When do sacrifices and compromises become being used and taken advantage of?

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  1. Sonia Perozzi profile image79
    Sonia Perozziposted 6 years ago

    When do sacrifices and compromises become being used and taken advantage of?

  2. ryancarter profile image59
    ryancarterposted 6 years ago

    When you let them, if you know what I mean... If you never let your right hand know what your left hand is doing, then you probably won't ever allow dark thoughts to enter into it.  Keep a good light to your services, and turn the other cheek to those who would take advantage.

    Just remember, the greatest service you can give a freeloader is to make them stand on their own.

  3. Larry Fields profile image79
    Larry Fieldsposted 6 years ago

    Excellent question. At some point, a person who's in the situation that you describe should start formulating an ultimatum, and an appropriate exit strategy; if being polite, reasonable and respectful is taken as a sign of weakness.

    The same person may benefit from reading the book, Women Who Love too Much. I think that it was written during the 1980s, and it may be in the public library. Although I have not read it, I did purchase a copy for my sister-in-law when her marriage was falling apart.

  4. athena2011 profile image54
    athena2011posted 6 years ago

    I guess that may be different for each person. Basically it is when you are not getting anything back in return in the relationship. There are some people who are givers and there are definitely some who are takers.

    So it's up to the person to decide when they are feeling used and taken advantage of and either try to work it out by communicating with the other person or planning an exit strategy from the relationship if they feel it is useless to try to get a balance in the relationship.

  5. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    When you make it accessible to the wrong people.  Start setting the same standards for what you have to offer like whatever materials you own and then being taken advantage of will no longer have to longer exist in your world.  People will think twice before trying to use you or disrespect you.  Well this can only happen if you actually believe there is worth in what you are offering

  6. Marturion profile image60
    Marturionposted 6 years ago

    This is far from a simple question, and i doubt I could give a thorough answer without writing a book, or two.  I guess, though, a lot of it boils down to that point when your sacrifices and compromises cease to be a matter of decision, and more a matter of practice.  I know that there have been times in my life when I have allowed myself to be taken advantage of by friends and loved ones.  When I decided that I had had enough, I announced that I would no longer allow it to happen.  Sometimes, those who had been taking advantage adjusted their behavior, because they never thought about how they were being selfish.  Other times... well, it got messy, and I'll leave it at that. 
      On the flipside, I can admit that I have been guilty of taking advantage, myself.  It's part of human nature, and we can't deny that.  I am proud of the fact that, once it was pointed out to me, I stopped my behavior.
       I would advise that, rather than try and analyze where the line actually is, go with your gut.  If you feel that you aren't appreciated, or if you are being used, point it out to the offender.  If they are doing it without truly realizing it, you will be amazed at how quickly they are capable of turning behavior around.  If not, it may be time to cut ties and free yourself from that situation.

  7. YvetteParker profile image74
    YvetteParkerposted 6 years ago

    Sacrifices and compromises are misused and taken advantage of when either of the parties:
    (1) takes them for granted,
    (2) do not recognize the compromises and sacrifices 
    (3) do(es) not reciprocate the same
    (4) may have lost interest

    In the case of #2, it happens unknowingly because the needs and expectations of the individuals are very different. One party could be compromising and sacrificing things that are important and relevant to them; while the other may consider those things irrelevant and therefore they will go unnoticed.

  8. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    It depends on the matter that requires my sacrifices.

    As long as it does not affect any affliction in harms but that can make people happy then I am willing to compromise.

    Sometimes it may seems that being taken advantage is a bad thing but to me, as long as it is not harmful to anyone but bringing joys then it will be okay.

  9. Faceless39 profile image94
    Faceless39posted 6 years ago

    I agree with Ryancarter to some extent; both when you let them, and also when you start to think in this manner ("it's too much.")  I believe that you shouldn't do something if you don't truly WANT to do it.  If you want to do it, you will never feel taken advantage of.

  10. onegoodwoman profile image75
    onegoodwomanposted 6 years ago

    An easy question........a terrible answer..............

    When the other party stops paying respect.

    It is YOU...........who must draw the line, being considerate or being abused.

    It is YOU.

  11. grinnin1 profile image80
    grinnin1posted 6 years ago

    I think when you lose yourself in the process of the sacrifice and compromise. And sometimes that's hard to recognize and define. When the sacrifice and compromise are not coming from a place of healthy love anymore, it can become debilitating. When you begin suffering for the sacrifice and /or compromise because you want to protect yourself from something,(an abusive relationship)  that is not a good place. If you are sacrificing and compromising and growing from that sacrifice and compromise(Mother Teresa) then it can be a beautiful thing.

  12. EyesStraightAhead profile image82
    EyesStraightAheadposted 6 years ago

    I feel they become being used and taken advantage of when the same people are constantly recipients and you don't feel led to pour out all of yourself to them all of the time. When doing so starts to take a toll on you, it is time to stop allowing yourself to be walked on.


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