i think this has been a cliche.. if i would be breaking up with someone.. I would just say "I simply don't love you anymore"..it may sound painful but at least I have been true... it will hurt him but it will make him realize that there is no hope for us.. and being a part is the best option.
lol Eaglekiwi - Brilliant interpretation...he may go on to say, "I don't want to end things, I just need some space" which means "I still want to stash some of the junk I don't have room for at your place. I don't want this other chick to think I'm sloppy or anything."
I've used the "let's stay friends" one, myself, a couple of times. I don't see anything wrong with it. Turns out the amicable, reasonable, civilized, approach doesn't seem to sit well with some people.
Ah! Now I know you meant. Then again, I have to say that when I've used the "can we stay friends" thing, it's pretty much involved stuff like restraining order, closed bank accounts, telling everyone I know to stop taking the guy's calls - that kind of thing. (Oh - and there was that "minor" unpleasantness with having someone think I was crazy for breaking up, and sending the authorities to pick me up for a mental health evaluation. ) If I ever have to break up with anyone again I think I won't use that "can we stay friends" thing. Maybe I'll just leave a note and disappear. (I once didn't understand how/why people just stopped showing up. Now I see the wisdom in that approach. )
(By the way, neither of these people would harm a fly, which is why I can now joke about their extreme response to being broken up with.)
oh yes! I know that one! Also the one where, they say, "I know we planned on spending this Sunday together, but can I take a rain-check? There's something else I really need to do." (right, like they're really saying: "I need to go rent a hotel room and drink champagne with your best friend, the floozy)
'Let's just be friends".......what's that supposed to mean? I've heard it but never experienced it, but I would like to know why a guy breaking a girl's heart in two would be asking her to be just friends.
It's possible to care about someone but not feel the relationship is right or healthy. It's possible to recognize that the relationship (even with someone we care very much about and like) isn't right, and hope to salvage the good part of it (which is the friendship).