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What Do Men Really Want

  1. AEvans profile image81
    AEvansposted 6 years ago

    We always here about what women want. But gentleman what about you? What do you look for in a relationship? How long do you date before you commit? What do you honestly believe keeps a marriage together? If the marriage fails why do you believe it failed?

    These questions are for all types of people, in all types of relationships so please do not be shy. I am trying to understand what really happens in a man's mind.

    1. Cardisa profile image91
      Cardisaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      As a female in a committed relationship, I believe men want stability, faithfulness and sex. They are not overly concerned with the mushy stuff like us women.

      They want to have a woman they can come home to at the end of the day, a woman who will share in their sorrow, dreams and aspirations. They like their woman to be going in the same direction at least where commitment is concerned.

      Men want to take care of their women. Their main goal in life is to provide for their family. They feel "less than" if they are unable to do this.

      1. AnishG profile image60
        AnishGposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Great answer. (As a single man with 2 failed relationships,) I can certainly what you said is spot on.

        However, obviously, not all men are alike. I know quite a few who may be the opposite of your explanation, but I guess since we're generalizing here, it's ok to say most men do think like Cardisa explained - whether they deep down realise it or not.

        AEVans, if you're really curious and want to dig in deeper, I'd recommend reading the book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.

        1. Cardisa profile image91
          Cardisaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          All men are different but there are just some things they are constant. When a man decides that he does need a woman his perspective on life will change.

          There are those men that want to have their cake and eat it, but they have not truly made up their minds about love, life and relationship. Those men need to "grow up" so to speak.

          The man who is ready for a woman will generally be just like described before.

        2. AEvans profile image81
          AEvansposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          I have read that book "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus." I am looking for a fresh viewpoint although the book does somewhat define a man. I am trying to understand there thinking.

          Ex: A elderly lady comes to the door, (Jehovah witness) the woman is kind and compassionate toward her. The woman closes the door and the (boyfriend) says to them, " I could not imagine living with you after observing you for awhile  you allow people to walk on you and allowed them to disrespect your space. They came uninvited, therefore they are not welcome. " The woman replies, " I could not be rude to them." The male replies," I believe I have over stepped my boundaries and I need to go." " The woman is left completely confused." This happened to my best friend so I am trying to make sense of what he was saying to her, because she was so hurt.

      2. cheaptrick profile image73
        cheaptrickposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Hmmm...Do you have any sisters in their early to mid fifties?Like this post Very Much Uh huh...

  2. ajayshah2005 profile image55
    ajayshah2005posted 6 years ago

    @AEvans, nice forum,i will be soon back replying in detail the topic!

    1. AEvans profile image81
      AEvansposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I am looking forward to it. smile

  3. PrettyPanther profile image82
    PrettyPantherposted 6 years ago

    Sex, worship, sex, appreciation, sex, love.

    Men, am I right?  LOL  big_smile

    1. Cardisa profile image91
      Cardisaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I beg to disagree to a degree. The real man who is ready fro commitment, which I assume what AEvans is asking, is more concerned about paying the bills and providing for his family. He will work himself to a frazzle when he loves his woman. He pines away whenever he cannot. Worship is the last thing on his mind but he will always want to be appreciated with sex.

      1. PrettyPanther profile image82
        PrettyPantherposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        I should clarify.  My statement was not meant as a diss toward men.  On the contrary, I adore men.  I love that they want to take care of us, but I believe that the more appreciation and sex/worship/love they get, the more they want to continue to take care of us.  We cannot and should not take men for granted.

  4. habee profile image94
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    I got this one. Men want a soft ___, a full belly, cold beer, a comfy chair, a TV, a trustworthy partner, and peace in their relationship. They also want a spouse they can count on for emotional support.

    Men aren't as complicated as women, and neither are their needs.

  5. cheaptrick profile image73
    cheaptrickposted 6 years ago

    I'd like to offer an opinion from the point of view of a man who's grown up without the"Mommy nurtured me"complex,surrounded by sister's close to his age,and has seen women as equals all his life.
    It really is a question,male or female,of whether the person is Id[the child] driven without the influence of the Ego[adult] to mitigate the"Me Me Me"desires of the Id.Super Ego must be the nurturing Parent of each of us,male and female,so as to smooth out the personality.All works together in a balanced life when the Appropriate"Child,Adult,or Nurturing parent"is in control.imho

    1. AEvans profile image81
      AEvansposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I like your opinion. smile

  6. thelyricwriter profile image92
    thelyricwriterposted 6 years ago

    I believe it is sports, comfortable living, cooked meals, and sex.

    1. Disappearinghead profile image78
      Disappearingheadposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Well I guess one out four ain't bad. smile

  7. gryphin423 profile image70
    gryphin423posted 6 years ago

    I've asked my husband these questions and it is very simple, at least for him. For him, it's equality. He doesn't want a submissive person, we are partners in everything. The success of our relationship is due to honesty, trust and complete communication. We both work and equally contribute to the household. I do not believe in being "provided" for and that is not something he neither wants or believes in.
    No drama, good food, fun and lots of lovin'. We both hate sports so we can leave that out.
    We share the same political and religious views which also helps with the "no drama" part.

    How long to date before marrying is such an individual thing it's hard to say. Although as much as we thought we knew each other (we dated a year) there were still some speed bumps after the "I do" was shared.