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how can god give you something and then take it away again

  1. profile image47
    bexydebsposted 8 years ago

    how can god give you something and then take it away again

    my husband left me for my so called best friend, and i pray so hard to god to bring my husband back home to me and give our married another go, which i thank the lord for he answer my prays, but then the lord brought my husband back home to me, but he also let my husband carry on seeing the other woman.......WHY DOSE GOD HATE ME SO MUCH

  2. areyoukiddingme profile image68
    areyoukiddingmeposted 8 years ago

    You know alot of my old blogs on Yahoo was about the same thing as yours, my husband did the same thing and it took me 2 years to stop wondering why me?  Then one day, I was at work and a tv was on in a patients room and it was a minister telling a story, he said "Why can't you just accept that he has left you and move on", I stopped dead in my tracks and stared at the tv, then the minister said, "Him leaving you was not a bad thing, it was not to ruin your life, him leaving you was a gift from God, when someone leaves your life, it is a gift"  Well I went back to work but I still hear this man's voice in my head on bad days saying it was a gift, and when I look back now, even though I don't have my husband to love me anymore and he left me for someone else, I think how peaceful it is with him gone, and how happy the kids are without the fighting.  It was a gift, and I still love him, I still miss him, it will literally take years for me to forget what happened but I am taking my gift from God, it happened for a reason.  Maybe there is something out there better for you, and maybe you have a different path in life, I will move my blogs over from yahoo this weekend and you can read them, I know exactly how your feel!  Good luck! Deb

  3. thesecondadvent profile image60
    thesecondadventposted 8 years ago

    My Dear Sweet Friends,

    Our heart goeth out unto thee, but so to doth it go out unto all the world, for thy circumstance is no different than that of many.

    Ye accredit much too much unto God.  God hast given all that He shall ever give unto any when He gave His creation, His creatures, man, a part of Himself.  Thus, as God is perfect, so too is His creatures, mankind. 

    God is not a giving and taking God.  He gave once, and once only, and that was at the time of creation.  And, He shall never take back.  The problem is that we feel apart and separate from God, which is a distinct impossibility.  But, we entertain a sense of separation, and thus feel that God doth this or God doth that.  It is not God, but us!

    Thy husband returned unto thee, not because of God, but because of the things that each of ye three didst to make it happen.  And, because ye two were never united in God in the first place; were never made one by the unity of God, for what God hast joined together no man canst separate, separation through the lust of the body is always probable.

    Thy husband, and thy self as well, still seek the things of the world, the things that man canst give, in opposition unto that which God hast already given, peace and rest in him. 

    So, in conclusion, doeth not be upset with God, nor with thy husband, and neither be upset with thyself, for we all art the temple of the Living God.  And, as ye seek God within thine own self first, finding Him, all these problems shall become some much chaff which the wind driveth away.

  4. Dr. Marie profile image60
    Dr. Marieposted 8 years ago

    God doesn't hate you!
    God is not responsible for your husband's behavior. Your husband is. The only control you have in this situation is that you can control your own behavior. Don't just sit around wringing your hands and waiting for God to fix your situation. You fix it. God helps those who help themselves. Dump the jerk! Yes, it will hurt. But you can have a life with someone who really loves you and won't cheat on you. You deserve it! Everyone does! Good Luck.

    Just sign me,
    Been there done that!

  5. Silver Poet profile image77
    Silver Poetposted 8 years ago

    God gave us free will, and your husband has chosen to use it unwisely.  My condolences to you for what you've had to endure.

    It's time to accept that he made his choice and that he must live with the consequences.  Leave him, and never look back.

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    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    But who said "God" gave you your husband in the first place.  Maybe "God" was trying to show you that he was no good, so he brought him back into your life because that was what you wanted, but in all essence "God" was trying to show you that he was what you did NOT need!  Read between the lines hun............just because we want it and ask "God" for it doesn't mean it is what we need or deserve!  You should have realized that he was no good when he came back and disrespected you by continuing to being with another woman........come on he has LoSer written all over him.  Your "God" wants you to move on and stop running after mess

    Vonda G. Nelson

  7. Marla Turner profile image74
    Marla Turnerposted 7 years ago

    Sounds like you are not learning the lesson God wants you to learn.  Love of the Self is the foundation for all love.  I would say he wants you to learn to love yourself.  Until then, you will live with a man who will continue to make his choices regardless of how hard you pray.  You can not change another person. The only thing you can change are your choices. And right now you are choosing to be with someone who will never be faithful to you.

  8. angela kekahu profile image61
    angela kekahuposted 7 years ago

    I know it is hard to do, but you must let go and move on. God will always give you something better. As long as you keep holding on you will never see the future. Let go and let God. I know you deserve better than that. Maybe God was protecting you from an STD or something he could have brought back to you. Praise God you are safe and free from that pain he was bringing home to you. Best wishes to you.

  9. MerryWhitney profile image58
    MerryWhitneyposted 7 years ago

    I'm not sure if you make a hub about a answer to one of these questions if they connect them, but here is my answer to your question, the link should have the hub that I wrote about the situation.


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    saisarannagaposted 6 years ago

    It is to reveal you the impermanence of created things of the world. Whatever is created is subject to destruction if not today but at  a later date. This is applicable to all things that were created. We have witnessed continents vanished due to natural calamities. What was once a composite land is now divided into several continents due to Oceans. Even great cities, Empires and great civilizations are no more now barring a few archaeological artifacts. Many animal species are seen only as skeletons in the museum. Until  man understand the changes, he can not gain wisdom.

  11. andrew savage profile image60
    andrew savageposted 5 years ago

    While it does hurt to see your problem with god and your husband, perhaps the problem is not with your relationship with your God so much as it is a problem with your husband's relationship to his lord.

    God is not able to give anyone any feeling or material item that they do not already have. Regardless of your skin tone, complexion, pant size, dress size, or even the way you voted yesterday, you are a beautiful part of the grand tapestry of all creation awaiting to be unveiled before you. All that you have ever been blessed with in this life is because of the creative spark that emanated from divine creation that now resides within your body, as such sparks of the spirit reside in all whom affirm to their faith in the one named "I Am."

    As I am not your doctor, I can only recommend couples couseling for you and your husband, time to reflect and take inventory of what happened in your relation with your husband and your lord, while possibly engaging in some sort of physical-psyche-spiritual activity such as yoga or the outdoors.

  12. Darrell Roberts profile image71
    Darrell Robertsposted 4 years ago

    God appears to always to always be testing us in some form or fashion.  Only God knows why certain things are a certain way, and it can be painful when we do not understand or the situation puts us in emotional distress.  I do not think that means God hates you, I just think that there is a lesson to learn and an opportunity to find the best in an unfavorable situation.

    I have had a lot of practice at finding the "light at the end of the tunnel" and what I have learned is that the most important relationship that a spiritual person could have is that relation ship with the creator because it is one based on eternal love. 

    I think you could find a better person and move on with you your life. 

    Best wishes smile

  13. Kiss andTales profile image80
    Kiss andTalesposted 9 months ago

    I am sorry for your mental pain and anguish.
    And I will say you did do the right thing in that you petitioned the Heavenly Father in prayer.
    He answered you according to this scripture.
    1Co 7:15 But if the unbelieving one chooses to depart, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not bound under such circumstances, but God has called you to peace.
    You did not accept his answer at first.
    When he left you , you were not bond to the marriege legally or scripturly.
    The problem is did you mean what you ask for.
    When he returned he still was a leapored with the same spots not willing to change.
    That was not Gods choice to recieve him back it was yours.
    And if you sleep with your mate again after he left you , you are bond to the marriage again until adulty is proven again or he leaves you.
    Some people never get the proof until he calls you to peace.
    It really is when you have to worry about dreaded diseases ,finances being spent on total strangers that belongs to you, Selfishness because they can not love two , they will love one and hate the other as written.
    How does he treat you will be evident which one you are. As written

    Lu 16:13 No servant can be a slave to two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stick to the one and despise the other. You cannot be slaves to God and to Riches.”

    This is a mournful it uses money in the sentence. But look deeper you can not have two masters you will love one and hate the other.
    Good points to think about.