Do you compare your current snookums to your exgirlfriends/boyfriends?

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   pajamazzonposted 14 years ago

   do you ever compare your current lovey dovey to your ex's? rather you keep score on how they're good at and what they're not and compare? we do tell our friends about it right?

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      Suzanne Winfieldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      It's all a big comparison study, right? It's human nature. In order to find the one your want to be with for the rest of your life, you need to have something to compare to. You should ever use it against them. You need to love them for who they are. If it's a deal-breaker, move on.

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   Cardisaposted 14 years ago

   When I was younger I did, but I found in recent years that I just rather forget the past. There must have been a good reason to break up so when I find someone new the don't enter the picture especially if they broke my heart.

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   BobbiRantposted 14 years ago

   Absolutely not and the reason being: The other guys I dated were Not good for me, yet like so many people I kept dating the same personality types.  My current husband is unique, totally opposite any types I formally dated and I've been very happy with him for 13 years now.  Break that cycle, I say!Good question.

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   Disturbiaposted 14 years ago

   I don't have a "current snookums" but I am dating several different gentlemen currently and I find it's best not to compare them, to each other or to anyone from the past.  I try to enjoy each one for what is unique and special about him. Of course, it's impossible not to make comparisons about certain things, but I don't keep any scores and I certainly don't gossip to my friends.

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   iviskeiposted 13 years ago

   Only when he does something that annoys me.

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   ronhiposted 13 years ago

   yah sometimes...i think its a sign i havent gotten over her completely

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   floating mindposted 13 years ago

   How can you NOT compare?  Even if you don't want to, I think it's somewhere in the back of our mind.  A pre-builtin table or chart, that we use to compare all things in life.  Including comparing current and past loves.

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   Emile Rposted 13 years ago

   Yes, at times. Usually favorably, but I never discuss it with anyone if it is unfavorable. There is an old Jewish proverb 'Look for the good, not the evil, in the conduct of members of the family.' I personally think the sentiment extends to significant others, until such time as they cease to be significant. And it should be extended to 'don't share anything unfavorable that would hurt them if they were to overhear.'

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