Do you think it's ok to keep noticing another woman/men after you are in a commi

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  1. michellebanjoman profile image61
    michellebanjomanposted 12 years ago

    Do you think it's ok to keep noticing another woman/men after you are in a committed relationship?

  2. profile image48
    davidmurphyposted 12 years ago

    No... It is not OK, you ought to be sincere with your love ones tongue

  3. trafford profile image40
    traffordposted 12 years ago

    That's human nature - mostly all men are same tongue want every other girl - no matter they already have it.

  4. giwrgos12 profile image60
    giwrgos12posted 12 years ago

    If you are in relationship so its better for you. Don't try to ditch your current partner for the reason that you must be keep in mind this happens also may be with you.

  5. Faeriephenomenon profile image56
    Faeriephenomenonposted 12 years ago

    If you see someone attractive of course you are going to notice. It's harmless human nature. Now if you try talking to that attractive person thats not ok and a whole other topic all together.

  6. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 12 years ago

    there is no harm in noticing someone else. the harm comes when your behavior becomes rude, blatant or when you start comparing someone else to the one your with. checking out an attractive person is natural, being ignorant about it is wrong.

  7. lostdogrwd profile image60
    lostdogrwdposted 12 years ago

    how can you not, attraction is attraction and if something caught you eye you will look weather is a woman, car, dog, or a kite. you will look, I know to women that once you married you feel that you husband shouldn't look at other woman but news flash. there are over 3 and a half billion woman in this world and I will say he will notices. worried if he TRY TO TALK TO OTHER WOMAN. and get them pantie, get them panties

  8. Tyrillis profile image40
    Tyrillisposted 12 years ago

    yeah i think it's okay. at the end of the day you're just appreciating beauty and the human form.

  9. MickS profile image60
    MickSposted 12 years ago

    Yes, it's perfectly normal behaviour, for men and females.

  10. Kotori profile image68
    Kotoriposted 12 years ago

    Noticing is one thing; doing something about it is another.  But for heaven's sake, don't stand there gawking in front of your SO!

  11. wingedcentaur profile image67
    wingedcentaurposted 12 years ago

    Can one really help "noticing" other men/women after being in a committed relationship? You may be too young to remember this, michellebanjoman, but many moons ago one Jimmy Carter ran for president in the 1970s. There was something of a mini scandal concerning an interview he gave to Playboy Magazine (which was his first mistake if you ask me) in which he said he had been guilty of the "sin" of lusting after women other than his wife "in his heart." Oh well, it blew over and this literal Sunday school teacher and peanut farmer was elected....

    Anyway let's consider the picture you've provided here, michellebanjoman. Let's suppose he's married. The sight of that young woman's body might simply inspire him sexually in a way that accrues most powerfully to his wife's benefit. This, of course, is not and should not be the ONLY way a man gets, shall we say, inspired sexually for his partner -- but it is a way.

    This should not be a problem for his wife unless this man (in the picture) has proven to be untrustworthy. If such is not the case, there really should be no problem in my opinion. Suppose he didn't "notice" other women. Might this not also be a problem?

    Suppose he never "noticed" other women. This would actually not be good news for his wife because such a man (due to some chemical imbalance in the brain or something) is not going to be very interested in sex; if his wife is interested in sex, then his failure to "notice" other women is a problem -- because, (and I know I don't have to tell you this) that man (and please forgive me) is not just admiring that young woman's.... body, let's say, the way one admires a rose. The imagination comes into play.......

    I'll leave it there. Thank you for a challenging question.

    Good Day.

  12. christiansister profile image61
    christiansisterposted 12 years ago

    First of all what do you mean by noticing? Did you just glance at them and saw that they were attractive and go about what you were doing......or did you recede into your grey matter and think lustful thoughts about that person... or are you staring....there are many different interpretations that could apply to noticing. I am a woman and when I see another person who is attractive man or woman I think "she is very pretty" or "he is nice looking." But, that is the end of it. I dont (...or rephase... Have not yet) Go into a mental sexual act or even have any sexual thoughts attached. It is possible to notice that someone looks nice and it doesnt have anything to do with sex.

  13. Jay Louidor profile image60
    Jay Louidorposted 12 years ago

    Just because your in a committed relationship doesn't mean your blind. Of course you'll see other people you find attractive. As long as you don't act on your impulse it should be fine.

  14. terced ojos profile image60
    terced ojosposted 12 years ago

    My wife used to ride me about looking at other women all the time.

    She swore that I looked at other women all the time while I was with her.

    I had way too much practice being in relationships to ever let my wife see me looking at another woman much less in her presence.

    I finally made her play the honesty card. I asked her a very simple question. Do you ever look at other men and find them attractive?

    There was a discernable pause; a recognition in her face and body language and then a very comfortable "yes."

    Thereafter my wife never brought up the subject again.

  15. IntuitiveMind profile image61
    IntuitiveMindposted 11 years ago

    Noticing in and of itself is not an issue.  What is an issue is the jealousy and self esteem issues that go with a partner noticing someone else. Relationships are delicate and need nurturing.  If someone feels like they're not good enough, it will probably cause problems. People watching can be interesting, but lusting after someone else when you're in a relationship isn't a good idea.

  16. profile image49
    Kia-Ulrikeposted 10 years ago

    Considering we are all One, theoretically it doesn't matter, which part of "ourselves" we look at. But since everything is energy, wherever our attention falls, gets enlivened. So when a man's attention goes to another woman for sexual fulfillment, the woman in the love relationship misses out. That, in turn, hurts the woman, weakens the bond, and over time the relationship will suffer. This applies especially to more conscious love relationships. It therefore feels like when in a committed relationship, to keep the integrity of it and to deepen the love, it is wise to have intimacy focused where it belongs, within the relationship.


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