Are you taken for granted so frequently that you now turn a blind eye to it?
I've had this problem. But I don't allow it any more. I did it in business, and ended up with people getting rich with my help, then not paying what they owed. Now, in business, I set up clear agreements. And, in personal life, I share only with those who offer deep gratitude and appreciation. I don't need this for my ego - I pass all appreciation on to the Divine. But if people can't be grateful and appreciative, then I don't see how our relationships can be in balance.
Well, I don't like to think I'm being taken advantage of - I'd like to think that who ever I do help they really do appreciate it. But, as a Mom - most Mom's have had the "feeling of being taken advantage of" but, we know our families love us. Other people, (I'd like to think) don't intentionally do it - it may just happen. But, if anyone does do it to me and I don't see them appreciate it, I know my Father in Heaven will reward me greatly for my efforts. So, I don't worry about it.
So frequently that It has mummified, petrified me to the point of silence... only for those who have taken me for granted to wonder why I have been so quiet when I am anything but a quiet person... Again, only the guilty are blinded to the point of being unable to see their own guilt... Ignorance isn't always bliss.
I have learned to appreciate and care for myself instead of waiting for others to do it. I do nice things for myself so I feel emotionally nourished. So when I do something kind for someone else, I can do it freely without expecting anything in return, even appreciation or a thank you. Of course, in a close relationship of any kind there should be mutual apprecation in order for the relationship to be maintained or to progress. That is another way of caring for oneself. In your close, intimate relationships, if there is not give and take, but only take, it is time to set some boundaries and expectations. If the person doesn't step up, the relationship can't progress. But again, this cannot be a quid pro quo, so that you are always keeping score. My initial statement still stands, to care for oneself and be generous with others, but when you feel taken for granted it really is time to take a closer look at what is going on.
In truth we are all on a path of waking up.... and if being walked on and taken for granted wakes us up, then are we ever really taken for granted? Not really, we are taking the steps required to help us face ourselves head on. I mean face our true self.
Someone asked - "What would you do if you were invisible for one day?"
I replied " In truth -- to many of us are already invisible..... we cower from our own greatness and hide from what we could become if we would only step out of our quiet shell and meet ourselves, our true potential, and make that which is found within, fully known!"
Oh yes I have been taken for granted many times. I have come to the conclusion that the reasoning behind it is, they know I'm not going anywhere. I am extremely loyal and therefore get stepped on a lot. I allow it because once I care for someone I am a true friend for them. They know they can use me, forget about me for a while and disrespect me in many different ways and I will still be there when they’re ready to come back. I think that they genuinely care about me also; they just know that I am like their little candle in a storm so to speak. I can't say that I have turned a blind eye to it though because I realize it every time it happens. It hurts and I wish I could stop being so nice all of the time. Now there are times when I have been treated like I am below them and that I will not tolerate. I am not naive I'm just a good hearted person.
Yes, I often do turn a blind eye to it. But, there's just so much one can take. And sometimes, you may just have to take yourself out of some situations to avoid being taken advantage of.
It's like saying 'enough' I'm not going to take it any longer!
Actually no. If I were taken for granted I would feel I somehow allowed it. I don't think someone can take advantage of me unless I give signals that whatever comes up, I will not say no.
I made the error in judgement that placed me in a relationship with a much older woman. There is little thanks for anything I do or have done. Even though she has five children, all mostly grown except for one thirty something son that wont grow up and go away, I embraced a life with her and suffered through twenty years worth of disrespect and outright BS! All but the eldest has stolen from me, lied about me and had friends who also stole from me and even on one occasion stole my identity. The things I have stood and taken would make most men explode in a murderous rage. How do I know that? When men hear about the things I have put up with and even now still do, they assure me they would have never put up with what i have. They cannot comprehend why I am still around and what the hell the point was. I admit I forget what the point was, and am now caught in an trap that only a windfall could free me from. Taken for granted? I wrote the book.
Barnsey, I put up with a lot of the same kinds of things for eight years. I think one of the underlying reasons is the more you "invest" the more determined you are to stick around for the payoff that never comes. As Neil says, we wake up. Eventually
I believe everyone has their breaking point people can only take being used for so long.
Sometimes I feel that I am taken for granted but overlook the issue and continue living my life happily
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