How do you decide when "enough is enough" in any situation?

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  1. MazioCreate profile image71
    MazioCreateposted 7 years ago

    How do you decide when "enough is enough" in any situation?

  2. ibbarkingmad profile image80
    ibbarkingmadposted 7 years ago

    That is the thing. That is really up to you. I have been in a friendship where the friend constantly degraded me and insulted my wife regularly in private and to her face. Every once and a while I would stand up to him, but for the most part I was passive and let him and his wife push us around emotionally. What confused the issue is that they were helpful in other ways and were actually good friends if you put aside the stuff I wrote before.
    Push come to shove, what eventually happened was I had enough with the emotional manipulation and I said get out. There is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. I have always tried to see both sides of the coin, but when the other side of the coin refuses to compromise and meet in the middle despite every chance you give it you have to make a decision to say "No more. If you can't talk in a civil manner please leave my home."
    Just to clarify, just because you have had enough does not justify being rude, hateful or vengeful. You are better than that and being any of those things just sinks you down to the level of that person or people. Stand up for yourself and hold your boundaries, but don't burn bridges. I don't see that friend and I reconciling because of what he has done and the money he stole from me doesn't help, but when people ask what happened, I am tactful but honest. I don't lie about the issue, but I do make sure there is no anger or hostility in my voice since all that does is make me look a fool.

    On the other hand, if you are talking about saying enough is enough about life style for example, I have come to the same point about my health recently. Again, that is up to you. When you make any choice like this you must be 100%. Just be sure you are smart in any choice you make with people or life style.

  3. Kaddam profile image61
    Kaddamposted 7 years ago

    wow. Simply it is when it controls your entire life and you don't make the decisions anymore. You are stressed out and can't relax because you're so uncomfortable, that should be the final straw. If you can't tolerate even knowing it persists-that is  when you say "enough is enough" and conclude what actions shall be taken.

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    ExoticHippieQueenposted 7 years ago

    When the cost to you, whether it be on an emotional or physical level, becomes so great that you no longer are willing or possibly even capable of paying the price.........then it is out of your hands.  You can't play the "game", whatever it is, anymore.

  5. Dee aka Nonna profile image77
    Dee aka Nonnaposted 7 years ago

    When I've had enough, not when someone tells me it's enough, but when I've had enough, then it is enough.

  6. danielleantosz profile image69
    danielleantoszposted 7 years ago

    it very much depend upon the situation.  In relationships, I like to make sure I have done everything possible to make it work so that I don't have any what if's when it is over.  In other aspects, I think when the bad out weighs the good.

  7. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 7 years ago

    One thing I always stick with is not to let anyone gets their advantages based on my kindness to help. There is a limit where I can provide all the help but then if it goes beyond the set point, I will then need to put a stop.

    Gauge yourself what is the limit set point where you allow. At least you will be comforted to know that you have done enough and it is beyond what you can do. So, in that kind of situation, it will be enough.

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    Lynn S. Murphyposted 7 years ago

    The only thing I can tell you is that when You know/feel that you've done everything you can. And nothing changes. You will have had enough.

  9. C-Bless profile image61
    C-Blessposted 7 years ago

    When you're losing sleep over it or you're too tense to eat - not good/enough is enough.  If it's at the front of your mind constantly and with you every waking moment, then it's gone past enough is enough.

  10. Darrell Roberts profile image76
    Darrell Robertsposted 7 years ago

    When I see the situation does not have a high probanility of improving.  If I continue to see the same pattern to frequently, and i do not like it, it is time to leave.

 
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