Real good friends are hard to come by. I woke this morning and start to count those friends that have betrayed me. Have you been in this kind of situation and feeling miserable? If you have I would like to hear from your experience and how you overcome it.
I think people come in your life at one point and they must leave at some point as well. Betrayal is not always what it seems. There are reasons, sometimes beyond our comprehension, to why people act the way they do. I've felt betrayed before, but then I don't let it get me down for I'm sure that at some point some of my actions have been perceived as betrayal although I've never understood why myself.
That is not to say that all actions are excused. A friend who cheats by having an affair with your husband, or boyfriend behind your back is definitely betraying you. But sometimes we just expect too much from the people we know and care about. And if they don't deliver, then we feel betrayed. And that is your problem, not theirs. That's how I see it anyways.
It's actually easy to overcome it .. Just KNOW in your heart of hearts you deserve more, then move on. I would not have said this for many years, No I would have just held on to the stupid feelings of misery and allowed it to keep me down afraid to trust evben again, but we have within us what is called common sense and a back bone, Use that and Loose them!
I was betrayed by a couple of people I classified as friends a few years ago. I never really understood why. What they gained by the action would have been freely given.
But, to answer your question, I left the knife in my back. To remember that there really isn't any such thing as a true friend. Everybody is after something. I still try to do for others as a friend should, but I can't imagine trusting people past a certain point, or classifying anyone friend. They are all acquaintances.
Give specific circumstances nine out of ten will betray one. Have had personal experience to complicated to go into here. However the reasons for it to my experience is that people in general are just not all that bright. So I don't hold it against them. Even I have been guilty of it. However I don't trust them in future either. Best to be independent, and feign dependence for social reasons.
I'd agree with this. Most of the time, people don't mean to betray others. They just don't know any better, or else use bad judgment (based on not knowing any better). I think it's a rare person who truly intends to be "evil" and betray someone. My thing is, if someone didn't intend it, I let it go (even if I know they're too unknowing to have too close in my life). Besides, intended or otherwise, there's no sense letting the original betrayal take more out of you or your life than it already has. It's better to be stronger than that, and "bigger" than any betrayal.
Its really tough when the authorities are fascist like in occupied countries
and they haul you off to jail, and they
give you a choice between you and your family and who they want you to betray, like in Nazi occupied countries. Tough.
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