did not treat me right or peek my interests anymore in many ways and when another came along I found myself falling for someone outside my marriage. I was extremely comfortable in my marriage. He paid the bills and he was kind. I could count on him for anything. But I needed more. He would never kiss me or make love to me. I tried just about every thing to get his interests back on me but I failed. After many long tearful nights I finally found my missing half. I just stumbled on him and we became close really fast. Yes the sex was on fire but it has been 2 years and we have married since then and things are starting to simmer down now. But..I feel that I love my current husband more than I loved my first husband and I knew my first husband my whole life. Plus when I met my second husband I had every thing to lose. I lost my house, some of my friends, and my comfort. I put all my chips on LOVE and went for it. Andrea should take a chance. Life only happens once and people need to go with their heart and what their bodies are telling them.