Man stabbed by female roomate - refuses to press charges

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   ptosisposted 13 years ago

   My buddy Mark, lives in Honolulu, I live in Arizona. I get a call from him while he is at Queen's hospital. He tells me that he almost died because that bitch he lives with stabbed him and missed his heart by less than an inch. She thrusted upwards the knife from underneath his lowest rib. That's intent to kill. She got arrested.
   
   Well today he calls from home. I had to tell him " I'll talk to you later" Why? Because that dumb son-of-a-bitch is home and sitting next to him is the bitch (released from jail), who stabbed him!
   
   WTF!!!
   
   He goes into a self-deluded fantasy about how he 'tripped and fell" and that it was his fault...
   
   WTF?!?!?!
   
   Please - some man out there - who has advice - please share so I can forward to him on his facebook....Damn!  For months he's been saying he's going to leave and go back to the mainland. And now this.
   
   I well aware that he is trapped by addiction to drugs. The cops wrote him off and so will I if he doesn't grow a set and help himself out of this stupid situation.

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   WD Curry 111posted 13 years ago

   Something isn't right about the story. He doesn't have to press charges, the state will.  Did he go to the bond hearing and tell a new version? They usually don't care if you change your story anymore . . . "Zero Tolerance".
   
   Is he out there strung out on Crank? Sounds like a crank story. Crank and Junk? Good luck with that.

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      Disturbiaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I don't know what the laws are like in Hawaii, but where I live, it wouldn't matter if he wanted to press charges or not, once the police were called, it would be a done deal.  I think there's more to this story that we don't know.

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   SanXuaryposted 13 years ago

   Maybe he had it coming and decided he needed to punish himself for it. Maybe he is just one of these guys so desperate for something he is willing to kill himself for it. Maybe he is just trapped. I put up with a horrible person for several years just so I could see my son. It got me a few years until she found a new victim and she of course saw it as a stab me for free card at that point. Then I gave up everything including my son just to spare my life from her constant attacks. If my son was only a hostage to her cruelty in order to punish me. I saw there was nothing left to gain at that point. I know plenty of people who just keep going back no matter how many times they get destroyed. I always tell them to give them selves a chance to be happy.

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      Disturbiaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      WOW!

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   psycheskinnerposted 13 years ago

   With a second hand hearsay account of some other person, we have no idea if he was a drunk drama king would got a boo boo, or was almost murdered but never called the cops.  So, hard to have an opinion.

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   ptosisposted 13 years ago

   yeah - it is a crack/meth story - and maybe Mark is a drama king but when he first called me from Queen's he said that it was his lower left quadrant and that it was very close to his heart.
   
   I am not going to listen to his boo-hoo stories no more.  For months he's been saying to me that he'll move to the lower 48. Quite frankly, I don't want him near me because he is a tweaker. I think he stays in Hawaii because it is the meth capital of the world and he is willing to give up everything for an easy score.
   
   BTW, I'm sure if it was the other way around that he would still be in jail. I think they released her because he is a male. But also for another reason: they are both haoles, HPD is the worst police force I have ever come across. The prejudice is awful - but the local sport their bigotry as 'local style'
   
   And is is local style, all you have to do is change the words
   Pake, (Chinese) = Jewish {as in being cheap}
   Portagee, (Portuguese) = Polish {as in being stupid or loud mouth jerk}
   
   trust me - I don't miss Honolulu AT ALL
   
   Haole means white and there is a "Hit a Haole Day" in high school where all folks who appear white skip school. Change the words and it is no different that deep south cracker prejudice against people of color.
   
   
   

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   kkuma01posted 13 years ago

   Ptosis there is one thing you CAN do. Pray for him. At this point he is making a decsions to put his life in danger in more way than one. Just pray for him. I have no idea what went on there and neither do you. Pray for him.

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   RCAugustposted 13 years ago

   Of course...
   
   the WOMAN would press charges against HIM if HE looked at her the wrong way.  No, he didn't stab her or shoot her or beat her.  No, he didn't call her names or threaten her.  No, he didn't even start a fight with her.  Nope, he did nothing to her but LOOK AT HER THE WRONG WAY.
   
   Of course, she would trump up all kinds of charges against him, claiming he threatened her life with whatever was available in the house, or that he insulted her, or that he hurt her somehow.
   
   Let the WOMAN pull a "Lorena Bobbitt" on the man, and SHE is the VICTIM.
   
   No wonder most women couldn't pull a date out of a fruit basket.
   
   
   
   
   Sincerely,
   
   
   Richard C. August

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   I can't say I'm shocked. In fact I don't believe most men file charges is a woman attacks them. Our society tends wink or laugh when a woman strikes out in anger at a man. When Lorenna Bobbit cut her husband's penis off there were jokes for months. Had he cut off one of body parts there would not have been nearly as many jokes.
   One of the reasons men don't file charges is because they don't think it's manly to do so. According to some recent statistics a large number of domestic violence cases against men began with the woman hitting or slapping him first. We tend to say a man should never hit a woman. I for one believe no one should be hitting anyone. However I do believe you have the right to defend yourself. As my mother taught us growing up....If someone hits you, hit them back!
   There is no way I'd be making up with someone who stabbed me!

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      HattieMattieMaeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Usually it is a domestic violence cycle that goes around in a circle. Whether it is a man or a woman the other apologizes says they won't do it again, and they go through the honeymoon stage. Than the abuse starts all over.
      http://www.domesticviolenceroundtable.o … cycle.html
      fortunately there is nothing you can do to help your friend. Most of the time they won't listen even if you do give them advice. You can read the link I gave you, as well as many others on domestic violence. There are many books out there. He can get a personal protection order, or restraining order, but of course he has to want to get out of the relationship. Otherwise he probably will end up dead, because he chose not to get out of the situation.

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   HattieMattieMaeposted 13 years ago

   Sounds like he also has addiction problems on top of it, which you can't help there either less he decides to help himself.

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